support thread for people who find it hard as LPs...

[simpson]

just wondering if this has been done before...

I have 2 Dcs (2 & 5) and am bringing them up by myself (H allowed to have phone contact only due to his fuck wittery {I love that phrase })

Sometimes its soooo hard doing it by myself

DS had parents evening today and although his comments from teachers were fab most all of the other parents were couples.

Sometimes it hits me that I have to do everything myself

How much is the internet dating per month??

Gardener is here and still looks rather yummy

He will not finish all the work today so will be back tomorrow yay!!

Argh Simpson..Having second thoughts' re the dating business.. WTF is the point of some bloke 'winking' at you..half of them live miles away, haven't got kids, are too short etc etc.. If a bloke i didn't know 'winked' at me in RL i'd think 'Sleezeball'..Plus the supposed 'nice man' has had his profile deleted and the email has been taken off, which the 'bosses' do if there's something dodgy going on.. It's just too difficult to work out where there coming from IYSWIM

I was only going to join for a month-£29, but it works out cheaper if you subscribe for longer.. There are free sites of course.

Been to The Recovery prog. at WA today, think i've had enough of men for the mo.. Can you tell?

I am sure however your gardener is a lovely sight ..and he is in your garden in RL !

How did the cheese go?

leaving the cheese till after italy as DD could be ill for a good few wks and I don't expect my mother to deal with it while I am away iyswim.

Gardener has a girlfriend but OMG he is lovely He is coming back tom to finish garden....

Absolutly shitting myself about tomorrow and whether H is going to call, have not heard anything since last fri and not looking forward to a row convosation with him if he calls

Supposed to have a solicitors appt tomorrow at 11 to push on with divorce but don't think I can go as I need a letter to prove I am on IS and letter not arrived yet

Argh i forgot it's Friday tomorrow.. your bloody dreaded call !! God, good luck!

Will bank statements/recent letters not temporarily suffice at the solicitors, until the up to date letter arrives? It is ridiculous how long it takes Job Centre Plus to get proof to us, especially considering it's all computerised!

they need bank statements as well

TBH could do without appt tomorrow anyway as I have lots on....gardener back again to finish job and my aunts are visiting DC in the afternoon and want to come to DS's school to pick him up with me.

As well as the dreaded phone call of course Just hope he does not call when my aunts are here

Don't know whether I will be more pissed off if he does call or if he doesn't

Am getting myself into a bit of a state over it tbh

Apart from the last bit, sounds like a busy but nice day!

Stay strong, you have control, because you can always put the phone down if it gets too much ..If he doesn't ring, your DC will hopefully be having a lovely time with your aunts anyway.

espcially if the weather is nice and gardener gets his shirt off again

Will keep thinking of my night out on sat to get through phone call tom...

Always good to have something nice to look at..

Wish i could happen to pop around for a coffee-it might've restored my faith in malekind!

yes its nice to realise I am still alive and can find a man attractive iyswim (even if he is taken, I can still window shop )

He was all rugged not shaven etc....I really must get a grip

You'll have excellent dreams tonight now...

Hello everyone

Haven't been on in ages
Things going OK - have had a few dates with someone nice, who even made me chocolate brownies!! It's nothing serious but just nice to have some fun
Ex is staying away, though have found out I have to go to court about the harassment charge, even though the letter says he pleaded guilty - feel nervous about that

Had a really nice day today - a party, then someone asked us to come back to theirs for a bit, then met someone in the park, then passed another classmate on way home and was invited in there too... so easy to feel isolated usually, but today got a warm and fuzzy feeling! Probably won't last long!

Libra - I was in a refuge not so long ago - feel free to ask anything you want - hope that you've settled in now, and feeling OK

hi splish sounds like you had a lovely day

Things just ticking along here although had a massive row with H on friday as he is blaming me for not letting him speak to DC and thinks its fine to still call every week to see if I have changed my mind

Think I will be ignoring phone this friday

Had a fab night out with freinds on sat night (which was much needed) although I paid the price on sunday with a massive hangover

How is everyone??

hey peeps..

that'll be me back with m'tail between m'legs then..

the lovely new man (who was also a from the past man) with whom all was going so well..

went a 'bit' mental on us... control freakery, wanting to have ALL my time (and complaining if I had the temerity to say wash up when he was round) then he had a 'panic attack' (think actually grown man behaving like a very very spoilt toddler notgetting his own way) upset the kids, scared he kids oh an in his flailing RUN(no really) from the house, nearly belted my eldestin the face...

so...

thats was that over.

so yeah... that'll be me back on my billy...

I shall play catch up soon, I have a 'difficult' weekend ahead...

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Hello all, have been away for a bit, living! All going well, just a bit tired from a long run of nights out.... off to read.

Oh and have set in motion divorce

hi there
I fint it really hard on my own, i will relish the day that i have money and dont have to live off of morrisons value beans!!!
just kidding.
financially, emotionally, practically its tough, but i wouldnt change places for all the money in the world!!!
My kids are amazing and they make me the woman i am today!

Yes there definitely are parts of it that are hard, and move up on the easiness scale. I feel resentful sometimes, when I'm up 3am with the baby crying or friends go out for meals and I can't.... I do, however have ALL easter Thursday - Monday off .

Sometimes I feel lonely, but most of the time I'm desperate for some quiet time. The dc (I have 4, aged 1 to 8) are happy though, doing well at school etc, and that's what I care about before anything.

tbh the thing I am struggling with atm is feeling bad about the things DS is missing out on ie learning to ride a bike/swim etc which he could probably do by now if H was here but I can't do it by myself as DD is too little to go out on bike iyswim

Oh well, am VERY proud of DS today as he won an award at school for writing a short essay on wanting to b a fireman when he grows up

Simpson don't worry, you will find time to do these things, or maybe his Dad can teach him on contact days. Its about learning what you can and can't manage - i can't do those things either, with the sheer input needed for 4 children on my own, some things just take a back seat. It's not bad, just prioritising.

just looked through my FB message history, and found a massive long chat between me and Ex when we were trying to sort this mess out. What a Shit. I never thought I had the capacity to hate, feel so venomous about someone.

He asked me last week if his GF of 8 weeks could meet the kids.....NO. They're not ready and ds2 was awful for 3 weeks cos he overheard them on the phone FFS! I have alot of mutual friends with her, and not one says Yes, its a good idea . Then, on the weekend, i discover she has been bad mouthing me all over town, saying I'm a psycho ex and that i keep chasing him to want him back! I am divorcing him and i really cannot stand him and he knows it....I chatted adultly with im abotu it and he says shes out of order and he believed me (im not one to kick up fuss oyu see). I explained that her running her mouth off is not going to sweeten me up at all. I said yes ive been an evil pyscho mother (for their best interest) but never a pyscho ex and under no circumstances do i want him back. Wanker.

Hi everyone,

I could really use some advice, I have recently split from my partner, I find myself being in bed by 8 every night reading a book. I have lost all motivation to do anything. Being a single mom is a lot harder than I could have ever imagined.

How do you guys do it?? It's so inspiring seeing other moms being so strong!

Hi :) I have only just, after 15 months, discovered me. Don't beat yourself up - in the beginning i went to bed as soon as i could. I had a newborn at the same time as well and we just used to sleep and doze from 7 - 7! It does take time. How old is/are your dc? Do you get any alone time? Do you work?

Basically I'm a SAHM of 4 aged 1 - 8. I was left at 37 weeks pg with dc4, after a 7.5yr relationship/marriage. I get every weekend off, and have only the last two months planned things for them. And had fun

I don't always feel strong - someone said to me today they've never seen such a transformation in someone - sometimes it still feels like my poker face.

scorps - their dad has no contact at all atm

Although DS(5) seems ok about it, its hard to tell.....

Am off to Italy next wk I cannot wait!!

mybeautifulgirl - how old are your DC??

mine are 3 & 5