support thread for people who find it hard as LPs...

[simpson]

just wondering if this has been done before...

I have 2 Dcs (2 & 5) and am bringing them up by myself (H allowed to have phone contact only due to his fuck wittery {I love that phrase })

Sometimes its soooo hard doing it by myself

DS had parents evening today and although his comments from teachers were fab most all of the other parents were couples.

Sometimes it hits me that I have to do everything myself

only problem is I can't really get out due to the pox to get stuff for it

But hopefully my friends will help.

I felt bad sending DS in today as he probably should not have gone in (although no spots) just slight temp at one point in the eve.

But he was so desperate to do his nativity etc.

he said "mummy I'm a special donkey, I was chosen by my teacher"

And tbh he has had so much shit in his life the last few months due to his dad too So I sent him in

yes got food in today while he was at school just incase

But unfortunately DD is severely intolerant to dairy/soya and can only eat one brand of bread from M&S which was out of stock today so will have to take DS with me tom to get some...

all good (ish) here.

How are you?

Ds has only got about 10 spots but wanted to go to bed early and had a sore throat & earache

Glad you are feeling a bit better

I think its the dark eves/mornings that are quite tough to take Just seems to make everything seem harder somehow

DS about the same, no spots really but sore throat/earache

I have not been out of the house for 3 days apart from playgroup drop off (only round the corner) and so am going slowly mad

At least tomorrow I should get a break as I do a keep fit class at the local childrens centre every friday (DD in creche) and my dad is going to have DS.

Please can I join...?

I'm finding it really hard at the moment, I think even more with having Christmas around the corner!

I've got a 3 year old and have been a lone parent since before I had him. It has its hard times and its not so hard times, but is never easy :(

I think I'm going to see if I can't get some counselling, with him going through terrible 3s, and having tantrums every day after preschool with me not being able to use the pushchair to take him home due to the snow, I want to just cry every afternoon and dread having to pick him up. It's turning out to be much less fun than I'd anticipated.

Sorry for the little rant, but today's been a hard day with my mum walking out saying "I can't watch any more of this" when I sent DS to bed after tea for being naughty and he was crying doing his "I want to be a good boy" thing at which point she walked out and made me feel really bad much worse.

It would not be so bad but I've been working loads for what seems like forever and have fallen out with lost touch with all of my friends.

It's gonna be a tough Christmas and New Year this year

justme - I know what you mean re the tantrums unfortunately.

DD (2.10) is truly awful

Thank goodness DS (5) is such a star.

I do find DD very hard work at times and I breathe a sigh of relief when she is in bed sometimes.

We had to stay at my mums last wk due to building working going on in my house and she had her 100th tantrum of the day over something minor before bed and my mum stepped in and really told her off "you do not talk to your mummy like that" etc and her face was (DD's not my mums)

It made me realise how much easier it would be be to have a partner around to discipline her as within 2mins she said "sorry mummy" unprompted. This has never happened before

Justme - Funny isnt it, they say the terrible twos but I found ds2 at 3 and quarter to well now(no sept when he started sch)the worst! I kept asking for counselling for him but was put off with "its a phase" etc!
Hes much better, but at the time its heartbreaking & soul destroying so I really feel for you.
Had the same from my mum actually, asking me if I loved him . We did get through the worst and it still bubbles up now but hes older so that helps (me not you!).
Will rack my brains for ideas for you but share her and I will try and help if poss x

Evening all... hope the flu and chicken pox folk/folks dcs are perking up...

the snow is THAWING

I havent been beyond the Spar shop 2 streets away in 2 weeks..and have gone MAD I think...

boys are at their dads - but only till tomorrow night - its forecast to get very very icy and possibly snow again - the ex lives in a village 6 miles away - IF it got bad they'd be stuck up there - my cars now stuck in mud on the driveway.. plus the estate is still impassable safely if your not very confident driving (and I aren't)

not a lot to say.. ut teh house is empty save for me, and I may have had 2 (small) bottles of guiness, and be feeling all a bit lonesome and world weary...

it'll be reet 'appen.

Can you beleive it, both my DCs are in bed!!!

Poor DS is soooo poorly with CP, they are in his eyes/ears etc and he is achy/feverish.

DD then started chucking up at lunch time and has not kept a thing down since then

I have been run ragged today

Not fun having 2 ill DCs especially when my family is away (well most of them atm)

Oh well, will be having a glass of wine later

simpson, so sorry that really is crap. Enjoy the wine and remember tonight "sleep is over-reted"!!!
Get your meds tray set up in readiness, thats what I do then no fumbling round in the dark for spoons etc!
I wish you luck x

over - rated I mean!

I wrote it off and went to bed!

Hi jumping back into the thread.
I've been looking after sick children fir 2 weeks now and ds2 now has his voice back but is very grumpy.

However I asked ds1 to make a snacky tea for him and his brother and he made me a cup if tea. I can't get over how lovely it was fir someone else to make me a cup of tea! I'd be a fab girlfriend fir anyone I'd be so grateful for anything they did for me!

Hope everyone is on the mend. Just one more week til the holidays!
I am kidding myself that I like the holidays!

Can i hijack this thread for a moan as I am being very grumpy with my children this morning which is not fair on them ?
I've just HAD ENOUGH - i thought one dd who didn't sleep was bad enough but 2 is driving me spare. I've literally not had more than 5 - 6 hrs broken sleep for 2 and a half years now. My wonderful mum and dad have started having DD1 (2 years) overnight but it makes no difference as DD2 (10 months) is feeding every 2 hrs at night and wakes up like clockwork at 7 am no matter what time i -tie her to bed- get her to sleep. How do lp cope with never having a chance to catch up on sleep? I'm fed up of being grumpy mummy and never having the energy to play with them.
I also cannot cope anymore with having no life and no time to do anything. I'm especially grumpy today as I went on a date last night so didn't get to bed till midnight and getting up at 5 am felt impossible this morning. I know i should just put the DC to bed, do the housework and go to bed but damn it i want a life. Is that so awful? And why the hell can't I do anything when i'm just sat at home (and to quote my ex 'having a lovely play time with no responsibility or stress')? Just to take 5 mins to write this email I've left both of them screaming as they have to have my attention 100 % of the time
And its a custody visit this sat which means 2 small children for an hour on the train, a day hanging around a strange city where I know no one and have no money to do anything but fret about all the housework i could be catching up on, then an hour home with 2 small overexcited overtired children. Oh and the icing on the cake is that my ex in laws want to see the DC to swop presents so I also have to go to visit them on Wednseday - a 3 hour round trip for 2 hours of being told how much they hate me for ruining their wonderful son's life. My cup runneth over.
Right deep breath and back to play time.

Hanni- just sending you support, no words of wisdom I'm afraid.
Personnally am sick to death of people/friends telling me I look grumpy and tired every morning!
Have to admit I did snap the other day and told someone they should try constantly getting up in the night and then get 3 ready for school on time everyday!
Made me feel a little better.
Try posting on here where ur going to be and prehaps someone else is available even for a coffee? There is lots of us that have wkend visits/absences to get through x

just offering to cheer you on here too Hanni

is there no way your ex could come to you for a change? See if your exMIL's could come to yours instead too. No reason it can't be fair.

on a brighter note, how did your date go? anything to keep you positive?

Thanks ladies - have been to my facourite toddler group (as in they are genuinely sypmathetic of me being a lone parent so i get to hide in the kitchen drinking tea while they -stops the DCs from killing each other- entertain the DC) and am feeling better.
My ex and I meet half way (209 miles apart) and my exGIL uses a wheelchair so can't easily travel :-) I only see them twice a year so I shouldn't complain.
Oh and the date was someone i've been dating from 3 months now and he wants to meet the DC so things can only get easier (although if he's any sense he'll run 10 miles when he meets my 2 :-) ) Oh and I spoke to him and suggested a romantic day out in York... I'll break it gently that the trip there are back involves the children. A second adult to lift the pram up and down would be amazing.