support thread for people who find it hard as LPs...

[simpson]

just wondering if this has been done before...

I have 2 Dcs (2 & 5) and am bringing them up by myself (H allowed to have phone contact only due to his fuck wittery {I love that phrase })

Sometimes its soooo hard doing it by myself

DS had parents evening today and although his comments from teachers were fab most all of the other parents were couples.

Sometimes it hits me that I have to do everything myself

I agree - my DS1 had the best time with his male primary teacher too..

Re. cousins-Tell your brothers' to hurry up!

DS2 would be happy just to take a GCSE in Xbox games,and that's about it...he doesn't really have a passion for anything else yet,which seems pretty much the norm amongst his peers.
Unlike his brother who was always music mad,he headed straight down his road from an early age, i was lucky there!

Hi libra

You must be soooo proud of your DS

Hop you get somewhere permanent to live soon. Have you got anything in the pipeline???

Congtrats on pg no.2

boxinghelena - you ok???

I feel quite cheerful tonight (for once) as my best friend managed a visit (she is curently opening a new shop and all of her time is taken up with that, but we managd a cuppa this eve and a good old catch up )

Having shitey night.This is it forever.How do I give ds good role models?a few weeks ago he broke down and properly sobbed"I miss daddy i want daddy".I can't bring daddy back.he would have been 43 on Sat.I try to ensure he has lots of uncle and grandad contact but ther is a huge daddy shaped hole in our life.

Oh ds I wish I could bring daddy back:( just for you:(

Oops, massively X posted! those gaps between writing and posting are a demon.

boxingHelena- have PMed you..

Hello Libra, you've been thro' hell it sounds like, and there's me whinging on about stupid parents evenings!... Welcome

Mavis -I am so sorry.
I lost my dad at 13.How old is your DS? is he having counseling? are you? There are groups like Winstons Wish that can help x

Thanks jellcat,tbh he is doing ok with the occasional blip,he steadfastly refuses any counselling type stuff i talk to him about it and he has refused it (so far)ww is good but not for ds atm.Thanks.prob more me that is stressed atm.I just wish this wasn't what he had to deal with but both dcs are wonderful and I don;t deserve them.

Thanks for support xx

love to all other lps out there...

He may change his mind in time, when he's ready..XPs youngest DS did, when his mum passed away.

Of course you deserve them, don't say that..you bought them into the world,and raised them to be the lovely DC they are- that's because of you!

Keep posting, we're here x

Hello Everyone and thank you for the warm welcome

I secured a place to live today, in a women's refuge, for me, DS and big bump.

I'm really pleased. I'm meeting a woman and she will take me to the house. Had a good chat and it sounds actually, really good there. Lovely woman I spoke with.

I feel as though a huge weight has been lifted from me . It will be good not to be living on edge of my nerves 24/7 [wiping brow emoticon].

Resting up this afternoon, where we are at the moment. House is quiet so it's just me the settee, a cup of coffee and the laptop....heaven xx

wave at the new entry
PoppyGirl I have not read the background story (not sure you posted / where) but you sound in a good spirit and that's great!
Oh I wish I went to a refuge when "it" happened, instead I did it bymyself what the heck...anyway enough about me and more about you
whatever took you here welcome!

Question:
What is this? I have been asked by LEA "proof that you have parental responsibility for the child"
errrrr....?

ps: I am better today, just going thru mindfield of moving schools.........thanx for asking

LibraPoppyGirl - That's good news indeed!
You'll sleep well tonight x

When you've settled in a bit,and are feeling a bit more relaxed..i highly recommend the WA 'Freedom programme'.
I've just started it.It reinforces your views on the situation,explains a lot and helps you to remain strong.

boxingHelena -Mothers automatically have P R, especially if they are the resident parent, which you are.I assume they must want to see your DSs birth certificate,but you better ring them and double check.
will PM you in a bit..

simpson- how did tonights' call go ???

H did not call today as he texted and said he was going to his sisters for dinner so is calling tom instead....

libra - thats fab news

Aaah..Simpson.

Have been wondering how MavisEnderby is today..

yes mavis lt us know how you are

well H finally rang and says he will let me know by wed whther he is coming over or not.

Ahhhhhhhhhhh!!!

How is everyone today??

Had quite a good day, they had the messy play thing at church today so went to that and they provided lunch for DC

Aftrwards took DC out on thir scooters, everything feels much better when the sun is shining

So Wednesday's the day simpson,God i hope he manages it.

Oh raining here today..but DS2 is at a mates..So very very quiet.Lovely text from DS1,and long natter with my gorgeous niece - she's a single mum too,off out tonight to get spoilt by rich men at Cheltenham races.

Not been feeling too good for a couple of weeks..dizzy spells,underarm and neck glands have been up for 2 weeks,boobs have been killing me and i'm knackered.Really has knocked me out today.Have made appt. at docs for Friday..bit worried as i can feel a swelling in right armpit,but it must be glandular eh?

Made the mistake of googling symptoms..a definite No-No!

Hello Everyone

I'm on here late tonight. Having a relaxing evening, been a quiet day for me and I'm feeling okay.

Having a lot of trouble with oedema in my feet, ankles and legs. Bit in the fingers, but that comes and goes. I've also got protein in my urine, but my blood pressure is good (on Thursday last). So as long as that stays okay, I'm praying I don't have too many problems. Never remembered mobility starting to be so affected at this stage. I think it must be one of 'forgetting information' part of giving birth. I thought it was at about 38 weeks, obviously wishful thinking .

Looking forward to another easy day tomorrow. Then the new begins and so does my 'to do' list. But we're getting there. Felt a bit hollow earlier today, but I'm feeling a bit better now.

Does anyone have any experience, first or second hand, on women's refuges and what they are like? Thanks guys.

Poppy xx

HellO,sorry for not signing in before,am ok went out with other mums tonight.Feeling a bit more positivexxthanks for concern xx

LibraPoppy good luck with baby xx

libra - I think if you google refuges they have a virtual tour of one online iyswim.

Can't do link though sorry

When is LO due??

Mavis - glad you are feeling a little bit better

A month tomorrow and I will be off to Italy

How is everyone today??

One child is in bed and the other will be up in 40mins or so

DS (5) is obsessed with fireman sam and has now moved onto the great fire of london

We have just had a 30min chat about how it started, where did everyone go, how old was I when it happened...you get the picture

Need a space to rant (that or strangle DD1) so does anyone mind if I rant here? I haven't slept through the night for 2 and half years now averaging out at getting up 3/4 times a night in that time. Neither of my DDs (2 1/2 and 1) go to bed easily in the evenings either, they just WANT MUMMY and are very persistant. I am beyond exhausted, beyond fed up and actually beyond caring. Rang my older sis (who is also a lone parent) for some sympathy and instead got told I'm not a 'real' lone parent as the girls have two six hour vists a month to their dads and Grandpa has them for three hours a week . Not sure what that makes her as she gets a whole night and day a week away from her son.
DD1 is also in a horrid stage of independence mixed with fustration and anger so is just constantly lashing out. DD2 and I are black and blue :-( and sometimes right now I don't actually like her. I know we'll get through it and i'll always love her but a weeks holiday from her right now might just save my sanity.
It just feels like groundhog day - wake up 6 am, breakfast, keeps the DCs from killing each other all day while keeping on top of housework, 7.30 pm begin the 2 hr battle of wills settling to sleep, 9.30 pm rush around tidying up before falling into bed. And because i co-sleep i never get away from them.
Right, deep breath and go and see what DD1 wants now (so far 3 wees, two drinks, and redoing fruit 3 times silly me keeps getting the wrong bowl)

Argh!! MandP Rant away ...

God, i remember the desperation like it was yesterday . DS2 only slept in 2 hour blocks until he was 2,i had to co sleep, as i was too knackered to get out of bed. Not as bad as your situation though ..Horrendous!! Poor you,you must be pulling your hair out!

You have to catch up at every available opportunity, bugger the housework for the odd night etc..Forget your sister for now,if she doesn't understand..presumably her DC slept through?

Any chance of a couple of longer visits to dads? just to preserve your sanity! Any other possibilities of help just for you to catch up on sleep a bit??

Simpson Does your DS know the 'Londons burning' rhyme.. Used to terrify me as i was bought up in London,what with that and the constant flood warnings, i kept a packed bag next to my bed!

Hi M&P how ar you today??

DD got skin prick allegy tsting tomorrow

Just hope she behaves herself and lets it be done...

goodevening(goodnight)
how is everybody? LO been very poorly, while I had deadlines and all sort of the usual..........
plans going ahead....(ref moving - JK I am looking at you darling as you know what is going on)
rumbling rumbling
but most of all I wanted to say
I got a date

boxingHelena... A date!!!!

You go girl!.. When?..so that i can have fingers crossed for you.x

So pleased you're still moving forwards with the moving [grins]

I've been summoned to DS2s school for a meeting tomorrow..8.30 a.m (wankers) with Head of Year neanderthal and the SENCO 'bitchwoman from hell' head..

Reckon they've heard i picked up the schools complaints proceedure,and the schools Discipline policy,and want to scare me into submission..Ha HA Ha..No chance

Oh Simpson..Did H say Yes or No yesterday?