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Pamela thread 3 - Bile Duct Cancer, off to London!

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WilsonMilson · 05/07/2023 22:51

Just starting a new thread.

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Nongatron · 06/07/2023 08:36

Sending you so much love light and good vibes Pamela hope the stent fitting goes smoothly today 💐

SquirrelSoShiny · 06/07/2023 08:41

Good morning Pamela and happy birthday. Praying that all goes well for you today xxx

FatLarrysBanned · 06/07/2023 08:43

Another one who thought of you as soon as I woke up. What a bloody amazing woman you are. Imagine every single one of us willing you forward and sending you positive thoughts. Wishing you all the luck in the world today. You literally could not try any harder than you have, I hope you gain some comfort from that. 💕

HappyToWait · 06/07/2023 08:50

Wow what a world of difference in your care, and about bloody time! Really hope today goes well. Will be thinking of you x

gettingolderbutcooler · 06/07/2023 08:52

Good luck Pamela. Xxx

rileynexttime · 06/07/2023 08:57

It must be such a relief for Kerr to have you finally in the hands of professionals who have the resources to give you the care you need.
Happy Birthday xxx

Skinnermarink · 06/07/2023 09:06

I have no idea about the admin involved in a GFM but I’m sure the Op has enough to think about. Perhaps a relative will be able to verify the the details and have one set up.

herbygarden · 06/07/2023 09:13

Unlurking to say I keep thinking of you and checking in. I am so so glad you were brave enough to go to London, and you are now, finally getting brilliant care. Wishing you all the best Xxx

waterlego · 06/07/2023 09:14

Happy Birthday Pamela. I imagine it’s probably the crappest birthday you’ve ever had, but you are in safe hands now by the sounds of things and I hope the stent procedure goes well. Once you’re back on your feet and in less pain, hopefully you can have a belated birthday celebration. 💐

WinterCarlisle · 06/07/2023 09:16

Good luck today! Xx

rainbowstardrops · 06/07/2023 09:20

Good luck today Pamela! I'm so glad that you decided to go Flowers

Toothiepegg · 06/07/2023 09:21

I'm pretty sure Pamela said that it is her birthday on Friday, so tomorrow. Apologies if I have got that wrong.

Iloveringos · 06/07/2023 09:21

Toothiepegg · 06/07/2023 09:21

I'm pretty sure Pamela said that it is her birthday on Friday, so tomorrow. Apologies if I have got that wrong.

Yeah I'm sure she said Friday x

Enforceddrysummer · 06/07/2023 09:23

I'm crossing everything that you get the stent. The relief is almost instant. I was in liver failure and yellow and felt so different afterwards.

notapizzaeater · 06/07/2023 09:24

Good luck today. I find it sooooo annoying / shocking / furious that you've managed to get better help / meds etc in a few hours in this hospital than you've had in 7 weeks at home. Hopefully they helped you get a better nights sleep and some rest x

Star0Fire · 06/07/2023 09:26

Best wishes for your stent today. I'm so pleased you are finally getting the care you deserve.
We are all rooting for you

CrotchetyQuaver · 06/07/2023 09:27

Good morning Pamela, I was much heartened by yesterdays updates on the private hospital. Well worth the journey. It absolutely sounds like they're going to do everything they can for you. Good luck for later and I will hope your next update is a good one too. Thank goodness for your BUPA insurance! I have a friend who had breast cancer treated privately thanks to BUPA and she said there is a whole world of difference between nhs and private cancer treatments including better chemo that the NHS won't use because the drugs are too expensive. I very much hope you'll be experiencing that for yourself a bit further down the line.

Penny xx

Icouldabeenalawyer · 06/07/2023 09:27

We are all here with you Pamela. What a woman, you're strong and brave and your fight and determination is admirable. Much love & all the positive vibes in the world coming your way to. I hope your trip is as comfortable as can possibly be for you xxx

blahblahblah1654 · 06/07/2023 09:33

Good morning. I've been following you all the way. Thinking of you and hope the stent goes well.

Dwrcegin · 06/07/2023 09:36

Good luck today Flowers

overitunderit · 06/07/2023 09:38

Brilliant news about your latest treatment. We are sending you our love. Xx

HawdMeBack · 06/07/2023 09:40

Best of luck for today! Hoping all goes well for you x

Inkpotlover · 06/07/2023 09:46

Have also been following your journey so far and am thrilled to see you've made it to London. Good luck today! Flowers

heathspeedwell · 06/07/2023 09:48

Morning Pamela, another one here really hoping that they can do the stent today! I also really hope that you got a restful night's sleep. I'm so glad that you are being properly looked after now.

WilsonMilson · 06/07/2023 09:55

Morning everyone. Well, I had quite a pretty painful night to be honest, but I’m not surprised as yesterday really took it right out of me. I was apparently extremely dehydrated when I arrived and needed 3 bags of fluid and heart rate refused to go below about 140- which is not uncommon lately. I have been drinking loads but have had a constant dry mouth, so not really surprised, and maybe it’s also all the insane sweating? Maybe just the blooming cancer. Anyway, fluid has brought my levels to a somewhat better state overnight, still tachycardic, but now need a couple of bags of blood as also anaemic. Getting those soon. Never had a blood transfusion before. Only time before this horror I’d ever been in hospital was to have a whopping 9lb Jacob!

The pain, pressure and sweating overnight was not fun, not going to lie, I missed my comfy ‘nest’ in the sunroom at home, but so glad to be here. Earlier in the evening I’d had to lie flat for about 15 mins (total nightmare, can’t tolerate for more than a couple of mins on my back without extreme pain) for the CT scans and then again for an ECG which took forever as the printing paper was stuck. So, I’m not surprised that it had a knock on effect on pain. I did sleep from about 1.30am - 6am, so not too bad! Poor Kerr got a mattress on the floor and didn’t really sleep, he’s an emotional wreck this morning, he’s so overcome by the care and attention I’m getting here that I think it’s just all a bit much. Love him so much, he’s the absolute best.

Just had breakfast (porridge with honey, and a wee bit of sourdough toast) and that’s the last thing I can eat as I ‘may’ be having the surgery today. Won’t be until later this afternoon though and the surgeon will come and speak to me at some point this morning. Shitting myself about it, never actually had an operation before, but hell what’s he options?! Tons more scared of not having it or not it not being viable. Either way, Just going to have faith and trust.
They are also going to take more biopsies as frankly they don’t trust Belfast to send them the original, and it will be quicker this way. They are universally appalled at my story, but I’m not going to go over that again as I’m all for positivity and healing moving ahead now, just not getting stuck in dwelling and negativity of past failings. There may be a time for that, it’s not now.

Just got moved to a bigger room so Kerr can have an actual bed beside me. Brighter too, facing out on to the street so a bit of buzz, but windows don’t open very far and I really need a breeze right now, but gosh I’m not complaining. I feel extremely lucky to be here, I feel like maybe some of my prayers are really being answered.

I honestly believe that all your good thoughts, prayers and support are having an actual influence on the universe, I truly do have faith in that sort of energy having a collective effect. I’m here on the wings of all the love I have around me, including here on Mumsnet, and I’m so truly grateful, I don’t want to sound like a stuck record, but I am.

Having my blood transfusion now and feeling a little bit ropey so going to sign off for now and will update later on. Jacob and mum have been in touch this morning and I’m going to FT them in a wee while!

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