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Pamela thread 3 - Bile Duct Cancer, off to London!

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WilsonMilson · 05/07/2023 22:51

Just starting a new thread.

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userxx · 06/07/2023 14:02

The lucky 7's will look after you. Sending positive vibes your way.

Iamnotalemming · 06/07/2023 14:09

Pamela I'm so pleased you are getting the professional care and attention you need. Sending all positive vibes for tomorrow.

EmmaEmerald · 06/07/2023 14:12

Just saying hi Pamela, hope you can eat something xx

PumpkinParent · 06/07/2023 14:16

Dear Pamela, can I add my voice to the hundreds of others to say that you are an exceptional human being, but also that I am so very sorry that you and your wonderful sounding family must walk this dark path.
There are clearly many, many of us here rooting for you. Your tenacity is incredible. Shall be thinking of you tomorrow. With love from East London

BotterMon · 06/07/2023 14:19

So glad to read you're there! There is a little café opposite the hospital on the main road and a bit of a dive pub opposite the side entrance (plus a posh restaurant that I'm sure you'll have no interest in this week but maybe next!?!)

Good luck with everything and keeping you in my thoughts.

Pansypotter123 · 06/07/2023 14:22

Just checking in and have read your latest update. I cannot believe the turn around in a matter of days with regard to your treatment. Keep fighting, and bombard us whenever you like! Xxx 😘

BotterMon · 06/07/2023 14:24

Sorry - thought you were in the private wing of Royal Marsden so ignore my café and pub info.

Elltothebeetothejay · 06/07/2023 14:27

Pamela, I have never replied to a post on Mumsnet before, but I am thinking of you and sending you love and strength from Scotland. You are one amazingly strong lady xx

siansattic · 06/07/2023 14:36

This is the first time I've posted on a thread but I wanted to say I am in awe of your strength and positivity. Keeping everything crossed that the operation tomorrow is your best birthday present ever. Much love to you and you wonderful family

TooManyPlatesInMotion · 06/07/2023 14:41

Sending you best wishes for your treatment in london.

Strawberrypicnic · 06/07/2023 14:41

Hi, been following your threads on and off when they've popped up in Active. Just wanted to wish you all the best for the surgery tomorrow <3 You sound like you're in amazing hands. Your positivity is inspiring! Hope you can manage to stop dwelling on what's gone before - let it go for your own sake as anger does not deserve your energy right now! You need every bit for yourself :)

waterlego · 06/07/2023 14:49

Eeek, sorry I wished you Happy Birthday on the wrong day!

MintLindt · 06/07/2023 14:58

I’m a very lapsed Catholic but lit a candle in Cologne Cathedral for you this morning. I will be keeping everything tightly crossed that all goes well tomorrow. xx

JazzHandsYeah · 06/07/2023 15:08

Lots of love and healing wishes xxx

Cornishclio · 06/07/2023 15:15

I have been walking in the cliffs in North Devon today and thought about you as I know you like the sea. So pleased you are finally seeing some action. Good luck with op.

Norachance · 06/07/2023 15:19

Im so glad you are actually being looked after by doctors at last! Thinking of you Flowers

WilsonMilson · 06/07/2023 15:25

Wrote a whole post and it deleted before I sent it. So here goes an abridged version:

Bupa, all good. Phew. Hopefully for everything, there may be bits around the edge we have to cover. That’s ok. Extremely grateful, obviously not that I’m in this position as I’m actually feeling really bloody crap today, but I have an opportunity here at least. Many, many couldn’t and wouldn’t.

I absolutely hear you on the Go Fund Me, but I just can’t get past myself on it, it wasn’t my motivation at all when I started writing this journal or journey of sorts. Honestly, it feels like a bit of a blooming cheek to be asking people for money when I’m lying in The Harley Street Clinic having some of the best care in the world. It just doesn’t sit right. I’m very alive to the fact that are so many people out there who are struggling month to month with hardship and poverty in this country, and here’s me taking the piss in a swanky hospital. I just cannot stop feeling wrong about it. We’re not loaded and yes, I’ve now not been working for 2 months and that’s a problem, and we are having many extra expenses I hadn’t even envisaged, but I’m honestly here for support and candles, prayers, the wonderful people sending messages of hope and solidarity from all over the world, the faith, hope and love that a previous poster put so beautifully. Maybe I’ll think of something else because I know you want to help, maybe there will be something right, but I’m really the sort of person who breaks out in a rash at the thought of ever asking anyone for anything or being deemed a CF!

So, faith, hope and love.

Had some soup for lunch which was very nice, a wee bit of chicken salad, although it broke me right out in a sweat and I had to stop, and a few spoons of creme brûlée. Nice soups are my favourite right now. Everything else is just so much effort and the cost is increased pain and distension.

Extremely tired now and so bloated, I’m a beach ball. Might have a nap, but don’t want them to think I’m a terribly ill person - have the fear of appearing bad and not getting chemo. Silly really. Am extremely chirpy with the staff, Kerr thinks it’s quite funny.

Nurse: “How are you Pamela?”

Me: “Oh great thanks, how are you?”

Truth: “Absolutely shite thanks, death warmed up, in fact”.

In fairness, I am being real too, I have told the doctors exactly how it is. Hope they can sort out the fluid and what not tomorrow too as I feel like I’m about to explode which I have mentioned.

Think Prof B was extremely optimistic about dining out as I would really struggle, the other doctor didn’t think it was a good idea, but I’m getting a wheelchair so Kerr can take me on a wee trip around later on when my latest bloods come back.

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FlissMumsnet · 06/07/2023 15:30

Hi everyone,

We've had a number of reports from people concerned about this thread so, as we usually do in these circs, we're putting our heads round the door with some important reminders.

We can't see a shred of evidence to indicate the OP isn't above board but sadly, we can't know with 100% certainty that any poster is genuine, no matter who they are or how long they have been here. As frustrating as it is, we're not able to vouch for anyone.

So we always ask users to remember that not everyone on the internet is who they say they are – and remind folk not to give more to another poster, either financially (in cash or gifts) or emotionally (in time or care and support) than they'd be prepared to lose if things went wrong.

We understand the OP is not looking for any form of financial support but is here to be upheld and supported by you all through this difficult time.

We wish you all the very best

Flowers

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Floralnomad · 06/07/2023 15:31

So glad that you are properly covered insurance wise , now you can just concentrate on living , best wishes 💐

UnsureOfOutcome · 06/07/2023 15:37

Delurking to say: thinking of you here in Bath! Your thread has been profoundly affecting; I welled up when I read that you were on the plane. You're in the right place, and if you can manage even just some fresh air in the park this eve that would be really good, I think. Don't stop updating! we're all thinking of you x

WilsonMilson · 06/07/2023 15:44

FlissMumsnet · 06/07/2023 15:30

Hi everyone,

We've had a number of reports from people concerned about this thread so, as we usually do in these circs, we're putting our heads round the door with some important reminders.

We can't see a shred of evidence to indicate the OP isn't above board but sadly, we can't know with 100% certainty that any poster is genuine, no matter who they are or how long they have been here. As frustrating as it is, we're not able to vouch for anyone.

So we always ask users to remember that not everyone on the internet is who they say they are – and remind folk not to give more to another poster, either financially (in cash or gifts) or emotionally (in time or care and support) than they'd be prepared to lose if things went wrong.

We understand the OP is not looking for any form of financial support but is here to be upheld and supported by you all through this difficult time.

We wish you all the very best

Flowers

I’m very sorry there has been ANY reports on this thread and find it extremely upsetting when I have been as open and honest as I could possibly be.

I’ve been VERY clear that I have no intention or desire to ever ask anyone for money and am frankly extremely upset to read this post, it’s given me a real knock today.

I’d very much like if people stopped mentioning any sort of fundraising, which I don’t need. What I have appreciated in the extreme is the support and solidarity I have received. Thank you.

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lucylulululu · 06/07/2023 15:48

As if people have reported this thread!! Go away the lot of you! This is a place for Pamela to vent and receive messages of support and love. Totally unnecessary and clearly haven't read her posts properly. She's never once asked for anything from anyone.

On a more positive note, I'm so pleased you've managed to eat something and enjoy the soups! Soups are great because they're easy to eat and digest yet packed full of veggies and goodness. So definitely if you're enjoying them have more of those! Keep your energy up as best you can to keep yourself as strong as possible ❤️ best of luck with the stent and keeping everything crossed you can then have chemo 🤞🤞🤞 xxx

MeeThree · 06/07/2023 15:48

Hurrah for Bupa. Thank goodness you had cover!

Yes dining out did sound a tad ambitious didn't it but hopefully you'll get some fresh air, well as fresh as it can be in London!

uncomfortablydumb53 · 06/07/2023 15:49

Hi Pamela What an amazing update, you write so eloquently and I can picture you with the silver salver and cloche!
Well done on getting a few spoonfuls down, even a tiny bit will build your strength for tomorrow.
Let them know before the pain ramps up that you need another dose to keep you comfortable.
Perhaps just tiny steps inside the hospital and a walk in a wheelchair with Kerr later
You're always in my thoughts
Have that nap now
Much love Judith in Wiltshire

PhoenixIsFlying · 06/07/2023 15:49

Please don't let the above affect you. Quite honestly I cannot understand how anyone could possibly report your thread. You have been nothing but honest, true and real in what is such an incredibly difficult time for you. Shame on those people. You have repeatedly said you would feel uncomfortable with any form of help.
99.9% of us know, please don't let that 1 or possibly two doubters upset you. Being upset is the last thing you need right now.
❤️

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