Pamela thread 3 - Bile Duct Cancer, off to London!

[WilsonMilson]

Just starting a new thread.

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I'm sorry to read that some people have reported this thread. Don't let it bother you Pamela, you know the truth and you know that we are holding you in our hearts and prayers. Lighting a candle for you for tomorrow's procedure.

Please don’t let this comment from MN affect your determination and positivity .Unfortunately there will always be a poster making mischief on every thread !
Onwards and upwards 💕This has been Mumsnet at its best full of love ,care and compassion from everyone. We are all 100% behind you and I personally am in awe of you Pamela you really are fabulous 💪Am glad Kerr gets a decent bed tonight 😊Xx

Pamela no please don't let this upset you or knock you! I think this has been done by people who haven't read your posts properly! Remember your threads have been trending a lot so hundreds upon hundreds of people will have seen it and inevitably you'll get a few who are like that who dont bother to read! Possibly even bot accounts! It's almost a given when a thread is so popular. But anyone who has actually read the thread knows you're honest and haven't ever asked for a thing! Please pay it no mind and lets get back to the positivity ❤️

Please don't let the reports worry you or upset your day, I'm as baffled as you probably are as to why individuals feel the need to report this thread. You've been so honest and upfront and I'm so sorry that it's happened.
Please don't let this take you away from being positive and having faith, hope and love xx

Anyone only has to read your threads to know they are genuine. Some people are just shits. Ignore that from HQ x

With you all the way Pamela.
There will always be critics, meddlers, and doubters looking to report whatever. Take no notice.
A page on from now their reporting will be history. Onwards and upwards.

Pamela please don't let this make you feel down. Most people on here have read every post. I read your first one in general health 'pancreatic cancer worries' and many people were thinking it was gall stones.
We know you are genuine and are with you all the way.
Stay positive Pamela.
Wishing you all the best with your treatment ❤️

Pamela please don’t worry about the reports. Some people just see anything like this and report it without really reading the thread. You come across as very genuine.

Aw please don't worry. I can't believe anyone could believe you are not genuine!

I wonder if you can get some energy healing or similar if that interests you. So much can be done remotely. I had a body-talk session done by someone hundreds of miles away, I was sceptical, until I felt the energy in my body. It was crazy and amazing!

I hope they are keeping you comfortable x

My mum is under going cancer treatment. Your posts are helping me more than I could ever explain in words. I hope our posts can continue to help you too.

A long, long time ago I was hospitalised with moderately severe OHSS from IVF. Fluid leaked into my abdomen and I looked 9 months pregnant and felt so so sick. Every single mouthful of food made me feel so much worse. So I really, really empathise. No one who has followed your threads will believe for one second that this is not genuine. Don't waste your precious energy or time even thinking about it.

You are so much supported on here. I’m so sorry you have had to put up with some difficult people, who think everyone is out to con people. Please don’t dwell and be upset, these people need to be ignored! It would never cross my mind that you are nothing but an amazing lady going through a very difficult time!

I’m so pleased that Bupa have confirmed that everything is in place. At least you don’t have to worry about that!
Sending best wishes, and hope that you will soon feel so much better. 😘🤞🙏🍀🌸

People who report threads like this one are not malicious or difficult or 'just shits'

But unfortunately, over the years, there have been many posters who have scammed other MNetters out of money using threads like this.

I'm not saying for one moment that @WilsonMilson is doing this, but there have been a lot of posts suggesting donating money or setting up crowd-funding pages etc. For someone that none of us know at all.

The warning from MNHQ is a timely one, and one that all of us need to heed in instances like this.

This is just awful. I can't believe that, a) anyone would dream of reporting a thread like this, and b) that mmhq would dare to risk upsetting Pamela in such a vulnerable time. I'm shocked that both these things have happened. It's one time that mnhq should have just kept it simple with a "we support the OP in her desire not to fundraise".

Sending you healing vibes from Cardiff, Pamela xx

Agree, ignore that stupidity. HQ could have worded that more sensitively than the usual copy and paste job.

ANYWAY ❤️

So glad to hear your update, that they are treating you with the care, positivity and empathy that you deserve, and that there is a plan.

Thinking of you x

Please don't be put off getting whatever support you can from here. Some people are so horribly warped. It says a lot about them that they would interpret your posts in a cynical way. You've made it abundantly clear that you would feel uncomfortable being supported in a material way (even though many posters including me would love to help with money/other practicalities!).

I also think @mnhq have handled this pretty crassly. Of course you were going to feel hurt/pissed off/guarded when you saw that message! Grrr.

Awww please don't let this bother you, this is not what you need to put your energy into. I have seen you repeatedly say you don't want/ need any money. Most of us here are just here to send you love and strength and know that we're all right behind you every step of the way. Xxxx

Exactly. Hq's message was not very sensitive. 😢

A lot of people have been offering money if it would help, that’s all I would think. Pamela you have made it very clear you are not interested in that whatsoever.

Don't let this little annoyance break your positive vibes. There are so many people on here who are 100% behind you. Ignore the few that don't know how to read a thread properly and like to stir the shit. You have got this 💪

Absolutely disgusted by the robotic way that MN worded that message under the very distressing circumstances that Pamela is so heroically and gracefully navigating. 'We hope you get it all sorted soon'. Appalling. Pamela we're with you and will continue to lift you up from across the globe xx

Please don't let any reports bother you, just focus on all the positivity people are sending your way. I will light a candle for you tomorrow also and be thinking of you.

Hi WilsonMilson,

We'd like to apologise profusely for any hurt caused - the message MNHQ posted was meant to caution people about giving more of themselves than they could afford in all ways.

We certainly didn't intend to cast doubt on your intentions and we understand you are looking for solidarity and support rather than any financial help.

We wish you all the best and hope you are getting the support and comfort you deserve.

Dear Pamela
Got all of the wonderful support you have which is 99.9% of Mumsnet there are still a few saddos about with nothing better to do. From the start you have been honest (and inspirational ). Nobody in their right mind doubts you so please get that out of your head right now.
Save all your strength for getting well and drink up all the healing energy our love is sending you.
You are so strong! Your husband and son are so lucky to have you xxx