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Pamela - Bile Duct Cancer (last thread pancreatic and liver)

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WilsonMilson · 30/06/2023 18:19

Hi everyone, I’ve created a new thread as I am overwhelmed to see that the last one is full. You have all filled me up with your hope and encouragement. I’m keeping going as long as I possibly can!!

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User27107066 · 05/07/2023 17:32

You are in my prayers and I thinking of you and sending good wishes to you. xxx

Itsokay2020 · 05/07/2023 17:45

@WilsonMilson, Pamela, you are making a brave but I believe the right decision to go. My heart goes out to you, we are similar in age and I just can’t imagine - it’s truly hideous. I wish you all the best for your journey, I hope your body copes well and the surgery is a success. I’ll be thinking of you 💐

adriftabroad · 05/07/2023 17:51

I hope you have managed to get there Pamela, an enormous feat in itself.
If you have, I hope you are tucked up and being taken care of and finally you can all relax a bit as someone medical is finally in charge (when nobody has been thus far) Well done Kerr for tracking Prof Bridgewater. Well done Prof Bridgewater. Most of all Well done you. Hope your pain is being managed immediately.

WilsonMilson · 05/07/2023 18:11

I’m on the plane writing this. I did it!

Won’t be able to post until I land at London City. It’s been a frantic day of packing, panicking, tearful goodbyes to mum and Jacob and sheer willpower to move myself from the house.

I’m so very scared I won’t see them again, but I’m trying not to get overwrought. The plan is for them to come to London in a few days - will sort the logistics of that when we have some time to think, it’s all been such a mad whirl. This time yesterday I was basically accepting death at home.

Didn’t get confirmation of a bed in the private hospital until early afternoon, so then it was a total panic to book the first flight we could - we are on British Airways at frankly insane cost, but that’s the last thing we care about in the great scheme.

In some ways I wish Jacob had come too, but he’s with my mum and she needs support as well, they will look after each other and maybe it’s best I get the next couple of days past to see where I am at and then we can plan. I will FaceTime them all the time, until they are fed up seeing my rather wizened and jaundiced face. I wore sunglasses in the wheelchair through the airport - felt ridiculous but my eyes are practically luminous and I just didn’t want anyone to see me like that, it’s quite scary.

I remember days when I really looked forward to going to London, enjoyed the flight, maybe had a wee drink en route and was ready for a weekend, maybe going to a nice restaurant with Kerr, a show, catching up with friends, taking Jacob to the Harry Potter exhibition or just sightseeing, a concert at the O2 (went to more than a handful of Prince’s 21 Nites at the 02 in the summer of 2007 - huge fan). Amazing memories, and just time for the fun stuff in life. Gosh, we should always do things like that if we can, not put them off, not think there will always be a next time.

I finally posted about my situation to my friends on Facebook today. Thought long and hard about that as (despite this) I’m usually a private person and really don’t enjoy attention or spectacle. The replies have been upsetting (in a nice way) and comforting too. Didn’t want to pop my clogs and not to have said anything at all apart from to family and very close friends.

Landing soon so going to save and post when I can. Thank you for the messages, the lit candles, the prayers, the support. You all lift me up and I feel the love and the kindness, I really do.

Just landed, absolutely exhausted but posting now!

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CashmereDarling · 05/07/2023 18:13

Oh that's amazing to hear, well done!! So glad you were able to make the journey, you fabulous woman!

GayPareeee · 05/07/2023 18:14

Yayyy, welcome to London 😍

You astound me, you are a formidable (in a good way) woman.

Best of luck with rest of journey and getting settled in

fuckmyuteruslining · 05/07/2023 18:15

You star! Hope they get something progressed for you.

moggiek · 05/07/2023 18:16

You’re a fucking warrior, Pamela. Thinking of you.

ticktock19 · 05/07/2023 18:16

You're absolutely incredible Pamela, unbelievably strong, courageous and determined. I've got everything crossed and strongly believe that as someone said upthread, Prof Bridgewater wouldn't bring you over unless he had a plan and hope that it will work. You're amazing for doing this my love xxxx

Bellagio40 · 05/07/2023 18:16

Fantastic news! Thanks so much for updating us.

petuniasandpetals · 05/07/2023 18:18

Magnificent!
you are definitely amazing and so brave … best of everything 😘

isthatmyage · 05/07/2023 18:19

Fantastic news! Whole of mumsnet and no doubt wider completely routing for you xxx

catwithflowers · 05/07/2023 18:21

Pamela, what a truly amazing woman you are. I'm so proud of you and we've never even met ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

SashaRose · 05/07/2023 18:21

Thank you for the update, I’ve been reading your threads and thinking of you, hope you settle into hospital and hope all goes well on Friday

SlightlyJaded · 05/07/2023 18:22

Well done well done!

Everything crossed for you Pamela.

adriftabroad · 05/07/2023 18:25

Amazing, I let out a whoop!

You are about to be taken care of.

PhoenixIsFlying · 05/07/2023 18:26

Pamela , your strength and courage is awe inspiring. So pleased you have landed and will at long last get some treatment . Lots of love ❤️ xxx

Ambertonix · 05/07/2023 18:26

Pamela, you absolute rock star! Well done for getting on that plane. Much love and good wishes to you and Kerr xx

plinkyplonkyploo · 05/07/2023 18:27

Another delurker rooting for you. I am so proud of you Pamela!! You are an absolute legend. Wishing you the very best.

Irene from Oxford xx

Funnybunny625 · 05/07/2023 18:27

Well done Pamela, ive been checking this thread all day to see how you are. You are just amazing and I'm sure your friends and family are all so proud of you. Even from your last post it sounds like you have a bit more energy and positivity. I'll keep sending out positive thoughts for you, well done again x

Missingmyusername · 05/07/2023 18:27

So brave, you are a fighter. Absolutely amazing that you’ve come this far. Can only imagine how weak /sick /in pain you feel. I hope you get to rest, pain free before treatment.

Following your journey and wishing I could help financially. I think it’s banned on mn but elsewhere if there’s anything we can look out for, go fund me, what have you. Would love to.

Good luck, 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🙌🫶🏻 💐💐for coming this far!

Keep us posted please. Good luck💐

girlswillbegirls · 05/07/2023 18:28

You are a real inspiration Pamela. So happy for you. Your fight is admirable. We are all with you ❤

Enforceddrysummer · 05/07/2023 18:30

What an amazing update! You deserve to feel very proud of yourself.

sunglassesonthetable · 05/07/2023 18:31

Wow 🤩 In awe xxx

Pansypotter123 · 05/07/2023 18:34

Awesome 👏 💕🤗xxxxxxxx

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