Transgender child, very offensive dh

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Morning all. When my child was about 13, they came out to me as transgender. We have a fantastic relationship now that they are comfortable in who they are. The issue is my DH of 22 years. Ex military, very strict upbringing. He will sit watching telly, and if there is a same sex couple on an advert or something, there’s comments such as “ ooh, which ones the man, oh, both of them”, or “ oh ffs, here we go again”, or “box ticked”, if there’s a mixed race family or the such. My child will get up and leave the room when he starts on this, as they are offended, but he will then make a comment about that. He just doesn’t get how offensive he is.
The thing is, we have 3 children, and I would love to scream at him that out of his 3 kids, 2 of them aren’t straight and he has no idea.
Also, it’s not my news to tell him, that has to come from my child, but at the moment, they are not comfortable in telling him how they are, due to his disgusting attitude.
I am delighted that they told me, as there were some issues that I could to quite put my finger on, but now I know they are transgender, it explains everything and they are much happier now.
What do I do about my DH? Nothing? Wait for my child to tell him? It’s very hard for me not to just blurt it out! if only for shutting him up.

Of course girls can be a boy

No they can't. Sure they can dress as one and go on to do various (harmful) biological modifications but they can never be a boy. I don't know why anyone would want to perpetuate such a lie. What is wrong with society! However, they are still human beings and as such worthy of love and respect. But not being lied to that they can be the opposite sex to that which they are!

And if they are boys thinking they can be girls, then look at all the posts on MN where women rightly feel transmen are invading their spaces.

OP if you do end up blurting out about your children's sexuality then that won't 'shut your husband up' it will do the exact reverse, I should think. I

You seem to be saying you support breast binding in an adolescent daughter, who identifies as male? Sorry if I've got this wrong.
I can only say that when I was that young I hadn't a fucking clue what was going on, but luckily wasn't influenced by TikTok.

LOL ok well go be homeless without money and tell me how happy you are - ridiculous comments. Actually financial stability is a completely valid and sensible reason to stay married.

Just call out your husband when he's being racist or homophobic. Unless you agree with his racist views maybe?

It's got nothing to do with your child. You have a role to play independently as a wife/partner.

If you can't stand up to your husband, how do you expect your trans child to stand up to him when the time comes?

You can lead by example.