My ex will not return my son

[Sunrisesmile]

My ex and I have a son, we both have parental responsibility and my ex has him every weekend, a couple of weeks ago I dropped my son off at his dad's on Friday evening as usual and went away on holiday without him agreeing to have our son for me to go away, I texted him the following day to let him know I was on holiday and would not be returning to the following week now he will not return my son, where do I stand

I can’t believe anyone would do this! Your poor son, expecting his Mum to come back on Sunday and she’s just gone on holiday without him.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5392762-husband-unhappy-with-my-friendship-with-a-man?page=4&reply=146454955

For any doubters, here is a woman posting about her ludicrous behaviour and no one is backing her up.

Which part is made up?

it’s all there in his posts and his previous post?

OPs previous post FROMTHREE WEEKS AGO for reference..

How does it work the other way when a dad has his son every weekend. He works full time Mon to Friday and spends every weekend with his son willingly. The mum wants to go away for the week but doesn't want to take the son, and the dad has no annual leave to take and tells her this, she drops him at his dad's on Friday and when the dad drops him back Sunday evening she's not there and has gone away on holiday, where does the dad stand ?

He KNEW she wanted to have a week holiday, but refused to accommodate it.. (he conveniently left that part out of his OP this time to garner sympathy) he only has the child at the weekend.. and refuses to cover midweek.

now it has been forced upon him he is refusing to give the child back.. they are both punishing their child for each others failings as decent parents.

First, OP made it clear that his ex has dropped off their DC then made herself unavailable for scheduled pickup multiple times, so assuming this incident is the same one referred to in past tense 3 weeks ago is poor logic.

But even if they are the same incident, here are a few of your utterly unfounded assumptions
-OP never has his child outside of weekends because he always refuses to
-The agreed care schedule is his choice, not a joint one or even the mother’s preference
-That he refuses all requests for flexibility
-That he has annual leave that he chooses to selfishly use all for himself instead of his child
-That he isn’t willing to change a single thing about his life for his child

Most parents, especially single parents, need to be able to plan out and carefully allocate things like annual leave, school transport arrangements, and after school care. Needing a predictable schedule and only being able to accommodate limited flexibility is the norm, not proof that a parent doesn’t care or is mean and selfish. Similarly, you accused him of not actually being able to care for his child during the week and planning on using (female) relatives to do it because he said he had family available to help with childcare so he could keep his job. The reality is that almost all single parents who work FT will need to utilize some amount of childcare - extended family or paid - because school schedules and transport needs rarely match up to full time working hours. Arranging reliable wrap-around and backup care is part of responsible parenting, not a fault.

Your posts are like the MN version of fanfic where you’ve taken some supplied information and gone off to write this entire fictional, over dramatic backstory for everyone that fits the story you want to tell.

Can I just say how impressed I am when people go all Miss Marple on these posts. I think it should be a remunerated role. We sometimes waste time, effort and emotion on these posts - as in this case.

It's a proper arsehole thing you did OP I'm sure you'd have not appreciated it if he'd done that to you, I'm sure you knew that though hence the previous post. That being said whilst I understand he's angry at you, you don't deserve to be prevented from seeing your son and your son doesn't deserve to be separated from one of his parents and used as a weapon against a parent. Its something I will never condone as two wrongs will never make a right. All you can do is take the matter to court OP and of course get legal advice. Hope your ex and yourself can sort this and you see your son soon OP.

What ever happened with this? It this one of those people call a "reverse" Im very confused.