My partner was arrested for attacking me..

[Exasperated24]

I need urgent advice.

my partner attacked me earlier today and has subsequently been arrested. Can I ring the police station and tell them I don’t want it taking any further. Will they then release him?

I feel awful for him.

It’s quite common for domestic abuse to begin or escalate when a woman is pregnant. It is a vulnerable and dangerous time, so too is if you decide to separate. Be aware of the risks to you right now and proceed with support from others around you.
The Police will hopefully peruse a prosecution without your victim statement, he is clearly a man who is potentially very dangerous and violent to do that to a pregnant woman (and to do more that you can’t even type)

You feel awful for him?!

Until he injures you so badly you can't respond.

The police can go ahead and charge your partner, even if you don't want them to.

Get some counselling, talk to Women's Aid. You are being coerced & abused, although it's hard for you to recognise this.

I've now read all your posts OP. Don't tell them to release him.

I'm glad that you have the support of your sisters.

He is violent little cunt. Hope you are ok. Please please don’t worry about him.

Why 'luckily' if he attacked you?

Do you honestly think that poor wee soul is sitting in his cold dank lonely cell worrying about you? ...or your baby?... or anyone other than his own vicious low-life self?
Put the kids you already have first.. now and always.

@failedatlifee
Yes you can, I did this although they still tried to prosecute him without me but luckily they weren’t successful.

Why was it lucky they weren't successful?

I’n in tears for you reading this.
Theres so much tough love on these pages but also so much concern for you.
i believe from your comments you’re in shock but also that you’ll make the decisions you need to make to get this man out of your life and make sure you are all safe.
much love to you

What would ypu tell your son/daughter if this was them??? Would you tell them to stick it out or leave? The longer you leave it the worse it'll get and the harder it'll get to leave. I've been there and luckily got out

The attack you've described is terrifying. I just wanted to add my voice to everyone else's really. It must be incredibly hard to get your head round but there is no coming back from that, he's a monster. You will never have peace if you allow him back and there will be a next time, no matter how lovely/sorry/vulnerable he makes himself appear. I'm really pleased you have support from your sister. Keep yourself and your children safely away from him, he's not in any way the person he presented himself as previously.

It’s really good that your sister is coming over. Please tell her everything - it will help you process and she will also serve as a ‘memory bank’ as your brain will encourage you to minimise what actually happened over the weeks ahead. That’s not me being bitchy, it’s that your brain will try and protect you from what’s actually happened here, which is that a man who you love and who is supposed to love you:
Sat and thought about it
Got in your face to provoke a further conflict
Dragged you to the ground
Strangled you

All while you were pregnant with a baby he insists he wants.

Your sister will know the stats on how domestic violence escalates in pregnancy, and how strangulation is the biggest red flag there is.

Please take care of yourself and focus your energy on yourself, not on him. He doesn’t deserve it. Protect yourself and your children, and yes my love, I’m sorry, but that may mean choosing not to have one with a violent thug.

The police will refer this to social services.

They will consider if yiu are putting your bf before your children and if your children. Are at risk.

The way you are talking. Can't imagine not seeing him again wanting to get him out of police station shows that yiu are putting him before your and yiu children's needs.

Putting aside the baby you are at serious risk of yoyr children. Being taken off you if you continue in a relationship with this creature

You would like? What a way to put it. If the OP shows mettle and gives a supporting statement to the police he will be prosecuted and she will be supported by an IDVA to apply for a protective order and to remain separated from him. That's what she needs to do. She doesn't need a social worker to oversee that, because she will be committed, sure and resolute to do the right thing for her and her children.

That's totally understandable. You love him - even if he's a violent shit.

Breaking up with someone is horrible., but you know you have to do it - for you (and your children).

I’m sorry this happened to you ❤

This isn’t a situation for mumsnet. There are some recommended helplines on this page https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/getting-help-for-domestic-violence/

Oh and a jail cell is absolutely where he belongs, like any other violent criminal. You wouldn't think twice about that if a man had attacked a stranger, why is it somehow different when he's meant to love you? That's worse.

they won't let you. Itll be down to the CPS now. But he attacked you so its where he should be love.

He attacked you whilst you are pregnant??? They could remove your children if you have him back.

If you don't want to do it for yourself, do it for your kids. They deserve to have a Mum to tuck them in every night, not just a photo of you and visits to your grave when he DOES kill you.

That was a dreadful assault, Exasperated! Horrible.

I find myswlf being extremely thankful that you are only nine weeks' pregnant, you have options. If you have the baby you will not be rid of the man for eighteen years!

You honestly don't need this man. By all means acknowledge the good things from your relationship but you cannot now trust him. Get rid, you're worth more.

Be on your own, build a decent life for you and your children. Later on you can think about a new relationship but not now.

Please don't give in. The police aren't likely to keep him in the cells for long but do not let him back, no matter how sorry he is.

Please don't have this bairn. Cut all ties with this violent man who DOES NOT WANT THE CHILD.

Same. I wouldn't allow my children to return to a home wheres there's violence. I'd be getting an emergency court order in place and refusing to hand them over.

i’m pretty sure he also sexually assaulted you

Jesus Christ @Exasperated24 All of your posts read of co-dependence and abuse. Please, for the love of god and your children, get a restraining order and press for charges and hopefully he'll get jail.
Do. Not. Have. Contact. Ever. Again.
Get counselling. Please.