I am being threatened with injunction, can he do that?

[singlelostmama]

Long story short I met a guy online and saw him for 9 months.
During this time he sent me many videos of him touching himself. Nudes etc
He has broken it off with me, which is fine, obviously I am upset.
But he is threatening me if I contact him he will get an injunction against me.
Obviously I feel incredibly intimidated by this. I haven't contact him, for the fear of a legal case. I haven't contact a good job and two children to think of.

I just wanted to check, would contacting such as messaging an ex partner be grounds for an injunction?
Obviously I'm not going to do this but I just wanted to be clear if he could actually carry out this threat?

Thanks for any legal advice.

You asked if he could successfully ask for an injunction if you contact him.

Are you planning to contact him?

If not, why on earth are you remotely worried about it?

And do you now understand that it is quite simple that if you don’t contact him he will have no need to get an injunction? So are you definitely going to not contact him ever again?

So I was not all wrong.

In answer to yuor question, if you do not want a criminal record walk away now. Never contact him again. Why on earth do you care what state his mental health is in? He chose to be a cheat, he chose to furnish you will nudes and he chose to continue with you behind his wifes back. He is a lowlife and if you send the pics on, contact him or his wife he can get an injunction against you. Walk away you owe it to yourself and your kids. Forget him. What he does now is none of your concern.

First of all it's not a friendly forum

Secondly there are no grounds for an injunction

Thirdly don't talk to his friends about him or their will be grounds for an injunction

If they try cut them off a curt it's over I don't wish to discuss it will be fine

Well, you've been told repeatedly that there are no legalities. It was also increasingly clear that you have made up this concern in the first place. So...?

What I was expecting was an answer to my OP question.....

I just wanted to check, would contacting such as messaging an ex partner be grounds for an injunction?

What I was NOT expecting several personal attacks from PP I had written, which bare no resemblance to my original question.

If you scroll up a little I have given you advice on this

I just wanted to check, would contacting such as messaging an ex partner be grounds for an injunction?

But you kept saing you hadnt contacted him and didn't plan to. So on that basis, there was no injunction possible.

Forget he ever existed.

IANAL, but here's my 'take' FWIW

'Injunction' isn't the correct legal term. It would be a non-molestation order (or in 'US speak' a restraining order).

IF an individual has requested in any way that you do not contact them, then they certainly can file for a non-mol. Whether or not they'd get one is up to a judge. They'd have to show proof that they told you not to contact them and proof that you ignored their request. Chances are that a one off text/call/letter wouldn't meet the threshold of harassment unless that message was abusive or threatening.

So, if you were to contact him ONE time (but FGS DON'T!), chances are that he wouldn't get a non-mol order, but he would be within his rights to contact the police and report it as the start of a harassment case with the purpose of building a case for a non-mol.

This man has relayed to you that he doesn't want to hear from you. Why on Earth do you think you have the right to ignore his request? You're worried about him? He obviously has friends who are looking out for his welfare. Contact from you would only make what appears to be a bad situation (for him) even worse.

Leave him alone.

He is just embarrassed about the affair and doesn’t want to get caught, so is using big words to get you to piss off.
You should.
You should be delighted he is out of your life.

it’s over.

You say you have not posted before but that's not true.

You posted before, asking "Shall I tell the wife after affair with narc husband?"

OP: it’s hard for MNetters to offer advice with some sort of context isn’t it? Surely you can see that?
Without the backstory, it sounded like he’d ended the relationship, then said if you contacted him, he would go legal (passed on via his friend) (as an aside, you had nudes of him)
That sounded so extreme, odd and unnecessary to escalate things like that for no reason at all. But then it was discovered we were only getting half the story.

This. And you say you care about him? Why? He’s a lying, cheating scumbag.
His poor wife.

"I just wanted to check, would contacting such as messaging an ex partner be grounds for an injunction?"

Why does it matter. You've been asked NOT to contact him. Do as you've been asked and you'll have nothing to worry about. It's pointless to lol for technicalities/loopholes to circumvent a request not to contact him.

*pointless to look for

What are we all missing, this was an affair? Why are people posting this?

She made another thread back in July about how he was a married man and a narcissist. They’d only been together for four months at the time so she obviously kept seeing him despite this.

@Losingthetimber

OP has another thread. She had an affair with this bloke. they called it off and then she said he's a horrible narcissist.

But it seems that after they she got back together with him, they broke up again and now she is now asking what would happen if she contacted him even though it's been made clear to her that he doesn't want any contact.

It’s been obvious for a while that the OP is at best stretching the truth.

When you spin a yarn asking for advice with some very obvious (and strange) blanks and bizarre details, it's going to affect the quality of advice you receive in response, and people will naturally try to fill the obvious blanks themselves.

Then when have another thread admitting to an affair with this person and calling them a narcissist which is easily searchable by anyone, the blanks fill in themselves.

So this is not a person you've been in a relationship with for 9 months who has threatened you with legal action out of the blue, it's someone you were having an affair and subsequently fell out with, which makes much more sense.

Now either he fears (or you've threatened) his wife will find out either via a message or the images you have of him, and is he's trying to scare you off.

If you'd mentioned all that in the first place, you'd have got more useful responses (although likely still some - deserved - criticism).

*yarn, even!

Shall I tell the wife after affair with narc husband? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/5130897-shall-i-tell-the-wife-after-affair-with-narc-husband

Wow. Just wow. You've got some neck on you OP.

You're obviously bitter about being dumped and trying to get revenge by sending nudes of him to his wife.

Maybe concentrate on your child rather than obsessing over a married man on the internet?!

Oh my stars @swizzlemix that certainly puts a different spin on it!

@singlelostmama

If you have contacted or are thinking to contact this man to threaten him with telling his wife I'd expect that could be considered harassment. Threatening him is illegal, even if telling his wife isn't. So in that situation, I'd bet he'd get a non-mol after even one contact. And if you are even contemplating sending nudes to either him or his wife, that is a criminal offense.

It's damned obvious from your previous thread that you are not 'concerned' about his welfare, unless you've already blown his marriage apart and are hoping to get him back by being 'sympathetic'.

Does his wife deserve to know? Yes. But that would be one direct communication to her to inform her. You do not need to communicate with him, ever again.