I am being threatened with injunction, can he do that?

[singlelostmama]

Long story short I met a guy online and saw him for 9 months.
During this time he sent me many videos of him touching himself. Nudes etc
He has broken it off with me, which is fine, obviously I am upset.
But he is threatening me if I contact him he will get an injunction against me.
Obviously I feel incredibly intimidated by this. I haven't contact him, for the fear of a legal case. I haven't contact a good job and two children to think of.

I just wanted to check, would contacting such as messaging an ex partner be grounds for an injunction?
Obviously I'm not going to do this but I just wanted to be clear if he could actually carry out this threat?

Thanks for any legal advice.

@singlelostmama
let me make sure if I have this correct.
you were with him for 9 months. You shared explicit stuff.
He’s threatened suicide previously.
He’s now ended the relationship.
He’s told you he’s going to take legal action against you if you contact him.
For no reason whatsoever? Without grounds? Why would someone escalate so dramatically?
Bizarre.

The request not to contact him was via a friend. It’s not certain it was also the threat of an injunction.

She’s said she’s had no contact with him which means no tex from him.

I am asking as would be a bit strange if someone asked via a friend their ex never to contact them again and at the same time also said they would get an injunction if they did.

Mainly because at that point they had no reason to think they would need an injunction if there has been no contact at all.

So either the ex is unhinged or there is more to this.

Have you been messaging since he broke it off? If so, stop. Then you won't have a problem. He can only get an injunction if you're harassing him with constant unwanted contact.

He's asked you not to contact him, so don't.

If what you have said is true the backstory is irrelevant.

Pretty much that.

I dont think he has any grounds upto the end of the relationship.

Then came the message from the friend, he wants no contact, then on chatting to friend he said if I contacted him he worried what he might do...I ask if he meant injunction. Friend verbally confirmed.

Back to my original question, what would be the grounds of an injunction?

Obvs I care very much after 9mth about him, he was in poor mental health. I want to check on him....but as alot of PP saying maybe I should just forget and leave the drama.

What do you mean maybe. There is no maybe. Leave him be.

He sounds paranoid OP or unable to cope with seeing you after the end of the relationship . It’s him not you.

@singlelostmama it doesn't matter what any possible grounds might be. All you need to do is delete any images and videos, and then most importantly block and delete all contacts for him on messaging, social media and the like. Then don't contact him again.

If you do that, then he has no grounds for any legal action.

Actually, he sounds awful and manipulative, and I think you should stop caring about him.
Did the break up come as a shock? Can you say why he ended it?

Take comfort in the fact that you’ve done nothing wrong, made no threats, and bear him no ill-will. Sounds like he’s lashing out, possibly if he’s in a mental health crisis, and ‘warning you off’ via the mutual friend.

https://asbhelp.co.uk/practitioners-hub/non-legal-and-legal-tools-and-powers/civil-injunction/

We don't know what has happened before so can't conclude whether he would or wouldn't have his application accepted But as you won't be contacting him again, it's a moot point. Just leave him alone.

He’s said he doesn’t want you to contact him. You have no plans to contact him. So what are you worried about?

She clearly does or did have plans to contact him.

You immediately asked about an injunction ?

Why ? It would never cross my mind. From the phrasing I could have been concerned the friend meant your ex would harm himself - not an injunction !

If you're not contacting him then no court will issue an injunction or restraining order.
He would have to show harassment, threats, stalking or abuse.

Really odd thing to ask someone to pass on to you if you genuinely haven't been contacting him. But if his mental health is poor then it could be he isn't thinking straight.

I would step away, forget about him. Delete his number and block on any social media so there's no temptation to contact. Clean break, 9 months isn't that long at all and not worth the drama.

No me neither . I’d think suicide or attack. Injunction wouldn’t cross my mind, especially if I’d not contacted him.

I don’t understand this thread, why mention the images and videos, why would anyone ask if there is grounds for an injunction if you’ve not been contacting him. Repeating twice she wants to contact him, even though he doesn’t want it.

anyway the answer is

if you’ve not contacted him and don’t and delete the images/videos he’s no grounds,

if you’ve been contacting him, making threats, both, then he has grounds and yes you could be in significant trouble with the police.

Did you not post something similar a couple of weeks ago and everyone told you not to contact him and that would be the end of it?

Then came the message from the friend, he wants no contact, then on chatting to friend he said if I contacted him he worried what he might do...I ask if he meant injunction. Friend verbally confirmed.

So he hasn't threatened you with an injunction and he hasn't told you not to contact him. His friend messaged you and said he wants no contact.
You then asked if he meant injunction and the friend said yes.
That's the friend talking. It doesn't mean that your ex threatened you with an injunction.

There's something very odd about all of this. I don't know what's going on with you and what you aren't sharing here but the fact is, it's very simple.
He does not want to be in a relationship with you and wants no contact. So you don't contact him. The End.

I just wanted to check, would contacting such as messaging an ex partner be grounds for an injunction?

yes, if done enough, but as you have not contacted him at all, the I am struggling ro understand why you’re asking. Like everyone else is.

I guess you are worried about having a criminal record?
It doesn't sound like he has grounds for getting an injunction.
He would have to demonstrate some legitimacy in his fear that you were a threat.
So if you are concluding that he's mentally unwell... yeah, that seems quite feasible.

Obviously stay far away & consider yourself lucky to have him out of your daily life.

Um yes absolutely leave it.

I assumed you wanted to contact him because he had expensive/sentimental items of yours you wanted back, or you had a child together. You have absolutely no need to contact him.

It's either a result of his mental illness or he's trying to play with your mind (in which case the suicide threat was probably made up too). In any case: he doesn't want you to communicate with him, so don't.

I doubt the courts give out injunctions because you messaged someone once after they said not to, however. That would be way open to abuse.

You're not together anymore. Get rid of any intimate photos he sent you.

I should just forget and leave the drama.

Yes!!! 💯 ☝️

your priority should be your child

if your posts are the full picture he sounds mentally unwell and therefore potentially dangerous. You have a child you are responsible for.
his mental health and wellbeing are not as important as your child’s and bluntly you need to prioritise yourself for your child.

he can’t come after you for anything if you aren’t in contact let alone get an injunction (for what???)

stay well away and ignore.
if you hear any more from him tell him you want no contact and further communications will be considered harassment. Then treat them as such (ie involve the police)

Sorry I have phrased this badly. Friend said he was worried about me, my job, and children.
It was when he said this I asked is he threatening something legal - as I know the man is not a violent person so no threat there

You’ve known him 9months
you really do not know him 🤷🏻‍♀️