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I am being threatened with injunction, can he do that?

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singlelostmama · 20/11/2024 09:15

Long story short I met a guy online and saw him for 9 months.
During this time he sent me many videos of him touching himself. Nudes etc
He has broken it off with me, which is fine, obviously I am upset.
But he is threatening me if I contact him he will get an injunction against me.
Obviously I feel incredibly intimidated by this. I haven't contact him, for the fear of a legal case. I haven't contact a good job and two children to think of.

I just wanted to check, would contacting such as messaging an ex partner be grounds for an injunction?
Obviously I'm not going to do this but I just wanted to be clear if he could actually carry out this threat?

Thanks for any legal advice.

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Losingthetimber · 20/11/2024 16:54

Oh dear op. Oh dear oh dear oh dear.

canyouletthedogoutplease · 20/11/2024 18:07

I'm really confused as to why you would want to contact someone who has told you that they will take legal action if you do so.

I don't get it.

DwarfBeans · 21/11/2024 07:14

This whole sorry tale is so sad. Men doing as they please then threatening to gag women so their wives are kept in the dark.

Yes the OP probably wants revenge but the poor wife. Think I'd want to know.

Losingthetimber · 21/11/2024 08:46

DwarfBeans · 21/11/2024 07:14

This whole sorry tale is so sad. Men doing as they please then threatening to gag women so their wives are kept in the dark.

Yes the OP probably wants revenge but the poor wife. Think I'd want to know.

I’m sorry but the op isn’t some innocent victim, she willingly and knowingly got with a married man.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 21/11/2024 09:16

singlelostmama · 20/11/2024 11:52

Pretty much that.

I dont think he has any grounds upto the end of the relationship.

Then came the message from the friend, he wants no contact, then on chatting to friend he said if I contacted him he worried what he might do...I ask if he meant injunction. Friend verbally confirmed.

Back to my original question, what would be the grounds of an injunction?

Obvs I care very much after 9mth about him, he was in poor mental health. I want to check on him....but as alot of PP saying maybe I should just forget and leave the drama.

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The grounds don't matter because you shouldn't be contacting him ever again. You should have deleted anything explicit already, that's morally the right thing to do. Delete, block and let it go. Do not check on him, that would be a really foolish thing to do.

Wow OP even more foolish in light of your other thread. You can't get anywhere close to valid legal advice when you lie so thoroughly. Advice doesn't change but it goes double now, Delete, block and let it go.

EliflurtleAndTheInfiniteMadness · 21/11/2024 09:40

The truth is relevant to getting correct legal advice, inventing a scenario helps no one. Don't contact him, delete everything, block and you won't have to worry about anything legal biting you in the arse. It's that simple.

prh47bridge · 21/11/2024 14:08

AcrossthePond55 · 20/11/2024 14:12

IANAL, but here's my 'take' FWIW

'Injunction' isn't the correct legal term. It would be a non-molestation order (or in 'US speak' a restraining order).

IF an individual has requested in any way that you do not contact them, then they certainly can file for a non-mol. Whether or not they'd get one is up to a judge. They'd have to show proof that they told you not to contact them and proof that you ignored their request. Chances are that a one off text/call/letter wouldn't meet the threshold of harassment unless that message was abusive or threatening.

So, if you were to contact him ONE time (but FGS DON'T!), chances are that he wouldn't get a non-mol order, but he would be within his rights to contact the police and report it as the start of a harassment case with the purpose of building a case for a non-mol.

This man has relayed to you that he doesn't want to hear from you. Why on Earth do you think you have the right to ignore his request? You're worried about him? He obviously has friends who are looking out for his welfare. Contact from you would only make what appears to be a bad situation (for him) even worse.

Leave him alone.

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I agree with most of this. However, for the sake of correctness, injunction is the correct term. A non-molestation order is a type of injunction.

I have now seen OP's other thread which puts a somewhat different light on matters. However, it doesn't alter the advice. If she doesn't contact him, she has nothing to worry about. She should not contact him ever again.

DaisyChain505 · 21/11/2024 16:00

After reading your other thread it seems you’ve been misleading and deceitful with the details and left out some very major ones like the fact this man is married!

you’re probably not been honest about how much you’ve been trying to contact him or if you’ve been threatening to tell his wife but I’m pretty sure this is the case.

get some self respect and turn your back on this whole situation and focus on your poor child.

RedHelenB · 23/11/2024 07:14

Farahilda · 20/11/2024 09:50

Of course he can, providing he can make a reasonable case that what you are doing is harassing him.

You have no need to be in touch with him, so won't be contacting him, so this is an utter non-issue.

You need to delete the images he sent you, as they are private and personal, and shared in the context of a relationship that no longer exists. No justification at all for you to hang on to them

If he's sent them to her, aren't they gets to decide whether or not to delete them. I mean, most people would delete them but legally would you have to as they were presumably " a gift"?

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