I am being threatened with injunction, can he do that?

[singlelostmama]

Long story short I met a guy online and saw him for 9 months.
During this time he sent me many videos of him touching himself. Nudes etc
He has broken it off with me, which is fine, obviously I am upset.
But he is threatening me if I contact him he will get an injunction against me.
Obviously I feel incredibly intimidated by this. I haven't contact him, for the fear of a legal case. I haven't contact a good job and two children to think of.

I just wanted to check, would contacting such as messaging an ex partner be grounds for an injunction?
Obviously I'm not going to do this but I just wanted to be clear if he could actually carry out this threat?

Thanks for any legal advice.

No I have not posted before

I feel like it literally doesn't matter whether he can or can't. You only knew him 9 months, you have no ties to him, just never contact him again, job's a goodun.

This "friend" is not helping you out by interfering, and I wouldn't discuss your ex with this friend again.

There is only one appropriate course of action - delete all images and videos. Block and delete all contacts for your ex, and then don't ever contact him again.

So for a start, he's not threatened you at all. You were chatting to a friend, and then you suggested that he's so stressed out he m ight threaten you legally, and then you somehow jumped to injunction and the friend agreed?

Honestly, this whole thing is just ridiculous. if you aren't contacting him and aren't doing anything with his data (delete the videos if you haven't already), I think you are turning this into a complete mountain when it's not even a molehill.

Back to my original question, what would be the grounds of an injunction?

There are no grounds for an injunction at this point. If he was worried you might share videos of him, he might send you some kind of legal letter telling you not to. I'm not even sure that would be a legal framework. But it doesn't matter because you're not doing any of that.

That's like sending me an injunction to tell me I cannot use my friend's car. As I have no intention of using my friend's car, have never suggested I will use my friend's car, and in fact, don't drive, it's a completely irrelevant and pointless interaction.

This is presumably the married man you posted about having an affair with a few months ago.

You were making fake profiles to try and catch him cheating on you... despite knowing he was already cheating on his wife with you.

Mate, you've got a child. You're an adult. Time to grow up and stop seeing unsuitable men.

This guy was bad news. It was wrong of you both to have an affair. It has only made you upset and confused. It's toxic and unhealthy.

So put him firmly in your past, move on and make better decisions moving forwards when it comes to relationships.

Don't contact him. And common decency would be to permanently delete any naked or sexual images or vidoes.

Oh and delete all the nudes etc he sent you. There's no reason at all for you to keep them.

Really? This explains a lot.

OP, let it go!

He sounds like a freak.

Don't contact him, delete all the shit. Job done.

This is easy. Never contact him again.

Whatever his issue is he doesn’t want your help. It all sounds messy and dramatic. Save yourself a huge bother and walk away.

This is just so simple.
Delete his contact info, delete his pics, don't contact him.

Then you don't need to know what would and wouldn't qualify for a restraining order or anything like that.

Tell his friend you've no intention of contacting your ex in any way and that chapter of your life is over.

Nothing to worry about then, is there?

Oh. FFS.

Penny dropping hard here.

You're a drama llama. The guy doesn't want to hear from you, leave him alone. It doesn't matter if he thinks he can get an injunction against you (doubtful) because if you leave him alone he will have no grounds. Just let it go.

If you have not been in touch with him at all since splitting at his instigation then no I can’t see a court granting a non molestation order which would be the type of injunction he means. You need to demonstrate that it’s necessary to protect the applicants health and safety and if there has never been any harassment or abusive/threatening behaviour either during or after the relationship the court will not grant the order.

however, why did you mention the videos he sent you? What does that have to do with it? Have you threatened him to send the videos to someone? If you have then that would be grounds for an injunction.

I feel there’s a lot the OP isn’t telling us!
where’s the previous thread?

He appears to have made clear he doesn't want you to contact him. So don't regardless of your intentions/care. If you do care, will have to let him be and not seek to figure out if you can contact him without getting into trouble should he follow through with the threat.

Sounds like the friend was concerned that any contact from you would send your ex into some sort of mental health crisis where he would harm himself. Where did you get the idea that it was about an injunction

I think you just have to accept that you have been dumped. It's not pleasant, but you need to move on. What would you gain from continued contact with someone who clearly does not want to be with you?

I’ve actually found the previous thread.
So, you actually ended it with this married man back in July, but you STILL got back with him, and now he’s ended it?
OP: you have been duplicitous and led everyone on here up the garden path with your half truths. AND have the temerity to post up thread that you haven’t posted about this before. 😡

Grounds for an injunction:

This would be a non molestation order under a 42 of the Family Law Act 1996. Can be granted if the court is satisfied it’s necessary to protect health safety or wellbeing of the applicant and relevant child.

In practice, you would need relatively recent evidence of abuse or harassment with specific incidents. Eg you came to his house and screamed abuse outside, you followed him to his workplace, you’ve told him you will publish his nudes, you send him large number of texts despite him not responding and/or telling you to stop. It can also include actual violence or threats of violence.

If your relationship went a bit sour, he dumped you and you haven’t been in touch with him since then no, he will not get a non-molestation order because he’d not satisfy the test for needing one. Even if he did get one, it’s a civil matter and you wouldn’t need to inform your employer. It’s a crime if you breach one though.

Ugh ffs

but as alot of PP saying maybe I should just forget and leave the drama

What drama?

You split up, you've not contacted him since and have no intention of so doing. He's sent a weird message (and via a third party) asking you to do what you were planning on doing anyhow. I really don't see drama in that!

Various posters have said delete (including all the explicit images) and block. Have you done that? If not, do it today.

(Edited to add: I didn't refresh page before posting, so hadn't seen all the immediately preceding posts, which might be shedding light on the "drama")

Also why would you say you’ve not posted before when you have and it’s so easy to find out via a search?

I HAVE NEVER asked for any advice in this post regarding my RELATIONSHIP

To reiterate I asked about the legalities of Injunction

WOW I thought this was a friendly forum...not to bring people down and personally attack