My husband has been paying for lap dancing and escorts through his company. He said he would take legal action against me if I told anyone.

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Sorry, shaking at the thought of this. I'm at my dads. I've left him.
But if he, through expenses, in a limited company has paid for lap dancing clubs - can I share this? Would it be subject to a freedom of information request?
He said if I told anyone he would take legal action.

Tbh I wouldn’t do anything that’s going to affect his business. If you want to get your hands on his assets don’t do any that will jeopardise their value

He is a bully.

It isn't about being angry. It is about all the spouses at risk of HPV and other STDs that condoms can't protect from. And research says people are less likely to use condoms when they cheat. Look it up!

So if I got in touch via Facebook to the wives would I be at fault?

OH I’ve seen your other threads you want to tell the wives of his business’ clients that their husbands went to lap dance clubs and escorts- that’s why he plans to sue you- it will massively damage his business. You also wanted to publish his company name on here hmm not cool. I know you’re angry but don’t do this.

^My opinion of the OP has completely changed reading the above. You just sound like a bitter wife hell bent on revenge on your husband and sod anyone else.

@misspiggy19 I suppose I'm just surprised after 20 years of marriage

Legally, unless you have signed a document of the non-disclosure variety either with the ltd company or with your husband on a private basis, then there is nothing he can do legally.

So if I got in touch via Facebook to the wives would I be at fault?

At fault or leaving yourself open to be sued? They’re two different things. At fault? Absolutely. you would be at fault for telling them the information- who else would be at fault for you telling them the information?

At risk of being sued? Not if it’s true. And you can prove it.

Bear in mind any damage to his business means you get less in the divorce. Like I said- you’d be playing right into his hands. He wants to give you as little money as possible. If you cause his business to fail he’ll have to give you far less than if it’s successful.

Think smart.

Tell who you like but I wouldn’t put anything in writing.

I don't give a shit about his business. I pity the poor girls stripping for him and his business mates.

How does you telling people help the girls who had to strip for and sleep with him?

Defamation? If he took action against you for defamation the burden of proof would be on you to prove on the balance of probabilities that what you had said was true. Would you be able to meet that legal standard?

It would also cost you money defending yourself.

What are you trying to achieve, honestly? Is your primary concern for the other men's wives, or is it getting one over on your husband?

I would want to know if my husband had been doing stuff like that.

I don't think plastering stuff all over the place will help you or make you feel better. As this thread shows some people will judge you instead of him for making his despicable behaviour public. Quite why, I don't understand, but there you go.

Tell him that you want a nice clean divorce, or he can explain to the tax man about his little dinners

This is excellent advice, he will be very scared of HMRC.

Get yourself a SHL ASAP. A good divorce settlement is the best revenge.

And then after the divorce- when you have your money- tell whoever you like.

If he's claimed tax relief on those costs HMRC might be interested. As a pp said it would be tax evasion.

I'll sleep on it.
I know the men's names, dates etc that correlate to his expenses
I have the receipts
It's a small town that the men are from
I know my ex husband is the dick but i know I want to know.

You could call the women from a withheld number, don’t tell them who you are but tell them they need to get themselves an STI test as their husbands have been cheating and this is 100% truth. Don’t tell them who you are, how you know they’ve cheated, where or when etc. Just say that they’ve cheated. What they do after that is up to them. They can believe it or not. But you’ll have done your part. Without risking your husband being able to prove you did anything.

I was part of a similar situation.

My business partner left his wife for one of our clients. Understandably the wife was very upset and angry. She messaged every client she could with both real and false details of what had occurred.

She got sympathy from some. Most didn't want to be dragged into someone else's relationship dramas. Especially because it's business/clients. It's not friendships.

It did ruin the business. We couldn't recover from that.

I say work through your anger towards him but leave his business out of it.

HMRC will not be interested if it is identified as 'entertaining' it is added back for tax purposes therefore no loss to them. It could possibly be argued it should of been posted to directors personal expenses but again nothing for HMRC to get excited about.

Yes it is, as there will be VAT on the receipt, and you can't claim lap dances as expenses.

@Ignoremeiaminvisible thank you, at least I know where it should sit

Why would you want to ruin him? Yes he's a dick but walk away the better person.

Plenty of good reasons to want to ruin him.

Betrayal. Using other humans as sexual objects. Encouraging other men to betray their wives. Fraud.

He’s disgusting. Let him suffer the consequences of his actions. Anyone saying otherwise is being a tool of misogyny.