My boyfriend got arrested last night and I don’t know what is happening

[Emz2019]

Me and my partner are expecting a child soon, he has children form a previous marriage and yesterday around 5pm he took them home, he stopped in the street and they got out and left but their mum came out and started shouting at him and he shouted back and she kicked the car and he drove off. He got home and was quite upset by this and left a voice mail for his solicitor. Next thing police are at my door and he’s under arrest for trying to run his ex over apparently. This was 6pm. I got a call from the police at the station at 7:30pm telling me that my partner wanted me to know he’s fine I asked when will he be home they said the early hours depending on how busy they get as Saturday nights are busy. I haven’t slept a wink it’s now almost 8am and I haven’t heard any more. I went onto find my iPhone and he’s still at the police station. However he doesn’t have his phone on him so I can’t contact him at all. I tired to call the police station but a voice message says they can not give out any info regarding anyone in custody. I’m going out of my mind now and don’t know what I can do to find out what is happening or when he will be home or even if he’s possibly been remanded in custody. Can someone help me out please I don’t need this stress I’m heavily pregnant

And if you can afford it, maybe try to book yourself in for a pregnancy massage. I had some very stressful stuff happening when I was pregnant and it always helped me.

I am trying I keep putting my phone down then 10 mins later when I still can’t sleep I take another quick look

Hey op, how are you feeling this morning?

Any news?

I am so so stressed I have spoke to DP he’s very stressed and worried also

Has he told you what he’s been charged with?

Can anyone go with you today?sorry if you’ve already answered that.

OP just a little bit of info about court in case you’re nervous.

Be at magistrates court for 10am. Because he’s appearing from custody, it’s unlikely he’ll be up first so you’ll need to wait around a bit in the waiting room. There’s likely to be more than one court room but the usher will call out your partner’s name before the case. But just to be sure you don’t miss it, you could go to the desk and ask the usher which court the custody cases are going to be be heard in. (It depends on the size of the court, but in many provincial courts the custody cases are all heard in the same room because there’s only one with access to the cells downstairs)

He will have had access to a duty solicitor who will talk on his behalf in court. Don’t try and say anything during the hearing. It won’t go down well. You will hear brief details of what the charges are and a brief outline of the case. If he plead guilty, he may be sentenced today although that depends on the charge. If he pleads not guilty (again depending on the seriousness of the charge) then they’ll probably release him and there’ll be a trial at a later date.

Don’t worry. None of this is your fault. Try to eat something while you’re waiting and get some fresh air.

Good luck for today OP. No matter what comes of it all, I hope you get answers and look after yourself

Emz - thinking of you .Please at least sip water if you feel too sick to eat .I find fizzy water good when I'm feeling sick .

You must of course be feeling dreadful but try not to keep repeating to yourself "I'm so stressed" ,it will reinforce the feeling . Try something like "I'm going to act strong ,even tho I don't feel it " It won't help your partner to see you in bits .

You will get through this ,there will be a future .

Look after yourself OP. This is a lot of drama and you need to put yourself and the baby first.

Good luck today...I hope you find out the truth and can help ease your mind at least...

It’s taking ages and I haven’t seen him I think he may be downstairs in a cell? I’m so worried but I have asked to speak to his solicitor but Iv been sat here an hour and nothing yet

Bizarre

Worried about what? He is quite safe op

He will be bailed

If he is innocent then the case will be dropped due to lack of evidence

Worried abou what? About being unfairly represented in court, about having to spend all his savings in solicitors? About not being there for his pregnant partner.

The cell may be warm and dry but still

Yeah, I mean why would anyone be worried or stressed about their partner being arrested, charged and detained for a serious crime?

OP I hope this scan all be sorted and the truth comes out

Oh OP, I've just come across this thread. Hope it all gets sorted out very soon.

If he didn't do it then it's a horrible thing for you both to go through, but if he did do it then it's a really horrible thing for you to deal with and it's really important you get yourself some support.

Take care of yourself Emz

I haven’t seen him I think he may be downstairs in a cell?

Of course he is! And of course you haven’t seen him. You won’t until his case is called and you will see him in the court.

Understand that you are stressed to the max, but try and calm yourself if you can.........

He will be in a cell OP - and unfortunately his solicitor will no doubt have other cases as well as his. If the usher knows you are there they will let the solicitor know and assuming they can discuss the case with you, they will do so when they can. Hope you're ok

What a horrible time for you. I'm sorry for you

Spoken to his solicitor he’s being charged with dangerous driving (his ex claims he tried to drive into her and her children) also assault on his child but all he did was take his arm and stop him hitting the car. So he’s pleading not guilty. He isn’t going in until 2pm.