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My boyfriend got arrested last night and I don’t know what is happening

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 07:43

Me and my partner are expecting a child soon, he has children form a previous marriage and yesterday around 5pm he took them home, he stopped in the street and they got out and left but their mum came out and started shouting at him and he shouted back and she kicked the car and he drove off. He got home and was quite upset by this and left a voice mail for his solicitor. Next thing police are at my door and he’s under arrest for trying to run his ex over apparently. This was 6pm. I got a call from the police at the station at 7:30pm telling me that my partner wanted me to know he’s fine I asked when will he be home they said the early hours depending on how busy they get as Saturday nights are busy. I haven’t slept a wink it’s now almost 8am and I haven’t heard any more. I went onto find my iPhone and he’s still at the police station. However he doesn’t have his phone on him so I can’t contact him at all. I tired to call the police station but a voice message says they can not give out any info regarding anyone in custody. I’m going out of my mind now and don’t know what I can do to find out what is happening or when he will be home or even if he’s possibly been remanded in custody. Can someone help me out please I don’t need this stress I’m heavily pregnant

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riceandpeas123 · 25/03/2018 21:02

Crispbutty as good as your intentions might be, it's probably not helpful to make sweeping statements about the likelihood of bail on a case we really know little about. The OP is piecing together information from her DP, Facebook and the odd word from the police so it's entirely insufficient to start predicting the outcome of his bail application.

OP, try your best to relax tonight, as hard as that might seem. There is really nothing you can do. If I can help you with any of the procedure or terminology tomorrow I'm more than happy to explain things for you.

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 21:16

Iv tried to sleep but I can’t, I feel so drained physically and mentally. Ok so the police rang me and explained only two statements were made, one from his ex one from her dad, her dad claims to have heard my partner threatening to beat up his ex in phone call earlier that day. There was some talk of a base ball bat. He didn’t tell me what his ex said but from what I gather it’s about him attempting to run them over. So do we think maybe bail? Or not likely? I’m so stressed if he doesn’t get bail it could be months before he’s home and if he ends up In prison after trail it could be years

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riceandpeas123 · 25/03/2018 21:31

The courts look at a number of factors when deciding on bail. In very basic terms they are...

If we grant bail:

  1. will he go missing and not turn up to court?
  2. will he commit more offences?
  3. will he interfere with witnesses (try to get people to retract statements etc)

In domestic cases like this they also look at the risk of psychological harm.

If he's [really] never been in trouble before 1 is very unlikely to be a concern. But depending on what's been said (or what the police know) about the history of the relationship or the circs of this case the others might be in issue. That's when the court looks at whether conditions (such as not communicating with her, or staying X distance from her house etc) are considered to see whether they would be enough so the court isn't concerned about him.

That's a general overview. Can't do any more specific as I don't know enough about him and I'm straying into actual legal advice otherwise. But hopefully that helps you understand what you will hear tomorrow.

Time wise things depend on whether the case is magistrates or crown court. From what you've said it could well be a crown court case and the solicitor will discuss it with you tomorrow (which will be at the magistrates court either way)

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 21:36

Thank you. Him staying away from her would not be a worry as he has the non mol from her harassing and stalking and attacking him. He only ever parked at the end of her street when collecting and dropping off his children. However contact has stopped completely since yesterday. But hopefully tomorrow will shed some light. I’m so tired Iv fell asleep but must have only been out 10 mins and I’m awake again

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youarenotkiddingme · 25/03/2018 21:36

Our old neighbour was charged with affray for kicking our front door and threatening to hurt my dad. He was bailed to attend court.

Affray sounds right for what you've described. Charge wise that is - we have no evidence either way who's telling the whole truth.

Unfortunately I do believe whoever you get interviewing you will affect the outcome at the early stages. There has to be an element of judgement because the police weren't there. The decisions made based on limited evidence here prove that!

I hope for your sake he isn't guilty. Try and relax. Can you have a bath or try a meditation app? You need to think of your baby and your BP. Order a takeout and eat, drink plenty of fluids etc.

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Emz2019 · 25/03/2018 21:49

That sounds promising I really hope he gets bailed. I feel quite sickly and there isn’t any food that I would fancy eating. I hope tomorrow I feel better and can manage a bit more food

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Starlight2345 · 25/03/2018 22:02

I can’t add much Op. however you really can do nothing till tomorrow.

Think of baby , get something to eat . Keep off social media . It will all be gossip by now
Try and get some rest , put on easy watch tv if you can’t sleep

Doublemint · 25/03/2018 22:19

You're not in Scotland are you OP?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-glasgow-west-43532397

Nicknacky · 25/03/2018 22:22

She won’t be in Scotland if she is referring to cps.

Doublemint · 25/03/2018 22:25

Ok- phew sorry. Was just watching the news.

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 25/03/2018 22:33

Well its obviously not the OPs DP in Glasgow as he has been in custody since yesterday evening and the police are still looking for that other car driver. (For attempted murder, not affray!)

Bluntness100 · 25/03/2018 22:55

However contact has stopped completely since yesterday

Well yes, as he's in jail apparently . So what is the charge op? If the police are giving you this much detail they must have explained what he's charged with.

snewsname · 25/03/2018 23:19

How stressful. Try to eat for the baby even if you don't feel like it.

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Emz2019 · 26/03/2018 00:47

I have managed around 3 hours sleep now I’ve woken up and feel really sickly. I still feel tired but can’t get back to sleep. He never did ring me like they said he would be able too and nobody else has rang me so I’m no further forward until the hearing in the morning

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LineysRun · 26/03/2018 01:04

Hey, OP. I'll be awake for a bit.

Can you eat a piece of toast? I think you should try that, and some tea.

Haggisfish · 26/03/2018 01:13

I agree with tea and toast. Hope it’s more positive news in the morning op.

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Emz2019 · 26/03/2018 01:26

I’m going to have some water I feel quite thirsty. I really hope it is I’m demented. Everything seamed so normal a few days back now it’s a nightmare spiralling out of control

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ThatIsNachoCheese · 26/03/2018 01:43

Try and have some toast and water op, you'll feel better if you have something to eat.
I am a long term insomniac and the only thing that helps me sleep is concentrating on my breath, in for 3 hold for 3 and then out.

I hope you manage to get some sleep Flowers

8SaltandVinegar · 26/03/2018 01:53

He will be out in the morning. Try and chill out, baby will take what it needs off you. Try a bit of food in the morning. Don't panic.

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Emz2019 · 26/03/2018 01:58

I feel better after some water. I hope he’s out tomorrow but a lot of people have said what his ex is accused him of is quite serious and there is no guarantee he will get bail. I’m trying to stay positive because if he doesn’t get bail then I’ll have no idea when he will be free again

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Emz2019 · 26/03/2018 02:13

I’m not sure if it would matter but my DP has a hospital app in 2 weeks for his heart as he’s been having sever short chest pains and he’s been referred to a heart hospital to do tests for angina. If I took the letter to his solicitor with me tomorrow would it make a difference to him getting bail?

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adayatthebeach · 26/03/2018 02:27

Wouldn’t hurt to ask. Sorry your dealing with this. Hope your feeling ok.

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Emz2019 · 26/03/2018 02:39

I’m feeling quite stressed about tomorrow not knowing what will happen but unstable angina is quite a serious condition and he really needs to attend this hospital app. I will take it with me hopefully it can help

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shesalady · 26/03/2018 02:42

Op try to get some more sleep. You'll be no help to him tomorrow if you end up in hospital! Thanks

shesalady · 26/03/2018 02:43

I know it's easy to say. At least put your phone on the night time less blue light mode if you have one.

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