Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Legal matters

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have any legal concerns we suggest you consult a solicitor.

Can they take my baby away

844 replies

saraheve · 06/01/2017 00:23

HI i really need some advice, my 9 year old son was taken into care due to depression i was unable to keep on top of housework, I was binge drinking on weekends and I was in a unhappy relationship with childs farther, since my son has been taken into care I have attended therapy, hired a cleaner, attended a parent recovery group, relapse prevention group and took parenting courses. I am 8 months pregnant due to give birth very soon, I was given a prebirth assessment that said social services will go to court if they see that babys needs are not being met, unborn baby is on child protection and on the plan it says the same, yet social services say they want to take me to court? I was told their is no present concerns and I have addressed all previous concerns yet they want to still take it to court based on pre historic. I have so much evidence of significant changes yet they want to keep me in hospital once baby is born and have a discharge planning meeting where they may take baby away. Have they got any grounds since I have made significant changes and their is no present concerns. I am very devastated please can somone advise me? Thanks.

OP posts:
saraheve · 23/01/2017 18:27

Thanks my solicitor is onto it and gathering evidence. It's true previous concerns no longer exist so I do have a chance I won't give up. I know I can be a better mum I just need a chance to prove it.

OP posts:
saraheve · 23/01/2017 18:30

DearMrDilkington no court date. Ss like to keep me in suspense.

OP posts:
UnbornMortificado · 23/01/2017 18:37

The thing is Sara you know yourself postnatal MH risks are quite high.

Supervision and support means if you struggle with anything it will be a lot easier to get help.

You might be completely fine but there is never any guarantees when it comes to MH.

I'm PG now (v early) I can guarantee I will be put straight back under the MH team.

saraheve · 23/01/2017 18:45

Thanks UnbornMortificado your right mental health is a tricky thing it can come and go. Best thing is to try and keep yourself in a positive state of mind. I know it's easier said than done. But with the right support and doing things you enjoy looking after yourself can help alot. Congratulations on your pregnancy. Wishing you the best x

OP posts:
UnbornMortificado · 23/01/2017 18:54

Oh god don't you bother worrying about me. (But thank you) You just concentrate on keeping yourself right, for you and your DC.

Wishing you all the best for Thursday. Il keep everything crossed for a quick easy delivery.

Broken11Girl · 25/01/2017 01:17

Good luck for Thursday, lovely.

bummymummy77 · 25/01/2017 02:12

Good luck for Thursday. SmileFlowers

Poorlybabysickday · 25/01/2017 20:13

Good luck Sarah, I think you sound so positive and determined, and I really admire you for making so many changes Smile

saraheve · 25/01/2017 23:11

Thanks for that, Unfortunately I will go to court after I give birth but I have evidence of change. I just need a chance to proove thease changes are permanent x

OP posts:
UnbornMortificado · 26/01/2017 18:12

Hope today's gone ok Sarah and your DD has arrived safely Flowers

saraheve · 26/01/2017 20:08

Thanks I was induced at 11am and still no contractions. Good news their not gonna just come in and take baby. Bad news I have to go court before I'm discharged, so I at least I can get to show my evidence in court. I wonder if the stress is making baby stay in. Their longer x

OP posts:
UnbornMortificado · 26/01/2017 20:48

That seems slightly positive.

The MH service monitoring you will be completely unbiased. I don't know if it counts for anything in court but cpn/MH workers are classed as professionals and their opinion might count for something

Even a mother and baby unit or foster placement for you and the baby will give you a chance to prove yourself.

Have you kept your solicitor up to date?

DearMrDilkington · 26/01/2017 21:00

How's it going sara? Any contractions yet? I was induced, it's not much fun is it! Hope baby is here soon. Have you got anyone with you?

AtSea1979 · 26/01/2017 21:39

Keeping fingers crossed for you. Hope you meet you gorgeous baby soon. Is your Mum with you?

saraheve · 26/01/2017 22:08

Hi yes my mum is with me, bless her she's going to sleep the night in the chair. 11 hrs since I've been induced still no contractions x

OP posts:
bummymummy77 · 27/01/2017 00:10

Good luck chick.

UnbornMortificado · 27/01/2017 06:24

Good luck Sara.

toastyarmadillo · 27/01/2017 06:59

Any sign of baby yet @saraheve?

DearMrDilkington · 27/01/2017 09:27

Glad you have some support with you. Hopefully baby will be here soon.

saraheve · 27/01/2017 15:23

Painful labour only 3hrs I feel so happy

Can they take  my baby away
OP posts:
runningtogetskinny · 27/01/2017 15:48

She's beautiful, I hope it all works out for you x

Oswin · 27/01/2017 15:58

Congratulations! She is beautiful x

UnbornMortificado · 27/01/2017 16:07

Oh wow that was quick. She's lush huge congratulations Flowers

saraheve · 27/01/2017 16:11

Thank you very much. I just saw the mental health team. Social services sent them they thought I might be depressed. But actually I feel so happy of have a little girl. I'll love her so much and won't stop showing I want to be the best mum I can be for both my children. My boy and girl xx

OP posts:
DearMrDilkington · 27/01/2017 16:14

Congratulations, she's beautifulFlowers.

Is your ds coming in to meet her?