Can they take my baby away

[saraheve]

HI i really need some advice, my 9 year old son was taken into care due to depression i was unable to keep on top of housework, I was binge drinking on weekends and I was in a unhappy relationship with childs farther, since my son has been taken into care I have attended therapy, hired a cleaner, attended a parent recovery group, relapse prevention group and took parenting courses. I am 8 months pregnant due to give birth very soon, I was given a prebirth assessment that said social services will go to court if they see that babys needs are not being met, unborn baby is on child protection and on the plan it says the same, yet social services say they want to take me to court? I was told their is no present concerns and I have addressed all previous concerns yet they want to still take it to court based on pre historic. I have so much evidence of significant changes yet they want to keep me in hospital once baby is born and have a discharge planning meeting where they may take baby away. Have they got any grounds since I have made significant changes and their is no present concerns. I am very devastated please can somone advise me? Thanks.

[listsandbudgets]

@JadeQuail It may be better to start a new thread. This is from 2017 and your post may get passed over.

From the little I know SS will look at your life as it is now rather than 13 years ago but I do think that if your DP has a recent history of DV they'll take a dim view of that and you MAY find yourself forced to choose between him and your baby.

I really hope things will work out for you and you have a smooth pregnancy.

But please start a new thread and someone more knowledgeable will be along in a bit

[JadeQuail]

Hello,

Am wondering if I could have some advise please on my current situation..

I have a 13 year old boy who currently lives with one of my family members due to him been taken off me when I was 17 due to me been in a domestic violence relationship, I was very young and nieve and I didn’t see at the time that I was putting my child in danger by staying with his dad from countless domestic violence calls. The social services decided to take my child off me and me see my child with supervised contact.. after a while the contact stopped as my family member didn’t won’t to do the contact anymore as I didn’t get on with my dad. The one who was doing the contact. After a while I went through a contact centre but I got into some financial difficulty and couldn’t afford to pay the 100 pound a month I know that sounds awful but I was really struggling at the time..

a couple of years had passed and I see my son at family gatherings and I also speak to him everyday, my son has been through so much I wouldn’t won’t to put him in a position for him to see me in a contact centre, I have tired speaking to my dad to arrange contact out of the centre but he’s having none of it.. I went back to see a solicitor to get my son back in my care however it was going to cost me over 3,000 and I just didn’t have the money at the time and I know my son is happy where he is and settled.

12 years down the line I am now 30 years old I speak to my son daily but do not have contact. I have been split up with his father who the domestic violence was with for over 7 years.. I have now sorted my life out I work in a law firm, go to university, have a lovely home and a loving partner I have been with for over 4 years.. I have fallen pregnant and I am currently 9 weeks I have phoned the doctor to make a midwife appointment but I am really scared on what the outcome will be.. I have never done drugs or been in trouble with the police. My partner had an issue 3 years ago for a domestic violence but he was found not guilty. He also had some issues before Christmas where he suffered abit of depression and seeked medical advise they gave him some tablets and they just wasn’t working for him. We moved house and he found another job (the reason he got so down due to him loosing a job he loved) he now has no problems and he is happy with life I have read that I will probably have to do a pre birth assessment but I am really scared if my unborn child will be taken away from me. Am happy to do what ever it takes any assessment for this not to happen I am a completely different person I was to what I am now.

Could anyone please give me some advise on what may happen and if they think I will be able to keep my unborn child. I am so scared at the moment and I constantly worry.

[Ginosaji]

Hope things are going well @saraheve

[NannyZB]

I think I will need legal help regarding my grandson in the near future. Does anyone know of a solicitor in Gloucestershire (not Bristol) area who specialises in Parental Responsibility issues but also has experience with adult mental health?
If not, how would we find one?

[saraheve]

Very scary, I only have to redo a parenting assessment from a lady who recently gave me a positive parenting assessment, concerning my baby. Yes I am scared and ss are going to say how am I going to handle 2 children with different needs. One 10 months one 10years but with family support I am confident I can. Any advice.

[Afreshstartplease]

How was court sarah?

[saraheve]

Ultimate sorry

[saraheve]

Definitely especially if I try my intimate best x

[Afreshstartplease]

Totally understand you deciding to go to court already. A small chance is still a chance right!

[saraheve]

Sorry I mean I didn't want to wait until July.

[saraheve]

Thankyou so much. It's just I was told I'm going in to early as my daughters supervision order doesn't end until July. But I have got so much proof of changes I've made and sustained and know I can look after him very well. He also wants to come home very much. I didn't want to wait until March I just followed my heart but I know theirs a possibility I may fail because of my daughters supervision order. I just desperately want him home.

[Tinselistacky]

It's not wrong to fight for your dc. You are showing yourself to be a great dm - before long they will see that and you can have your family back together.

[saraheve]

I went to court today for my son, not sure if I made the right move as my daughter is still on a supervision order until late July.
They said their was little chance but I just wanted to try it don't want to not try.
I also was told 2 children can be on a supervision order and she has less than a year on it. If I fail I'll try again, I'm doubting myself. But I was just following my heart. What do you think.

[UnbornMortificado]

Fresh just seen your linked and popped over to do the same.

Hope your ok Sarah and still doing well

[Afreshstartplease]

Sarah how are things? Are you looking forward to christmas?

I hope you do not mind but i have linked to your thread on another where a lady is seeking advice!

[JaniceBattersby]

That's great news. I often think of you. Well done, and thanks for the update xx

[thequeenoftarts]

Well done Sarah, and thanks for updating us. Wishing you all the best and hopefully it won't be long before you are all together again for good.

[DeriArms]

Congratulations Sarah, keep on doing what you're doing!

[Gorgosparta]

Thats so nice to hear.

Thank you for takimg the time to update

[GrumpyOldCatsNurse]

Such a happy update!

[amaliaa]

Thanks for the update sarah. Glad to hear things are going well.

[Wontsleepcantsleep]

I am so pleased for you things are going well. Good luck with getting your Son back.

[saraheve]

It's just goes to proove you can change your life around social services say I'm a totally different person than last year. Just trying to get my son home now. But at least his happy and healthy too xx

[saraheve]

Hi I just want to update my baby is 8 months now very cute and beautiful. I'm here sole carer and she is at home with me. Social services have said I've proved them wrong when they have previously thought I can't do it. They said I'm a good mum that nice to hear as my baby is a very happy and contented baby. All that anxiety and she's doing so well in my care, crawling around and smiling a lot. I'm just in proceedings to get my son back now so please wish me luck. Thank you for the support throughout my pregnancy x