Can they take my baby away

[saraheve]

HI i really need some advice, my 9 year old son was taken into care due to depression i was unable to keep on top of housework, I was binge drinking on weekends and I was in a unhappy relationship with childs farther, since my son has been taken into care I have attended therapy, hired a cleaner, attended a parent recovery group, relapse prevention group and took parenting courses. I am 8 months pregnant due to give birth very soon, I was given a prebirth assessment that said social services will go to court if they see that babys needs are not being met, unborn baby is on child protection and on the plan it says the same, yet social services say they want to take me to court? I was told their is no present concerns and I have addressed all previous concerns yet they want to still take it to court based on pre historic. I have so much evidence of significant changes yet they want to keep me in hospital once baby is born and have a discharge planning meeting where they may take baby away. Have they got any grounds since I have made significant changes and their is no present concerns. I am very devastated please can somone advise me? Thanks.

[saraheve]

Hi thanks everything is going really well, I'm having a parenting assessment at the moment and so far she is impressed. And the health visitor is very pleased. The social services say instead of them applying for a care order they may just apply for a supervision order and come round about every 3 weeks for about a year. I'm a bit worried as although this is a 100 times better than baby going into care I hope of baby has a supervision order it won't stop my chances of getting my son back. Me and my son still have a very strong bond and he very much wants to come home so I want to do as much as I can for both of them.

[listsandbudgets]

Hello saraheve been thinking about you and your baby. I hope that things are still going well for you both

[saraheve]

I've managed to make lots of significant changes and have had a parenting assessment that has been positive, my baby is 4 months now,
Previously my solicitor said I can gonly back to court in August to get my son back as that would show a year of sustainable and significant change.
The problem is my baby will be on a supervision order for a year to make sure I have sustained the changes for a year for baby.
Do you think I can still try to discharge the care order for my son even if my baby is on a supervision order but living with me. I am greatfull my daughter is with me and the parenting assessor is impressed with my parenting. She is thriving and im so greatfull. I just want my son back too

[Gallavich]

You really need to ask your lawyer for advice on this, not us.

[saraheve]

Yes sorry your right. Things are going well baby is almost 4 momaths she's such a good baby. She's doing very well and tries to talk. I done well in parenting assessment im on the straight and narrow and staying on it. Things could of been so much diffrent but because I have made so many changes she's with me. They are going to be in our lives (social services) for at least a year though to make sure all is well. And at least I don't have to stay in a unit.

[GinSwigmore]

[thequeenoftarts]

Well done Sarah, I hope you're very proud of the hard work you have put in and how far youve come, a huge well done to you pet xx

[JaniceBattersby]

Fabulous. Well done to you xx

[saraheve]

I got my baby and im not in a unit but at home with her. I'm gonna keep her with me forever. And fight for my son to be returned. Now things have changed drastically for the better.

[Justmadeperfectflapjacks]

Well done Sarah. You sound like a dm your dc will grow up proud to have.
Life is hard at times but we always find strength to make it through for our dc!!

[babymouse]

Well done! I'm glad things are going well for you!

[DearMrDilkington]

How are things saraheve? I hope everything is still going well for you and baby. Is it next month that your ds care gets reviewed? I really hope you get him home with you again.

[saraheve]

Hi I just want to update my baby is 8 months now very cute and beautiful. I'm here sole carer and she is at home with me. Social services have said I've proved them wrong when they have previously thought I can't do it. They said I'm a good mum that nice to hear as my baby is a very happy and contented baby. All that anxiety and she's doing so well in my care, crawling around and smiling a lot. I'm just in proceedings to get my son back now so please wish me luck. Thank you for the support throughout my pregnancy x

[saraheve]

It's just goes to proove you can change your life around social services say I'm a totally different person than last year. Just trying to get my son home now. But at least his happy and healthy too xx

[Wontsleepcantsleep]

I am so pleased for you things are going well. Good luck with getting your Son back.

[amaliaa]

Thanks for the update sarah. Glad to hear things are going well.

[GrumpyOldCatsNurse]

Such a happy update!

[Gorgosparta]

Thats so nice to hear.

Thank you for takimg the time to update

[DeriArms]

Congratulations Sarah, keep on doing what you're doing!

[thequeenoftarts]

Well done Sarah, and thanks for updating us. Wishing you all the best and hopefully it won't be long before you are all together again for good.

[JaniceBattersby]

That's great news. I often think of you. Well done, and thanks for the update xx

[Afreshstartplease]

Sarah how are things? Are you looking forward to christmas?

I hope you do not mind but i have linked to your thread on another where a lady is seeking advice!

[UnbornMortificado]

Fresh just seen your linked and popped over to do the same.

Hope your ok Sarah and still doing well

[saraheve]

I went to court today for my son, not sure if I made the right move as my daughter is still on a supervision order until late July.
They said their was little chance but I just wanted to try it don't want to not try.
I also was told 2 children can be on a supervision order and she has less than a year on it. If I fail I'll try again, I'm doubting myself. But I was just following my heart. What do you think.

[Tinselistacky]

It's not wrong to fight for your dc. You are showing yourself to be a great dm - before long they will see that and you can have your family back together.