Baby 5

[gracex4]

Hiya I'm new to this like literally just downloaded the app 5mins ago 😬 but I wanted to see how many big families are out there and when I searched it on here so many negative comments it shocked me! I'd like to chat with mums 4 or more ☺️

Can all the families of 1 or 2 kids explain why on earth they decided to have any kids at all seeing as you care for the environment so much, also I'm presuming you walk everywhere and don't own any pollution emitting vehicle and please tell me your children don't own any plastic tat toys, god forbid, and I'm presuming you would never drink coffee with how devastating the whole coffee making process is on tree growth, not to mention,I'm sure your houses must stink due to the lack of flushing toilets, as of course I'm sure you are well aware of how bad water wasting is,oh the hypocrisy, go way and have a few more kids and learn how to be happy in the world we live in where people should live in moderation with no need for extremes, your reasons for excusing your desire to stop at 1 or 2 kids are not believing so just admit, you are not cut out for rearing more children and are jealous of those who can and who can do happily 😁

Why should I not have 1 child when you have 4 or 5? Wouldn't it be better for us to have 2 each? It is only overcrowded because of families like yours. I'm not the one that needs to make the changes.

LOL @Wolfgirrl.

You're not keeping up with demographic trends, are you?

Despite the best efforts of parents having larger than average families, the UK fertility rate was 1.7 children per woman in 2018.

In developed countries, the sub-replacement rate for the population is a fertility rate of under 2.1 children per woman. In order for the population to increase through births and for the environment to be totally and completely swimming in disposable nappies, each woman in the UK would have to apply herself considerably to the production of more than 2.1 babies.

For every woman having five babies, more than 2 woman have none at all. Two women, remainder one leg, perhaps. I've never been any good at division in my head.

Whatever about the finer points of the maths, it's clear there is no need to fret.

Enjoy a nice cuppa and chill.

@Wolfgirrl
I’m far from bored. I work 35 hours a week, volunteer for Girlguiding for 8hrs a week (plus weekends), go to the gym a couple of times a week, play netball with my team once a week and love to read. The rest of my time is spent taking my 4 children to their violin, piano, swimming, scouting, kayaking and football activities. I like being busy and can’t wait to add to my family :)

Hi everyone
@gracex4 @Mesmeri @OtterBe4

Thought I would quickly let you all know that at 4:52 this morning we welcomed a Beautiful baby girl who we named Cadence Jayde, she was quick in her entrance to the world and didn’t look like an Adelaide! ☺️
Thanks for the laughs last night as I think that’s what did it 🤣🤣

@Gunpowder I agree in part. I'm really not trying to be nasty or personal, like I said I come from a big family myself, obviously I dont view them all in terms of their carbon footprint! Or myself being 1 of 4. And at the end of the day, none of us are perfect, life is incredibly nuanced.

I'm just pointing out why other people may not be happy that you all have large families, as it appeared to go over PPs heads. They seemed to be baffled as to why other people disapprove.

Congrats Esme glad to be of service!

@EsmaeDe
That was quick!!
Well done 🥰

EsmaeDe yayyy!!! Welcome, little Cadence!!

OMG @EsmaeDe well done hun congrats to you all! beautiful name too❤️ are you going to start trying for another one tonight or wait a couple of days 😆

Thanks all! She was very quick.. waters went at about 12, contractions not long after, wham bam she was here! But is Now very content to sleep after her entrance!!

Haha might give it a go tonight .. who knows 🤣 @gracex4

@Wolfgirrl I totally get you hun. But maybe they're right, you're a lovely tank engine lolz 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I must be Henry 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣
World keeps spinning

@EsmaeDe -
Well done! Sweet name

@EsmaeDe

Firstly not only me but my husband, family and friends. And yes 4 of our 7 children are adopted. Not that it should matter.

wow that's amazing, did you adopt here or in one of the other countries you live in?

was the process hard? fascinated to know, I have heard its really hard.

did you have dc before you adopted or after, would it make a difference??

Congratulations EsmaeDe.

Hi @ScarletFever I had my eldest already and he was 12 when me and hubby got together. I couldn’t have asked for a better man to step in to his life and we knew we wanted children pretty early after meeting. We tried for over a year but nothing. And so we made the decision to adopt our first child. We did it in Oz which is where my husband is from. Then our second was also gifted to us from parents in the USA But I was pregnant at the same time when he cane to us 😬 then we were lucky enough to be gifted our twins and now I’ve just birthed our newest edition.
I dont think the adoption process wa hard in particular. But it’s hard on yourself as you don’t know what is happening with the child you’re going to adopt iyswim? I think we had the hardest time adopting the twins as it was very complicated but t wouldn’t put us off in the future 😁

Just remembered the second part of your question. Having DC before didn’t make a difference. Hubby said he was happy it being just us 3 if I didn’t want anymore children 👶🏻 but you know how it is 🤣

@EsmaeDe

Hi *@ScarletFever* I had my eldest already and he was 12 when me and hubby got together. I couldn’t have asked for a better man to step in to his life and we knew we wanted children pretty early after meeting. We tried for over a year but nothing. And so we made the decision to adopt our first child. We did it in Oz which is where my husband is from. Then our second was also gifted to us from parents in the USA But I was pregnant at the same time when he cane to us 😬 then we were lucky enough to be gifted our twins and now I’ve just birthed our newest edition. I dont think the adoption process wa hard in particular. But it’s hard on yourself as you don’t know what is happening with the child you’re going to adopt iyswim? I think we had the hardest time adopting the twins as it was very complicated but t wouldn’t put us off in the future 😁

thanks - i was concerned it was too intrusive to ask

Don’t be daft! We are very open to questions !

I didn't think you were allowed to adopt when you were pregnant! Are you American? So you've been together 6 years, if eldest is now 18? How long did the adoption process take? Did they not mind you hasn't been together that long? Are there not limits on how many children you can adopt, in order to most benefit the ones you already have? Sorry, lots of questions! So fascinating.

@EsmaeDe Congratulations on the birth of your daughter

@CommunistLegoBloc
Some agencies closed our applications to adopting when we found out we were pregnant. Others didn’t. We got pregnant just after starting the process. The ones that didn’t, asked about our relationship being so ‘new’ but didn’t seem concerned as we could provide for the children with or without each other.
In regards to adopting multiple children, it was never an issue in our circumstances. All our children were under 1 when we were lucky to get them.
When we adopted our twins it was a bit of struggle because they had already been placed in a home before us but the family wanted them ‘rehomed!’

I’m half American 😬 my father is American, my mother is English.

Goodness, thanks for replying so quickly when you've just given birth and have so many other small children to attend to!

How do you live between three countries (and continents?!) in practical terms? Does it not unsettle any of the children, particularly the twins who have presumably had a lot of change in their young lives?

Haha I’m sitting here with her! The children are with their dad so it’s just me and her atm 😌

It’s just something we do. It’s never really been a thing if you get what I mean? It’s just our life. Children are resilient things. We decided early on we wanted to be together as a family so we would have to move about. But we settle every now and then for months at a time then o mother times it’s hectic. The twins are none the wiser atm to be honest.

We’re a bit laid back so it’s easy really and have supportive family and friends

@EsmaeDe

Haha I’m sitting here with her! The children are with their dad so it’s just me and her atm 😌

It’s just something we do. It’s never really been a thing if you get what I mean? It’s just our life. Children are resilient things. We decided early on we wanted to be together as a family so we would have to move about. But we settle every now and then for months at a time then o mother times it’s hectic. The twins are none the wiser atm to be honest.

We’re a bit laid back so it’s easy really and have supportive family and friends

when you say "new" how long had you been together before you started the adoption process?