IVF/ICSI May/June 1000 posts plus :)

[Cauliflower82]

Hi peeps :)

I’ll hyperlink this to our old thread so we can continue bitching about crystal82 😂

I can’t believe we’ve almost got to 1000 posts. I didn’t even know that was a thing - thank you @kittykatsmile because I had no idea it would just max out and I can NOT go on without you all. That’s not even an option.

@KittyKatSmile Yes, I have read that too. I'm finding the complete contrast of thoughts and emotions so tough. Today, I'm better and I'm thinking more logically that I've actually only had 1 failed transfer and when I go to my follow up, I could ask them then if they would advise anything different if hypothetically, a client presented with a failed transfer after having 1/2 v early natural miscarriages over 3 years!

@Welshpugmomma good luck for tomorrow and @Cauliflower82 good luck for Friday!

Ladies who have had a first scan is it a normal ultrasound not an internal? Let me know so I can groom accordingly ;) taaa

@Welshpugmomma it's dildo cam I'm afraid lovely. Good luck tomorrow x

Awww man more ! Will have to get up extra early then haha

@Welshpugmomma I mean, no, just no. I'm not bothering. Let them look at each other and say 'this is why she's got to do it on her own'!!! They've seen it all before

Ref military life - I've been really lucky to be fair, we've been together for over 14-years and he's always been in. I swear the time apart has kept us together! Last time he checked he has done over 3-years away in that 14-years. He's been to Afghan a fair few times (4/5, I can't remember really!) First tour I was nervous and then 2nd one I realised that he was more likely to die in the UK than there so chilled out. It's much better for him if I'm chilled as he doesn't have to worry about me and stay focused on the job as in a war situation it's not just his life he's looking after.
I think 75% of the time I'm a chilled bean, not point worrying about what you can't control.

@Zest11 - I'm glad to see you are changing your thinking, there's a great TED talk about positive and negative thoughts and how if you turn a negative positive it's much easier to process.
Ref paying for it, life it way too short for savings! But in all honesty, think about what you can afford and stick to it. I've made the desicion that I don't want to have £££££s of debt and then not have a child. I'd rather be childless and experience life.
But give your clinic a call and get your follow up booked, I think it'll ease your worries and go in for a full disclosure. You are not at the end of the road, you've just hit the same bump 70% of other couples do on their first cycle.

@KittyKatSmile - love the name! Stick it in the regional boards, doubt anyone will go wondering in there!

Good luck with your scans @Welshpugmomma, @Cauliflower82 & @kittykatsmiles.

@Mrbay Wow I love your mentality about not worrying about what you can't control. That is also interesting about how there is more chance of death in the UK than Afghanistan. I guess the media portrayed things differently!
And yes, you're right about running into the same hurdle 70% of others have. Yes, I couldn't bare to have a debt of any kind...We'll be okay for a bit but I am worried this will go on indefinitely but like you said...can't worry about what you can't control.

Good luck @Welshpugmomma and @KittyKatSmile I really hope all is okay for you both. Oh and KittyKatSmile, you could message us as to where you hide our new forum so all the other Keith's don't find us and carry on wanking over our posts

Just had my scan girls all good :) saw the heart beat and all looked good 7+3 weeks... Scanxiety is real I barely slept a wink last night for looking through other people's posts not a good idea!

Hope yours goes ok too @kittykatsmile and for you tomorrow @cauliflower82

@Welshpugmomma hurrah! I was waiting for you before I posted. I was super chilled before I went in and then almost had a heart attack as soon as I was on the bed.... saw Cutie moving around loads and moving its arm (some might say 'waving'. I wouldn't as it still looks like a blob with one deformed arm and one deformed leg )

Hoping I can now start to relax a bit more. Ha.

@Mrbay what on earth is a regional board?! Help an old man out :-)

Haha aw what you like you sensitive soul! I can't believe that the 'it only takes one' has just worked, I think I'm still in shock ! I felt so sick with nerves when I went in... Glad you got a little wave mine was just blobbing! I'm having another scan in 2 weeks as well to listen to the heartbeat :) just about to talk to DH and share the good news !

@Welshpugmomma yes mine was blobbing at 7weeks. You'll probably get a wave or a kick in another 2 weeks. So happy for you. Enjoy the chat with DH; must be so hard being apart at this time xx

I feel hard done by now as all my scans are done until 12 weeks 😂I don't feel sick anymore either so feel something is wrong.

Maybe a tmi question ladies, but...

Are you guys dtd? We waited until we had the scan to know everything was ok but still haven't! Someone tell me to stop being silly and crack on

@RRoonilWazlib we haven't because I've got a haematoma that was only found on the second scan and everything says avoid it whilst it's there. So holding off a while longer.

@Zest11 - I can't remember the exact numbers but many did lose their lives in Afghan but i have the mentality that you never know when your time is up, so no point worrying about it!
You and your partner just need to decide what you can afford financially and emotionally and stick with the plan. Personally I decided that I didn't want to spend years of my life on drugs trying to get pregnant if it doesn't happen after 4-cycles, that's it for me and my hubby.

@KittyKatSmile @Welshpugmomma - glad your scans went well and that you can start to relax a bit more :)

@Ginandtonic31 - just be glad you can keep your food down now, I'm sure morning sickness settles down once the body learns to cope with it's new role.

@RRoonilWazlib - I'm not even preggers and I still have DTD - I had a reaction to the gel so I'm now just putting it off!!

Did I tell you all that we welcomed a new puppy to the household this weekend?

haven't* - ahhhhh

Oh @KittyKatSmile - its the local boards I think - I'll have a little look around or we could put it in Chat.

or you could pop it in ABIU - to still enjoy being part of the back passage gang?

Ok I've hidden it in Other Stuff/AIBU. Let's see if this works. If anyone can put a link in so that any other girls don't get lost, that would be fab dabby dozy.

Keith x

does this work? www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3653655-keith-s-back-passage-girls

@Welshpugmomma and @KittyKatSmile excellent new you two :) I’m happy to hear everything is progressing so nicely xx

@zest11 please know that I’m always thinking of you (in a none creepy way I hope, not like the way Keith does). I just never know what to say. I’m sorry, I’ve just been reading back through your posts and I just wanted to give you a quick hi xx

@RRoonilWazlib it’s like we’re teenagers again... everything but dtd 😂 just too scared atm and I don’t feel like it.

@Mrbay yes that did work, thank you! See you on the flip side all x

@Ginandtonic31 They won't too worried about the haematoma as they say they are quite normal. They checked and said the placenta was attached well so it was just one of those things.

@RRoonilWazlib We haven't dtd again yet either. Was going to last weekend/this week but then had bleeding and the haematoma so have to wait again to make sure everything is okay again first.

(I shall just use one of our last 3 messages here to say I'm just going to ignore those imposters and hope they go away! Nosey parkers!!)

I'm not sure if there's enough space here but I think we should move from AIBU. That board has the most traffic and most threads are read and so we are bound to get loads and loads of comments. We would be better on the infertility board.