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September/October IVF

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WineWinner · 02/08/2018 13:19

Hey,

I've had my appointment through finally to start my first round of IVF. Our consultation is September and hoping if we start on CD21 (no idea if we will, just what I'm presuming from research) then we will be good to start just after the middle of the month. Anyone else the tentatively waiting for a September start?

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Trying2bemum · 22/10/2018 20:33

Looks good to me fingers

I was scanned again today - think I've got 12 on the right, less on the left. The cyst is still there which is worrying me a bit but they didn't seem too concerned. They upped my stims dose and I've now added cetrotide. Am a bit headachey and tired but basically fine.

ginandtonicformeplease · 22/10/2018 21:14

Glad to hear everyone's doing well after EC today.

I spoke to the nurse at my clinic; she said to test again tomorrow, and if it's still negative I have to continue taking cyclogest and progynova until Friday and then test again. Not sure why, but the Friday negative is the one they go by.

I could go down the clinic for bloods, but it's a long way and also yet another charge - do most clinics charge for the pregnancy test or is it just mine? I didn't mind last time as it was positive, but now I'm thinking it's a bit cheeky!

At least DH and I are on the same page about what to do next - well, we're on the same page in that neither of us know what we want to do, but we've got the same reasoning behind that.

Peanut1980 · 22/10/2018 21:35

@ginandtonicformeplease. I have to pay for my beta blood tests. £50 for each test x

CritterTamer · 22/10/2018 22:20

Hmm, my beta was free, but that might be because it was done as part of a set of emergency blood tests when they diagnosed OHSS. Not sure whether it would have been an extra charge if I’d just gone back with a positive HPT or not. When you read the American IVF forums the beta test seems to be the standard they don’t seem to use pee sticks at all.

CritterTamer · 22/10/2018 22:22

They also didn’t charge me for the clexane injections prescribed because of the OHSS so thinking about it that’s probabl6 why.

Peanut1980 · 23/10/2018 07:17

Oh my god. I’m so relieved. Clinic has just called me and my beta has more than doubled so they’re really happy. I’m booked in for a scan on Thursday of next week. I’m so relieved.

Now I’m praying for the rest to get some amazing results 🙏🙏🙏

LopeyLopez · 23/10/2018 08:22

Yay! Excellent news @Peanut1980 And thanks for thinking of me. It does make this horrible process a bit better to know there are so many of us in it together xxx

FingersXssd83 · 23/10/2018 08:36

I agree, we've told some friends that we're doing IVF but nothing more. It's a very lonely process so great to be able to share the journey with you all. Hope everyone has a positive day today 

ginandtonicformeplease · 23/10/2018 08:58

So today was my test day, negative. I wasn't expecting anything else. You're right @FingersXssd83 , it is ridiculously lonely - we told a friend each last time, and my mum when I had the miscarriage, but I couldn't face telling anyone at all this round.

I'm bowing out now, but I hope everything goes well for everyone.

ParksAndRecreation · 23/10/2018 09:15

Congrats @peanut1980 you must be so happy!

I just had the call from my clinic and of the 11 eggs, they injected 10 (1 was abnormal) and 7 have fertilised overnight.
I was hoping for 5 at the very best, so I’m shocked all over again.
They’ve booked me in for ET on Saturday but will update me on Thursday as to how the little guys are getting on. Hopefully enough of them will make it through the next couple of days.

Hoping my EC buddy @lopeylopez has good news this morning too 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

LopeyLopez · 23/10/2018 09:27

Hmmmm....well I got the call. Of 8 eggs 6 were mature and injected but only two fertilised. Not so good. Worse rate than last time. At my clinic they don't offer 3 day transfer and they don't tend to look at the embryos or update until day 5, so I just have to keep everything crossed that these two, or at least one of them, make it until then.

They have booked me in for transfer on Saturday regardless but have warned that it may not go ahead. They will let me know that morning.

Trying to remain positive but it is very hard. I just don't get why my eggs are so crap!!!?!?! I am 38 but I seem to have the eggs of a 45 year old. I have done everything I can the last 6 months to improve them. My mum had kids naturally at 38 and 40 and then a late menopause, so it's nothing hereditary. I am stumped. I can only assume that my wild lifestyle in my 20s ruined them....!

@ginandtonicformeplease that's hard, sorry to hear that.

@ParksAndRecreation great results, fingers crossed for Saturday. Will you have one or two pit back, if that is an option? Under 40 they only allow one at my clinic.

LeslieL · 23/10/2018 09:31

Hi
I am a journalist and Postgraduate Student at Goldsmiths working on an online piece on IVF and the postcode lottery system in the UK. A topic which I am very interested about and want to shed light on.

I was hoping to interview women based in or near London who are currently trying or have tried IVF.

The piece I am working on is an online and data-driven project for Goldsmiths University. As I will be working with lots of numbers and statistics I would also like to bring a personal perspective and opinion into it. Contact me via email: [email protected]

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ParksAndRecreation · 23/10/2018 10:08

@lopeylopez - it’s a cliche I know, and one you’re probably sick of hearing - but we only need one...so I’m really, really hoping yours develop brilliantly over the next few days. The embryologist this morning said they wouldn’t update us, but I asked if she would so she’s going to call on Thursday and let us know how they’re getting on. They do have a 2,3 or 5 day transfer option, so I guess if they suddenly wanted to transfer on Day 3 they would call me in. Bit weird of any clinic not to take the time to let people know how their cells are doing!
Waiting until Saturday will be really tough, and I feel for you.
Did you change protocol at all this cycle? Maybe that is what changed the outcome for you? If you didn’t, then it just goes to show how much of a game of numbers and luck this all is. That doesn’t make it better - but sort of makes it easier to feel that there really isn’t anything you can do to effect the outcome.
In terms of what we might put back - if we are lucky enough to have more than 1 then I’m not sure yet. Terrified of twins, but then it would mean we were sort of done forever...and at 41 I don’t have time to dick about!

Dia12 · 23/10/2018 10:33

Great news @peanut1980, you can hopefully begin to relax a little and enjoy being pregnant!!

Good news on your embies @parksandrecreation and @lopeylopez - 🤞 for you both to get quality blasts for transfer. Lopeylopez you’re still in the game so keep your chin up xx

Any ideas of when your EC will be @trying2bemum

So sorry @ginandtonicformeplease about the bfn. Sending you lots of love.

LopeyLopez · 23/10/2018 10:35

@ParksAndRecreation if I were you and if I had the option I would go for two....yes it is scary with the possibility of twins, but like you say there may not be another chance later, and you would have your family complete in one go.

My protocol only changed this time in so much as I was on much higher doses (the highest) of stims: went from 300 to 450. Everything else was identical.

I really really hope mine hold on too but I am kind of looking at others options to protect myself from what the statistics of attrition would tell me is the inevitable disappointment on Saturday.

We already have one child and that is a blessing. Just have to focus on that. Thinking of other things to concentrate on and aim for in life that are non-family related. Like getting super-fit and healthy. Going vegan. Getting our own house and making it nice (we're still renting...) Sacking off work and going part-time. Or getting another job/career altogether as I am so sick of working all hours and feeling no appreciation or benefit.... those are my thoughts at the moment anyway.

I would have considered adoption after this ivf (advised not to try another ivf after this one unless outcomes such as fertilisation rates are better, which they are not) but my partner would need a lot of convincing. His heart is not in having another child like mine is - of course he would love one, but only to make me happy and because he knows it's what I want - and I think this would come through in the interviews if we went for adoption. His lack of enthusiasm would show through and we would fail - again - so it's prob a no-go.

So I am looking at moving forwards as a one child family and all that that entails - of which there are many positives, e.g. more money, more holidays, more attention for that child - from now on.

LopeyLopez · 23/10/2018 10:37

Sorry cross post @Dia12 thanks and I know all is not lost just yet...just trying to mentally prepare myself.

Dia12 · 23/10/2018 10:41

I agree @parksandrecreation it’s really strange that they wouldn’t give you an update during the 5 days of development as lots can change.

My protocol changed this time round and on paper I should have responded better but actually got half the number of eggs that last time but better fertilisation rate - so perhaps they were better quality? Perhaps not. Who knows....the more experienced I get with ICSI (unfortunately) the more I realise it really is very unpredictable and my horoscope forecast in the local paper could be just as accurate in guessing what would happen next!!

Dia12 · 23/10/2018 10:46

I applaud your courage and positive outlook @lopeylopez, and agree there are a lot of amazing life opportunities to appreciate and make the most of. It’s wonderful that you have a child already - that must bring some comfort.
I’m sure you will find your happy ever after ending - whichever path you chose.

CritterTamer · 23/10/2018 13:45

Hi everybody

@Ginandtonicformeplease I’m so sorry to hear your news - this part truly is the worst part about the IVF process. Take some time to look after yourself and your DH and I wish you all the luck in the world should you decide to try again xxx

@Peanut1980 - excellent news - congrats 😁 no more blood tests needed?

@Lopeylopez - I have everything crossed for your little embies to make it to Saturday 🤞 hang on in there xxx

Peanut1980 · 23/10/2018 14:40

I’m so sorry to hear that @ginandtonicformeplease.

Thanks @lopeylopez, @ctittertamer and @dia12. No more blood tests! Phewf.

@parksandrecreation and @lopeylopez I’ll keep you both in my thoughts over the next few days. COME ON EMBIES!!!! 💪💪💪

CritterTamer · 24/10/2018 05:29

Morning ladies, need to vent a bit as I’m so worried. Had a sudden improvement in the OHSS symptoms yesterday afternoon, at the same time as a loss of all pregnancy symptoms (sore boobs, little cramps and nausea all gone as well as a reduction in the OHSS pain). Of course now I’m super stressed that this means I’ve lost the pregnancy - after lying awake for hours staring at the ceiling i finally dropped off around 4am and just woke up screaming from the most horrific nightmare (terrified poor DH) with this awful sense that my pregnancy is gone.

There’s no bleeding or spotting but wouldnt the utrogestan prevent a bleed anyway? Just took a one step HPT and the test line came up instantly darker than the control line - does this mean things are still ok or would it just be too soon for tests to start fading?

Sorry for the rambling nonsense post, just don’t know where else to turn or what to think 😢

Peanut1980 · 24/10/2018 06:05

Morning @crittertamer. Wow you’ve had a rough night. I’ve spent the past few days with no symptoms but then had lots of cramping last night which weirdly I enjoyed because it was nice to have a symptom. It’s so early for symptoms. I really wouldn’t worry at all. Maybe your symptoms were heightened because of the OHSS? Please try to relax and think of little embryo nice and snug in there developing as it should xxxxxx

CritterTamer · 24/10/2018 06:13

@Peanut1980 I know you’re talking sense and i need to calm down 😊 I think it was the awful sense of impending doom I had in waking from that nightmare, given that I was already a bit worried and I panicked.

I guess if there is enough HCG to produce a line that dark on the test then it must just be that my body is getting used to it (I hope!)

Peanut1980 · 24/10/2018 06:43

@crittertamer the dreams during pregnancy are so vivid though so I completely understand. I keep on having dreams about a guy on my Facebook 🙈🤣 Luckily before anything naughty happens I suddenly remember my loyalty to my husband and bolt. Phewf. Every time I see him post on FB I’m like ‘ahh here we go again. Going to dream about you tonight!’ 🙈🙈🙈

I found reading some ‘positive ivf affirmations’ on pinterest really helped me think positive again. Check it out. Hope you manage to rest up and get some sleep today. Look after yourself 😘

CritterTamer · 24/10/2018 07:37

Yeah the dreams this past week have been vivid! This one was awful - without too much graphic detail it involved a man killing a dog with a chainsaw - I can still see it now 😢

On the plus side I’ve started feeling sick again and boobs are getting a little tender again so feeling happier now!

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