September/October IVF

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Hey,

I've had my appointment through finally to start my first round of IVF. Our consultation is September and hoping if we start on CD21 (no idea if we will, just what I'm presuming from research) then we will be good to start just after the middle of the month. Anyone else the tentatively waiting for a September start?

It’s uncanny that you have posted about this @crittertamer I’ve been having really horrible vivid nightmares too the last couple of nights. Last night in particular i slept a total of 2 hours and feel exhausted now. I’ve read this could be because of increased progesterone and raised body temperatures that can cause vivid dreams!!??!!

Anyway, I’m hoping it’s related to a BFP but who knows.
Glad you’re feeling better happier now ☺️ You’ll be just fine. x

@dia12 ohhhhh that sounds exciting. When is your test date? For me that was one of the first signs of possibly being pregnant as I know things get really funky when you close your eyes at nighttime x

Ah I hope so @peanut1980 cos I’m not feeling much else. Do you still get any vivid dreams or has it settled? I have mild cramping but that’s because AF is normally due now but being pumped up with progesterone pessaries (yuck) I don’t think I’ll see it.

My OTD is Monday 29th which will make me 13dp5dt - why sooooooo long? It’s utter torture. My DH is very by the book and doesn’t want me testing early as this is what I did last time and got a decent positive on FRER but then faded a negative on the normal HPT. It was just the tail end of a CP.

I keep justifying the need to test NOW - if it’s a bfn I can get start to process it and get over it and get on with my life. Compounding things is the fact it’s my DH’s 40th on Friday and ICSI has already dampened the mood - don’t want to utterly destroy it with a bfn 😑

@Dia12 I think you’re right about the vivid dreams being caused by progesterone - I often get them during my luteal phase but they seem to have ramped up a bit this past week. I really hope it’s a positive sign for you too! 🤞

My clinic’s OTD was also 13dp5dt - it seems like forever. I only found out earlier because of the OHSS but I was definitely planning to wait if that hadn’t happened because I hate peeing on sticks with a passion. At least I did - I’m finding I quite like it now LOL. This mornings line was so dark that the control line looked faded out. Sore boobs and nausea have been back with a vengeance this morning so I’m definitely feeling calmer now - I bought myself a copy of what to expect when you’re expecting and it’s just arrived so I’m now really excited to read it 😁

@dia12 I completely understand about not testing early. Cramps are a good sign. I know it can be AF but can also be from it all starting to stretch down there. Yes still having crazy dreams x

Don’t blame you! It seems like such a wonder - a darker second line. I’d be framing that elusive positive HPT as trophy. Ah, how my life goals have changed 😅

@Dia12 I’m so with you on that - if you’d told me ten years ago that my entire existence would one day come down to staring at a stupid pee stick every month desperately hoping to see 2 lines i literally would have rolled about on the floor laughing! I now have a collection of 3 pee sticks next to m6 bed - I can’t bring myself to throw them away because it’s like I need to keep looking at them to reassure myself that this is actually real. Sad I know....

Morning ladies - just had a call from the hospital with a Day 3 update and all 7 embryos are still going strong.
The embryologist was saying something about fragmentation (couldn’t really concentrate at that point) and how at this stage they are considered either high or low quality. All 7 are high.
I don’t expect them all to still be here on Saturday in time for transfer, but I so happy they’re still hanging in there.
Science is amazing!

@parksandrecreation that’s amazing news!! Go embies!!!! 😁🙏

@parks1980 Thanks! It’s so weird, having never had an ounce of maternal instinct (which has always freaked me out) I suddenly want to go and sit on those 7 little guys like a hen!!! 🐔

@parksandrecreation I know what you mean. It always felt so weird speaking to the embryologist about my embies. I remember thanking her for looking after them and asked her to give them a hug 🙈 Felt so nice when it was put back although I feel for the frozen one left behind. At least we have a reserve god forbid things don’t work out with this pregnancy.

Sending positive vibes your way for your embies still going strong. Thinking of you too @lopeylopez x

Really gutted, we had 10 eggs collected yesterday and the embryologist has just called to say 7 were mature and only 3 fertilised through standard IVF. That means we're below average fertilisation. She said they'll have a better idea tomorrow to about 80-90% certainty as to the quality of the embryos but we should keep Sat free because they might call us in that day for a three day transfer. So upset, I never wanted to leave starting a family until 35 and now feel like it isn't ever going to happen 😞

@fingersxssd83 oh I’m sorry to hear you’re upset. Don’t give up hope on this 3 embryos left!!! They might all be top quality. It’s such a tough rollercoaster of emotions. Sending a huge hug and positive thoughts your way xxxx

@Fingersxssd83 so sorry to hear you’re feeling down at the moment. As Peanut said, there’s every chance that you still have 3 great quality embryos there so try not to give up hope. Fingers crossed that all 3 keep doing well for you 🤞

@Parksandrecreation - great news! Looking good so far for you 😊

Thanks @CritterTamer @Peanut1980 It's challenging because all you see online are fantastic numbers so it's hard not to feel deflated. At least tomorrow we'll know more. I think the best outcome now will be a 3 day tx with a frostie but who knows! We haven't done IVF before so I guess this is a learning process.

Hope everyone else is having a better day xx

@fingersxssd83 try googling 3 fertilised eggs success stories. I just did and was reading about ladies that only had one fertilised that went all the way to a BFP and birth. I do understand but don’t lose hope yet 😘

Hello! I've been a massive lurker on this thread over the past few weeks.. just finished my first cycle.

The reason I'm posting is to tell you not to give up hope @FingersXssd83! I responded really poorly to the stims, we only had two eggs harvested. By some magic (ICSI) both fertilised and after the most agonising wait both made it to five day transfer (only thing they do at my NHS clinic). Waiting to find out if they had made it was the worse few days of my life. They were only 'fair' quality so we put both back. My OTD was Tuesday and had bloods confirmed yesterday, BFP with very high hcg (1086)!

I really had given up hope after egg harvesting and really tortured myself, so still cannot believe that the elusive two lines has finally happened. So you're definitely not out yet. Hope a small success story helps even though it's obviously such early days for me and my anxiety levels that it will stick are through the roof.

Thanks for your positivity @Peanut1980 and wow @PinkFootedGoose you must be delighted especially after all of the initial turmoil! I really hope your pregnancy goes amazingly and that any anxiety calms down a little for you. It's really unfair on those who struggle to get pregnant and then carry more stress over the 9months! We were told this would be a rollercoaster and it sure is! I'm trying my best to relax but have literally spent all day since the call online googling this and that. Hoping and praying that our 3 are looking okay tomorrow xxx

@FingersXssd83 your numbers are similar to mine but slightly better! We had six mature eggs and only two fertilised. And with ICSI! 😞 Still have no idea what will/has happened to them as it's only day 3 and I don't get an update til day 5. To be honest I have stopped obsessing about it. Day one I was googling like crazy and driving myself mad and to (many) tears. Since then and with work taking up all my time I've put it to the back of my mind. What will be will be. If they make it, great. If not....well I've already sort of written off this cycle anyway, so anything that does happen will be a pleasant surprise. I guess that's just my way of dealing with it.

Good luck to you though. I hope for the best outcome for both of us.

@PinkFootedGoose thanks, what a lovely story. Has given me a bit of hope.

@ParksAndRecreation Fantastic news; glad your embies are still going strong! What fighters they are! X

@pinkfootedgoose that’s amazing news! Congratulations 😘😘😘

@Pinkfootedgoose Welcome and congratulations!

Thanks for your good wishes ladies . I'll keep my fingers crossed for all the embryos in the lab.

@FingersXssd83 hoping you get good news this morning - been thinking of you.

@lopeylopez - got everything crossed for your embryos. The waiting game is incredibly tough!! Having no control over what happens is unbearable.

@pinkfootedgoose - welcome!

Oh hell - my consultant just called me to confirm the transfer tomorrow morning, and heard me coughing on the phone...he got spooked and is now thinking we should freeze everything and do a FET in a month or so.

He's worried that I'm viral and that this would be risky - but I'm obviously REALLY worried about the risk involved in freezing / defrosting the embryos we're lucky enough to have (which I think was a total fluke).
I'm not actually ill - I had a cold (which I'm over now) but I've still got a cough and now I don't know what to do!!

He's worried about the pressure you put on your tummy when you cough and doesn't want anything to get in the way of this working for us.

He said he has looked at the embryos this morning and all 7 are still working away, although he said 2 weren't looking as good as the others. He thinks we might have 2 to freeze tomorrow, and potentially another 2 (maybe 1) to freeze on Day 6.

What the hell should I do? This is my first cycle of IVF and I was so geared up for the transfer tomorrow!!

Aaggh!

Fingers tightly crossed for you fingers and lopey, it's so nerve wracking but you are both in the game and have a chance xxx

parks I've never heard of a cough or cold delayed a transfer before but I guess your consultant has reasons for his/her advice. Can you ask to go in and be assessed? Or ask for a second opinion from the clinic? FETs have similar success rates to fresh, so it wouldn't necessarily be a bad option at all - just more frustrating waiting.