IVF SEP/OCT Part 2- Get your Stretchy Leggings here ladies!

[Minster2012]

IVF buddies September /October continued, heading into November & wearing VERY comfy stretchy leggings & trousers (perfect for Xmas too!!)

Minster2012 🤔 it is frustrating to be in hospital and not having an answer. But how are you feeling? Any better?
I have friend coming over, no time for job 😀 also I think I will have to stick to something stupid and local ☹️ My passport is not here yet and I am not sure it’s possible to apply for jobs without it 🧐

Star your words are comforting thank you, I know I should accept the emotions that I have and feel but I do find it hard to let go. I am one that does not like to show my emotions to many people. I don't like to feel weak or burden people with my problems but I do feel not letting it out is getting me down and not healthy. Mind health is just as important as body health especially when taking on IVF. I will take your advice and try to roll with the punches and concentrate on planning my up and coming FET xx How are you feeling Star how are the ovaries ? are they feeling heavy yet?

Aliona Thank you your right you gotta feel down sometimes to feel up! I think you should go for nail course then you can be your own boss! I like that tradition of the writing down a wish, burning it then drowning it in champagne I will do this for sure (will try anything for good luck) and you need to too please I want us both to have bumps next year! x

Atik no symptom spotting please just try to relax....1st Dec isn't that far away have everything crossed for you!

I am off for dinner with DH, tomorrow is xmas shopping day and then Sunday I have afternoon tea in London (with cocktails)! what are everyone's plans?
xxxx

Dbear35 😅 make sure you specify it’s a Baby bump 😁😁
I would love to go to London but when weekend arrives-feel too lazy. And my OH not interested in it either. Although I live 5 min away from tube-rarely go to central London 😕😕

A hv no spotting, maybe sumtyms a feel sum twinge under ma stomach apart of dis nuffin. Yesterday a felt sick nd bloated xxx it's soo freezing si a just staying in bed nd relax xx

Atikakck Hey 👋🏼 We saying don’t be symptom spotting and trying to figure out what anything means 😄 just relax and think it’s all working fine. But definitely stay warm ❤️❤️

Well that's it! EG on Monday probably! Waiting for the call and will keep you posted . ET on Thursday or Saturday next week.

Need to catch-up with all of you, but so busy at work!!!

Will write to all of you later ladies!

Lots of love
XXX

Dbear mind health very important, I love the idea of us all writing a wish at New Years and burning it in champagne!! Around the country let’s do it!! FET can often be easier to handle so focus on that and enjoy the afternoon tea & cocktails!!

atik my friend had no spotting at all don’t worry. And only one small twinge one day, and it’s worked for us, no symptoms so relax & enjoy OH waiting on you

star I love your approach, so relaxing. Did you get the call for EC today or is it Monday? So close now!!

Hello lovely ladies,

I am so sorry for my absence again :( I have been juggling return-of-the-sickness with a horrendous week at work. Sometimes I just want to quit and do something radical... but then I have no creative skills, I am a numbers nerd and there's no room for small businesses in my sector! Grumble over.

Minster I'm so sorry you're stuck in hospital :( How are you feeling? Hopefully not too bad? Will you be able to go home or are they keeping you in? Sending lots of love! Hope DH had a nice birthday, despite everything :( Such bad timing given your awesome news!! How is your friend doing? She must be chuffed to bits too!

Star I can't believe the time is almost here for your EC!! Things have gone so fast, it sounds like you are in good hands. I hear you on the anaesthetist... they are always the most important people to me when I'm in for surgery, and it just seems to happen that they are always lovely in person and appearance!! How are you feeling? Hopefully not too uncomfortable?

Aliona It sounds like you are very popular this week!! How are you doing? Hope cramps and period misery is well on its way out? I agree with Debears - maybe you should be self employed? Then no moron boss... And you can give yourself all the time off you need for IVF appointments ;) (Though when I was self employed in a past life I never gave myself time off... I felt too guilty!).

Also... I laughed so hard at the thought of you kicking a nurse in the leg. There are soooo many times in my life I have wanted to do that!!! Maybe you could be like a professional vigilante, travel round the country and deal with all the stupid people by kicking them in the leg... I would certainly pay you to do that lol!!

Dbear I really understand how you feel... when I had my ectopic in April, it was sudden and dramatic and I was in emergency surgery, when I came round my parents were there, and OH, and everyone was so worried I went into "protector" mode and spent the next few weeks being strong and brushing off care and concern. I got a bite in the ass a few months after, when I realised that I needed to let myself feel shocked, I needed to recognise my mortality, I needed to acknowledge there would be no Christmas baby. So it sucks... but I know that I would have had a much easier time if I had just let myself experience it at the time, rather than shutting down and trying not to be a burden. It is so so hard to be vulnerable, but it sounds like you have a wonderful support group, who will carry you through this. And as everyone says, FET is meant to be so much easier... I have faith :) And until FET there are cocktails!!!

Atik Your embryo looked perfect!!! So wonderful!! Hope your bladder is not too traumatised ;) I have everything crossed for you! Hope you get some time to relax over the weekend and let the embryo get nice and cosy!!

Rose How are you doing? Soooo excited about the BPF!! Your clinic should be sorely embarassed that Dr Mumsnet (aka the ladies on this thread!!) figured the OHSS out before they did! Hope you are feeling better?? Have they given you any medication? I know you can take paracetamol for the pain but there's not a huge amount that can reduce the swelling :( I found avoiding carbs helped, as they make me bloated, and I only had small, frequent meals. Then the sickness started and I had something else to worry about! I know they'll say keep drinking, but don't try to make yourself drink if you're not thirsty. Hot water bottle also helped. Hope the BFP has sunk in and you can celebrate a wee bit this weekend!

Right I have to drag my ass out of bed (working from home today....) and go pick up a prescription. It's snowing outside..... Definitely an evening for the log burner!!

Hope you're all doing ok and stayed wrapped up warm!!!

xxxxxxx

Dinks - haha ma bladder was soo traumatised dat a pee a Lil on the transfer lol nw a feel all De tym lyk a need toilet not dat ma bladder full just dis dat a need is dat make any sense lol yesterday a was soo bloated a fink a hv sum twingies or isit sum air there yet.. A don't know.. Ma boobiese not hurt at all..

Which grading u girls transferred nd it was hatching?

Atik I feel like my bladder has not been normal since before all the IVF began!! Literally as soon as I started the drugs it's like I've felt I need to pee all the time...

I have actually no idea what grade my embryo was. I never asked really, they said it was nice and I just went with it! It was hatching on transfer day, but looked like a diamond ring, not nearly as far on as yours!! Fingers crossed for you :)

Yep, EG on Monday at 8:30am 😬. Apparently my today's blood test doubled from Wednesday, which they said is a good thing because it means maturity of eggs. They are happy we waited for Monday, so all good. 4 are were they want and 2/3 not very far so hoping by Monday they will be ready, plus the Ines we couldn't see on the right. So Monday will be a surprise! 😜

Minster oh sweetie I very sorry to hear you are still in hospital. Any progress yet in the tests and how are you feeling?

Rose are you feeling better now? I feel ok, this morning a bit nauseous but now much better. I feel tired, heavy legs can't do much but accepting it. Yes yes inside it is quite twinggy and heavy and bloated....not uncomfortable as such but enough to make me notice. So no running or gym 😱. Just Yoga, walking and meditation.

Dbear we don't leave in a society that encourages us to open emotionally but rather we are told from a very young age that being emotional is a weakness- so we are all I the same boat. However it is nonsense. Our feelings/ emotions are part of us and need as much attention as the rest otherwise they will come out when least expected and uncontrollable maner. Laugh, cry, enjoy your life!!! Mid December is soon. Next Monday we are already the 27th!!!

Aliona I know people so could help for a job 😜. I am glad you are not in pain anymore. Drinking this WE?

Dinks so nice to hear from you sweetie. I know right quite quick but can't wait to stop injecting myself as it is involving and frankly starting to piss me off!!!! 😂😂😜😜😜 I like to be free!! It sounds like you are having a good weekend ahead of you. Enjoy ! 😘

Atik I know it is easier said than done but try not to analyse too much otherwise it will be a long 2 week for you! I am glad you are doing nothing and relaxing!

Question ladies; I have to inject myself with the usual final f and menopur tonight and tomorrow night at 7pm and then 7:3pm the famous Trigger Shot, Ovitrelle. Then nothing on Sunday. Did you have to inject yourself on the same day you injected your Trigger Shot?

Well for me, tomorrow will be about chilling, walking, detestate shopping so won't be doing that ha! I have all my Christmas presents so might start wrapping them 😬. Sunday pub lunch with OH parents and sis and the 3 dogs yeah!!! Followed with a long walk! I love them!

What do I need to pack for Monday?

Love to all,
XXX

Bonsoir,

So I got at lunch I could go home for “weekend leave” & come back on Monday for the camera test so DH cape to pick me up at 5, then I get told I have to sleep here (Leeds) tonight, sat & sun or they lose the bed for me & its 1hr45 away! So off DH went again, leaving me here 😞. & now he’s not going to London this weekend, he’s going to come pick me up tomorrow, take me home, then take me back here again to sleep at hospital & again Sunday. & they say the test is unlikely to happen on Monday but they can’t risk me losing the bed as outpatient appointments are running into weeks & it’s too serious for that. But I am feeling much better. RIDICULOUS. but Ho hum, he brought me a charger & new pants but I’ve totally wrecked his birthday & we haven’t celebrated at all 😞😞

Anyway...

star that’s brilliant news, all systems go for Monday!! Awesome stuff!! I took a dressing gown, slippers & snack for afterwards & a magazine or book

aliona enjoy yourself, so pleased you are feeling better and having fun again, you deserve it

dinks it’s rubbish you feel bad again, very good you can work from home to help, hows the house going? Have you told anyone yet?

rose do you have to have anything for your OHSS? I hope you’ve been able to feel ok too and celebrate a bit

atik our embryo was a grade 4 which was the top grade in our clinic and compacting stage which is the stage before hatching as it was a day 4, you’re in with a great chance, I completely agree with all the others, try to relax and not symptom spot as there’s also another thread on here on 2ww that many ladies who got BFPs had no symptoms whatsoever like us so look after yourself & know that this time you said you had a great lining & that hatching embryo looks perfect so it could be snuggling away with no fuss, everyone is different 💐💐🤞💕

Love to all

Minster u in Leeds??? So not far from me then ;);););) xxx
With my last bfp a didn't had symptoms nd a rmb a did test rly early a fink 5day after transfer nd was positive... Nw a just to nervous cz it's rly cold ma feet fell a kept them in freezer even tho a hv two pair of socks lol its too cold.. On ma last go was summer so a was all the time warm

Minster you are his gift sweetie! As soon as you are happy and well he is, that's what love is! Once you are out you can celebrate and make him feel special, all minxy and stuff 😜.

Don't worry all is going well since you are feeling better. So happy to hear that!

Take good care of yourself, soon enough you will be home 🏡 sweetie pie 😘

Oh Minster that is soooo rubbish. Are you in LGI? That is a really crappy turn of events :( How do you feel? Hope you are at least physically recovering, even if you are trapped in Leeds. Are dogs allowed in hospitals?! I think they should be, for morale purposes. Hopefully you’ve got a private room, or at least a quiet ward. Has OH smuggled in lots of treats? An ipad?

The house is still a building site, and the builder is on holiday. We’ve been living out of two rooms since May. It’s really getting me down. On the plus side OH agreed that we can move next year... I’ve never settled in this house and the robbing bastard builder incident has not helped! I’ll be glad to move on. That’s assuming it ever gets finished lol.

Hello all
Dinks not popular at all. Just after working 60 hours every week for 8 years I am finally having time to see some friends. Used to be dragging my ass home and all I wanted was to watch my hollyoaks yes don’t judge me!! I am gonna fight anyone who says it’s wrong😅😅 and then go to bed. So making up for it now. Being self employed, don’t know, this country doesn’t like it. Better to be employed 😁
Minster you not having much luck r u.. don’t worry about OH, he is big boy and will be ok on his bday, u can always celebrate later on. You r the priority.. shame u have to sleep there, hate that. To many noises.. hope u not 2 bored there ❤️❤️

Atik as far as I know all my embryos are 5BB.. although success rate for my clinic is very low.. not happy! But that’s the only choice I was given 🤔

Star. Oooo-la-la “u know the right people” little bossy boots 😅 I will keep it in mind but you have enough on your plate right now and don’t need my problems 😄
I had my trigger after midnight and had to do my cetrotide morning before and evening injection was skipped as I didn’t have enough medication and they couldn’t be bothered to give it to me as I had enough eggs anyway. So I think u should be doing as u told and have them 🤔🤔

atik my cancer treatment stuff is all in Leeds yes, at St James’ hospital dinks where they do European industry trials in cancer research which I have had both the fortunate (my current industry leading new drug) & unfortunate (nearly being killed by one “wonder drug” in 2011) pleasure of being part of. But I live in East Yorkshire now. atik get yourself a hot water bottle!! Keep warm, least it’s not snowing here like rose!!

I do have a private room, dogs not allowed though a nurse was saying some therapy dogs are for the long term sick & my cockerpoo would thrive on that especially as he’s soft like a teddy bear too! Should get him in!! I have my iPad but because I can’t in a rush didn’t have chance to download much but luckily I’m in a spot where I can’t get good WiFi & even streaming signal so can watch I player thank goodness!!

Being in a building site is awful, since May too, that’s not great, now you have little bean to look after too you need to get on it to make sure you can get a house sorted! Get on it!!!

Minster a had der ma transfer :) u mean water bottle on ma feet ryt? A don't like battles.. One time wen a had ohhs a gone one nd put on ma stomach nd all water gone tru on me... Nw a using only heating pad, it's always makes me feel soon calm wen a place it on ma stomach BuT yh ano a cnt do it now x

Minster I was in Jimmy’s with my ectopic. People seem really snobby about Jimmy’s but I prefer it to LGI. Cheaper parking too lol. Glad you’ve got a private room, and are set up with wifi and ipad!

I know... the house is a nightmare:( Builder ran off leaving us with just a shell, but we had already paid him over half. We’re desperately trying to get it sorted but so much of the work won’t pass building regs, so it’s gradually being taken down and re-done. We’ve got no money left, and can only afford to get a few things done each month. Also getting decent tradesmen round here is a nightmare. And the ones we’ve managed to get round to quote take one look at it and go “no way, not touching that.” It’s so frustrating. We have now found a builder to help, but he is fitting us in between other jobs, so it’s slow going. I can’t wait for it to be done so we can get the house on the market!! I do worry about what all the construction dust will do :(

Atik You’re in Yorkshire too!! There’s a cluster of us!! Though I live outside Leeds now. It is freezing here, agree with Minster, get a hot water bottle!!

Aliona I know what you mean about being self employed in this country... I did it for a few years and OMG the paperwork.

After so long doing 60 hour weeks you should def enjoy your time off!!! That sounds horrendous;( And I will def not judge the hollyoaks!!! 😂😂😂 It is my guilty secret!!

Dinks 😂😂 yay! Hollyoaks buddy. Sometimes after all the drama in my life I just want to watch someone else having hard time and it’s hollyoaks. Even my OH now watching it 😂 sometimes going to gym and hollyoaks start and he stand by the door watching it 😅😅
And I really feel for u, the building site.. I spend 2 years living like this and it was so bad, especially in winter. It’s depressing enough but to be coming to home like that-argh. But it will all be different next year for u. New home and new arrival in a family 🙃

Morning

dinks I’ve never come across snobbery for Jimmy’s I have been in both jimmys and LGI, for one surgery I was on a ward in LGI & it was an experience I never want to repeat, it was the week of Royal wedding Kate & Williams marriage, stinking hot, no ventilation, the nurses rude & it was a general ward where there was 2 mentally impaired ppl in the normal beds who kept screaming out in the night then one got up in the night, pulled his cannula out ran with blood dripping to the window shouting “you’re trying to kill me so I might as well jump” (maybe not mad after all...) & it took hours for them to calm him down & they still didn’t move him! I’m thankful all of my treatment except the odd CT scan is here & it’s much easier to park & the oncology centre is soooo modern, god knows how much we’ve spent in parking over the years 😱

Sounds horrible about the builders, getting any tradesman in East Yorkshire is a nightmare so it seems it’s uk wide, my friend said to DH & I the other week “which way should I be suggesting my kids go in for their careers?” I said “dentistry, well paid, professional, u need them in any city/town/village not stupid hours so work life balance...” my DH said any trade, can’t get tradesman at all & a well qualified electrician /plasterer /builder earn what they like here now...that or Health & Safety as you always need them now & his firm pay like £200 a day for a guy to stand on a job do a form, walk around & do a report
just because they have relevant health & safety qualifications! So maybe uk wide we need more thoughts like that!!

We were making jokes that the embryo was doing a risk assessment on day 1, day 2 getting the scaffolding & ropes out & day 3 climbing aboard its well stabilised platform with a little hard hat on...or that’s what we hoped after DH would prob want it to be a H&S bod in the future (dull though & probably called Nigel!) 🤣🤣

Lol Minster Nigel the H&S assessor.... that’s amazing!!! We will all be expecting the baby to be called Nigel now you know... or Nigella!!

I never got the Jimmy’s snobbery either; it is my mum-friends who dislike it, I think mainly because of the area it’s in. I hope OH has come to get you and you’re on your way home for puppy cuddles?? We have woken up to snow, so a duvet day ahead for me I think.

Hope everyone’s ok and staying warm ❤️❤️❤️

Dinks yh a live in Dewsbury lmao ma clinic is in Halifax BT transfer a had in Leeds wer Minster is... I agree it's freezing... Ma partner work in Leeds on taxi nd he sed it was snowing der yesterday lol

Am angry on ma self cz ano a shud eat healthy etc BT it's like I cba eating a trying forcing food..

Awww Atik don’t be so hard on yourself. This is so hard on our bodies, you just have to eat what you can. If you don’t feel up to food can you manage some smoothies? Tbh I don’t think diet makes any difference at this stage, the embryo is still living off the yolk sac so other than be kind to yourself, you can’t do anything!

I know it’s horrid waiting but try to relax, go to the cinema, watch cheesy Christmas films (its snowy therefore it’s Christmas lol). Just eat and drink what you can, that’s the best you can do

Ha I totally missed the snow yesterday though it’s very frosty and icy this morning and at home now so it’s the same here, apparently puppy had her first experience of ice this morning going out for a wee on the patio sliding one way then sliding the other!!

Jimmys is in a bit of a rough area but it’s a great hospital, much more modern & industry leading than LGI, it’s a UK leading oncology centre where we are referred from all over yorkshire so I didn’t have a choice! My team are great so I don’t care!! Dewsbury nice atik & just eat what you can & stay warm watch crap, read something maybe keep busy, did you find any good films?

aliona you can apply for jobs without your asdport by the way long as you have ID