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FET Sept/Oct

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Lolly2803 · 02/09/2016 17:36

Hi ladies,
I am due to start an FET in Sept/Oct and wondered if anyone else was too?! Had my first cycle of IVF in August but due to fluid in my uterus and thin lining had to freeze everything. I seem to always have fluid mid cycle, including natural cycles. Very worried that it will always be a problem and will never get to use my embryos. Having a hysteroscopy the week after next to check incase anything in there but doc suspects not. Would be great to have a few buddies! xxx

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Bear2014 · 01/12/2016 10:38

Blue My experience of the antenatal system is you basically have to be a pain in their ass to get anything. Nag away!

N&T! Love it. That will be me tomorrow night.

Lolly2803 · 01/12/2016 11:33

I shall raise an N&T to all you ladies this weekend!!
Blue be as demanding and as pushy as you can be if it gets you what you need. You don't owe them a thing!!

Bear sounds great and either way will
be a magical Christmas with DD.
I'm already looking forward to opening my advent calendar when I get home!! Haha!

Is it super expensive to have your baby privately do you know? Do you get extra care or anything like that? Just wondering what the differences were....

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Bear2014 · 01/12/2016 11:44

I think it very much depends what you want, Lolly. I had to have a CS with DD because she was transverse and I will have to have another next time as I'm at high risk for pp hemorrhage so that would have been/would be ££££. The actual clinical care in the NHS is amazing and you wouldn't get better privately. It's just the nursing care and aftercare that would benefit, and not having to be in a ward with others!

If you're low risk and want a home birth, you get your own midwife anyway and the care is superb generally. Or if you go to a 'birth centre' you generally get great care, birthing pools etc and your OH can stay with you overnight on a double bed afterwards (St Thomas' or Kings anyway).

The one thing that I would pay good money to avoid again is being on a postnatal ward for any length of time (I did 5 days last time) - the care is very stretched and unless your OH can stay over with you, you can get left alone in a right state for hours. Sharing a bathroom with other women who have just had a baby is far from ideal too.

A good compromise might be to hire a doula, to advocate for you.. And a lactation consultant is worth every penny! I can hook you up with an amazing one.

Lolly2803 · 01/12/2016 11:58

Goodness there's so much to think about!!! I think I'm going to wait a while before even thinking about these things but good to know they are out there.
Actually having a baby still feels SO far away so for now I'll just wait and see what the next days bring.

Totally on another subject but how cold is it today?!!! Freezing!!!!

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Bear2014 · 01/12/2016 12:04

Yeh don't think about all that right now. Basically in a nutshell it's probably not worth it unless you're loaded ;o) and who is after years of fertility treatment?!!

Baby steps.. pardon the pun.

It's frickin freezing. I need to go out to the post office and to get some more Cyclogest and I can't face it!!

Blueroses99 · 01/12/2016 13:39

Lolly pricing for private places is mostly available online, I had a look at the private arm of my local hospital and also the Portland just to compare (my private medical insurance would only pay for private if i needed a c-section).

So the freezing weather caused a bit of drama last night... the carbon monoxide alarm went off! So we opened all the windows and doors and called the emergency line who sent someone out to 'make it safe'. Which just meant turning off the gas into the house and the boiler. So no heating or hot water. And then the back door wouldn't lock, I think the 5 lever lock expanded in the cold. I called my parents in a panic early on, and they came to help, and afterwards we told them about the baby. So they got very protective and and bundled me into the car so I could sleep in my old room and they dropped me at the doctors in the morning. Meanwhile DH found an engineer that could come this morning and there's no CO/gas leak so heating and hot water are back on, and the back door managed to warm up enough to lock! I don't normally mind cold but that was hard!!

Lolly2803 · 01/12/2016 13:42

Oh blue what a nightmare!!! At least it's all been checked and everything is ok now but what a drama!!

Make sure you wrap up extra snug tonight. I bet your parents were super excited about the news.

xxx

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Blueroses99 · 01/12/2016 13:53

I know. I was so worried about baby getting CO poisoning I wouldn't stay in the house until the gas man arrrived. Parents are thrilled but v cautious after what happened before. I'm going to be wrapped in cotton wool I think... We would've told them this weekend anyway so it didn't matter but asked then not to tell my in laws (they talk all the time!) or my sister so we can tell them ourselves. We won't tell anyone else for a while.

Bear2014 · 01/12/2016 15:19

Oh gawd Blue, what a nightmare! You really don't need that kind of drama in your life right now. Hope you are warm and cosy now, and I'm sure your parents are thrilled with your news xx

csa26 · 01/12/2016 17:26

Blue! That sounds GHASTLY!!!

Scan: baby has heartbeat and is 16mm long, which apparently is right for 8wks+2days. Going to relax now and enjoy my currently-symptomless pregnancy (which had me a bit worried) and buy some bigger bras now that I know I'm definitely going to need them Smile

Blueroses99 · 01/12/2016 18:18

Whoop whoop! That's great news CSA!

Re bras, if you're going to go non-wired, I didn't find much available other than M&S and Debenhams.

Lolly2803 · 01/12/2016 18:35

Wahoo!!! Brilliant news CSA!! So so happy for you. xxx

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Bear2014 · 01/12/2016 18:53

Yay CSA that's brilliant news. Congratulations!! Xx

Bear2014 · 03/12/2016 06:06

Morning ladies, hope everyone is well. So this morning at 5am i was desperate for a wee and wide awake and impulsively did an internet cheapie one step test. I got a squinter, 8dpt. I know there's a vague possibility it's still the trigger but feeling a glimmer of hope!

Will do a FRER tomorrow Grin

Lolly2803 · 03/12/2016 08:34

Omg congratulations bear!!!! Eeeekkk!!!! So exciting!!!!

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Bear2014 · 03/12/2016 09:51

Thanks, i'm v v sceptical still, will believe it when i see it on OTD (maybe) ha ha xx

Bear2014 · 03/12/2016 09:52

I'm very naughty, OH has no idea i did this Blush

Lolly2803 · 03/12/2016 10:18

Well I won't tell her!! Fingers crossed for OTD but very exciting start!!! xxx

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bananafish81 · 03/12/2016 21:14

Oh wow congratulations Bear!! How exciting!!

Hope everyone else is doing OK?. I don't want to bring the thread down with more crap news, so less said about my shit reproductive system following my blood test results the better!

bananafish81 · 03/12/2016 21:14

Oh and happy birthday Lolly!!

Bear2014 · 04/12/2016 07:28

Lolly - Happy Birthday! Hope you are having a really lovely weekend.

Banana - oh no Sad tell us, we have all 'brought the thread down' many a time.

It's still a BFP, tbh i'm shitting myself as my miscarriage is still pretty raw but it's a start at least xx

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Lolly2803 · 04/12/2016 10:38

Thanks ladies! Had a wonderful weekend so far. Have been thoroughly spoilt!!
Bear that's amazing and def a BFP! Understandable to be nervous but there's every chance this will be a sticky one! I'm so excited for you! I keep worrying I'll get to the scan and something will be wrong and it'll all be over. Trying not to think about it. I managed to avoid drinking last night had "Gin & Tonics". Feels weird waking up without a hangover!! Although I have that groggy feeling in the mornings which does resemble a hangover I'd say! My sister had a fab cake made for me too! I'll try upload a pic.

Banana please don't say you're bringing the thread down. We are hear through good and bad. What's the latest with your bloods? Hope you're ok xxxx

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bananafish81 · 04/12/2016 11:24

Ah congratulations Bear!!


Blue I hope you're doing OK after your gas shocker - you poor thing!


CSA - fabulous news about your scan, so happy for you


Lolly what a fabulous cake! So glad you had a lovely evening - you deserve it!


I'm so SO thrilled that you ladies have got BFPs and are now navigating the (albeit fucking terrifying and frantically anxious) stages of early pregnancy and beyond


And as one always hopes with a cycle buddies thread, it's just the best outcome when ladies who've been able to support each other through treatment, can the continue to support each other through the ongoing rollercoaster post BFP



But as I'm not even remotely close to being able to cycle, and just sat on the bench of boredom trying to thrash my stupid ovaries and uterus into gear, I think it might be best for me to haul ass back to the long-term barren corners (failure stories and mind numbing boredom) . I don't want to bring the thread down with the latest crap updates in the sorry saga of my reproductive organs. And to be honest, I think I need to step back from the thread for self preservation, as I'm feeling very very low at the moment, and I'm not sure I'm strong enough to follow ongoing pregnancy updates. I so, so, very much want to hear all your good news. And hope I will pop back in to check in on how you're doing. Please, please, don't feel you're doing or have done anything wrong by talking about your BFP experiences. That's what cycle buddies threads are for! It's all on me. I'm just not feeling resilient enough, so please forgive me for bailing on you lovely, wonderful, fabulous and oh so supportive ladies.


My latest, FWIW, is that despite a promising scan, my bloods were a shocker. My oestrodial was a paltry 89. For context, when you're checking someone is sufficiently down regulated - ie the ovaries are completely quiet - oestrodial should be under 200. So 89 would suggest mine weren't just quiescent, but completely switched off at the mains. Except they weren't. There was a 10-11mm dominant follicle, some smaller ones that had begun to recruit, and lining of somewhere around 6mm. So apparently my follicles might as well not be there for all the oestrogen they're not producing. I am totally baffled by these results, as it seems is my consultant, judging by the explanatory letter which accompanied the results. Just have to hope the Gonal-F gives some of the follicles a kick up the arse and we can get my natural oestrogen levels up. Urgh. I just feel utterly defective at every turn. I can't metabolise artificial oestrogen. I can't produce enough oestrogen. And even when my lining does eventually grow, or doesn't shed


Stabbing with 100iu Gonal-F nightly and back on Weds for more bloods and a repeat scan.


Sigh. Anyway that's the latest in my depressing saga. FUN TIMES!

Blueroses99 · 04/12/2016 11:32

Happy birthday Lolly. That's one amazing cake! Glad you're having a good weekend. Natural to be nervous before the scan ("scanxiety") as after everything we can still feel like we're on the wrong side of the odds - but of course there's every chance that everything will be just fine.

Bear that's fantastic! A line is a line, as I think you said to me just a few days ago. The second one is what my test looked like on Monday and it's been getting darker.

Banana no fairweather friends here, please share.

Blueroses99 · 04/12/2016 11:47

Awww Banana cross-posted. I can completely understand why this thread might not be where you want to be when you're feeling fragile. Your results are baffling indeed. Hope the Gonal-F does something magical for you. Wishing you the best of luck for Weds xx