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FET Sept/Oct

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Lolly2803 · 02/09/2016 17:36

Hi ladies,
I am due to start an FET in Sept/Oct and wondered if anyone else was too?! Had my first cycle of IVF in August but due to fluid in my uterus and thin lining had to freeze everything. I seem to always have fluid mid cycle, including natural cycles. Very worried that it will always be a problem and will never get to use my embryos. Having a hysteroscopy the week after next to check incase anything in there but doc suspects not. Would be great to have a few buddies! xxx

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Lolly2803 · 29/11/2016 16:04

Hey, just heard from the clinic. So in about 76 hours it has gone from 872 to 2,000+ I can't remember the exact number as I was so worried but it seems to have returned to normal! They've said not to do any more tests now and to come back on the 12th for my scan.

Still nervous for the scan but for now I can just be a little bit calmer! My body is a weird one!!!

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csa26 · 29/11/2016 16:22

Really pleased to hear that Lolly. Scan day can't roll around quickly enough - just a couple more days for me!

Blueroses99 · 29/11/2016 17:29

That's great Lolly xx

Bear2014 · 29/11/2016 18:47

Hooray Lolly, brilliant news xx

Lolly2803 · 29/11/2016 18:54

Thanks ladies! Just got to wait for the scan now and see what that brings. Really going to try and put it out of my mind until then and hope there's something beautiful to see!

12th December is the date!

How you holding up Bear?
Banana how are you? Have you got your scan tomorrow? xxx

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Blueroses99 · 30/11/2016 09:09

Yay Lolly!

Good luck with the scan today Banana.

AFM it's my OTD today, the lines on the FR have got darker everyday and there is a definite 'Pregnant 2-3 weeks' on the clear blue digital from the clinic, so it's official! I am booked in for a scan on 14th December. I also need to get into the NHS system pretty quick as I need to get a cervical stitch arranged and the consultant advised that I get a referral to the EPU because of my history.

I'm back in my happy bubble today - DH & I had our regular counselling session yesterday and actually there are a lot of underlying anxieties about this pregnancy that were brought to the surface. Last time, we just took it one step at a time, never thinking beyond the next scan/appointment, but because I have to have a cervical stitch at 12-14wks (if I get that far of course), and potentially not going back to work afterwards, I feel like I need to plan ahead a little more than I'm comfortable with.

Lolly2803 · 30/11/2016 09:21

That's great Blue! All sounds like it's going as it should. We'll have our scans in the same week! Eeekk!

Anxiety around this pregnancy is more than understandable after all you've been through. Hopefully the scan will help to ease it a bit and getting things booked in with the NHS will help you relax and start to enjoy things a bit. I think it's hard to get excited yet isn't it but at some point I guess we have to start enjoying it! Although easier said than done. I'm trying to put it out of my mind until my scan, I'll worry about it on the day!!

Plan as much as feels right to you. Try and relax as much as possible, again easier said than done. We've done all we can till our scans. :-) xxx

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Bear2014 · 30/11/2016 10:19

That's really great Blue, whooop!

CSA - Really good luck with scan.

Banana good luck today, thinking thick and juicy for you.

Lolly - hope you're a lot calmer today.

I've reached that phase of the 2WW where I've actually convinced myself that it's worked, as all the drugs etc make me feel so 'pregnant'. Obviously a bit of PMA is a good thing but I'm trying to not get my hopes up.

Just had the most stressful commute to work ever - DD had a massive tantrum and my train was delayed and packed! I miss working from home.

Lolly2803 · 30/11/2016 12:51

Yer bit calmer today Bear. Been feeling nauseas and it only seems to go when I'm eating which isn't ideal!! I've eaten so much already today!!

How many dpt are you? Eeeek I'm feeling positive for you!!!! xx

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Bear2014 · 30/11/2016 12:59

Yep, you are definitely up the duff. Not to worry ;o)

Today is 5dpt. I'm feeling positive today too, but cautiously....

Lolly2803 · 30/11/2016 13:00

Haha!
When will you test? Aw I am soooo hopeful for you!! xxx

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Bear2014 · 30/11/2016 13:28

Going to test next Tuesday. Will be 11dpt and 16dp trigger so should be accurate. OH is off all day to help with DD so that will help whatever the result xx

Lolly2803 · 30/11/2016 13:43

That's a good plan!! Glad you're feeling positive. I am for you too!! xx

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Blueroses99 · 30/11/2016 17:12

Awww warm fuzzy vibes all round!

Bear PMA is great for getting through these days.

Lolly the nausea unless eating thing feels very familiar though I definitely didn't get it this early on last time around. I'm also going to have to switch to my larger bras already. What's going on in there?! Confused

Lolly2803 · 30/11/2016 17:25

It's more like a queasy type feeling like I don't feel like I'm going to vomit it's more like a big hungover / queasy. I've had it since a few days before my BFP..... who knows. We all different I guess!!

Enjoy the bigger boobs!!! Haha!

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bananafish81 · 30/11/2016 23:49

Blue I’m so so happy for you - you and DH deserve this so much. What a wonderful birthday present - I very much hope Jovan gets a beautiful brother or sister in 9 months time. I don’t know who you’re seeing for IC but I know from a friend, and from a few posters on FF, that Nick Wales at Chelsea and Westminster is THE go to guy for cerclage. He specialises in a TAC rather than a standard TVC, a friend saw him privately for a pre pregnancy consultation, but he said that as she had such a short cervical length following a LLETZ, she was a good candidate for asking the CCG to fund it. That’s a pre pregnancy stitch, so I imagine a pregnancy cerclage would be much more readily funded. I’m glad you can get into the EPU and NHS system quickly, and hope they will monitor the shit out of you. Larger baps sound like a v positive sign too! Mine went ridiculous very very quickly. There was no hiding anything as my tiny frame had these massive bangers up top all of a sudden….!

Bear sorry about the commute and hope the good feeling is backed up with a second line next week!

Lolly yep you are officially up the duff! Hope the nausea isn’t too rough going and you can keep suitably distracted until the scan

csa likewise to you until your scan!

AFM, saw my lovely consultant this morning, was a productive and actually quite positive appt. 5 days after finishing the course of tamoxifen and I have a 10-11mm follicle, and my lining is around 6mm (hard to be accurate with the coil in, but he took a few different measurements). Which is pretty much exactly where he would hope it would be at this stage. A few other follicles had some early recruitment, so we decided we’d try and give the lining a jump start by getting some more follicles to join the party - so we’ve added in some low dose Gonal-F. He wants to try and use just my body’s own natural hormones - so no extra oestrogen or progesterone, as that’s how my body seems to have done best. Had bloods done to monitor oestrodial and back in a week to rescan (and trigger)

He was very excited about the red bleeding, and said that it didn’t matter about the heaviness of the flow (as there wasn’t much lining TO shed), but the fact there was red blood meant it was coming away from the myometrium, - so was hopefully shedding properly. He said the fact my cervical smear sample 4 days later was bloody, was also a good sign that something was going on!

We talked at length about the prognosis, and whether if - worst case - things didn’t improve, should we draw a line under things and not risk another transfer. Or, if he would support one more crack at the whip (even if only for us to feel like we really had given it every possible chance before moving on). He said he genuinely didn’t think it would be an exercise in futility, and was worth another shot - but would advise if clinically he would caution against wasting an embryo, if he thought it was categorically a no-hoper.

Which he said he didn’t, at this point in time. The red bleeding and initially promising scan were positive signs, he said. He said he had felt very reassured by how good the uterine environment looked when he did the last hysto. And most importantly of all, he said, the fact I have successfully propagated a pregnancy before was what gave him most hope. So he didn’t think all hope was lost yet, and that he hoped that if we could persevere with ovulation induction, that we could teach my body to menstruate, and encourage cyclical regeneration of the endometrium. We’re playing a long game.

For now, that’s a week of low dose jabs (realised it's my 6th Gonal-F cycle!), and will see what next week’s scan shows…

Sorry for rambling on!!

csa26 · 01/12/2016 06:51

Banana so happy to hear your positive news, really praying this time round is good for you after everything you've been through. (My husband is baffled as to why I get so emotionally involved in the lives of complete strangers on here Hmm ) And don't apologise for wittering on - pretty sure that's what this thread is for!

I will know in less than 7hrs I guess whether this baby thing is really happening (from what I've read once they find a heartbeat, the risk is basically as low as for late miscarriages - anyone else been told that?) Quite nervous but just want to get it over with and know...

Lolly2803 · 01/12/2016 06:58

Wahoo!!!!! Banana this is fan bloody tastic!!!! You must feel so positive. That's absolutely brilliant news. It sounds like your baby room is becoming a 10/10 on trip advisor!! So you'll have the low stimms for a week and then what does he want to see at the next scan?
Argh I'm so happy for you that things are looking so positive. Sounds like also the end of the road has moved even further away too regardless of whether this cycle works. Wahoo!! Very happy and excited for you banana!!! How you feeling? So next weds you go back right?

How you holding up Bear and Blue?

AFM the nausea is ok i mean I don't feel like I'm going to vomit it's just queasiness. Totally bearable and to be honest anything this throws at us is bearable right?!! I'm very sore from my progesterone shots on the left side. When I walk it's sore and when I sit and lie it's sore. But again - if it's OK and works I don't care so I'm refusing to moan! Just trying to get through until the scan and see what we can see then! It's my 30th birthday this weekend so lots of distraction! xx

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Blueroses99 · 01/12/2016 08:43

Banana thanks for the info. I've been pointed to Dr Gibb in Harley St as the expert too so I'll see my NHS GP today and then a private GP to see how best to go about things. With Christmas coming up (I'd be 8wks) I'll need to get things in place earlier rather than waiting til Jan.

That's really exciting news for you! I'm so pleased to hear there has been positive progress. Your consultant does sound lovely 💕 Good luck with the stims.

Csa good luck with the scan today 😬

Lolly ginger biscuits are supposed to be good for queasiness. I'm sorry that the shots hurt but all will be worth it. Hope you have something special lined up for your 30th this weekend.

Bear hope the PMA is still going strong.

Lolly2803 · 01/12/2016 08:59

CSA totally missed your comment....eek!! How exciting! Let us know how it goes but keeping everything crossed for you!
I had also read that about once you see the heartbeat. xxxx

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Bear2014 · 01/12/2016 09:37

Banana - this is great to hear, and sounds like you are definitely making some progress. I know you trust your doctor not to waste another precious embryo so you are in good hands.

Blue - sounds like you are also in the best possible hands. With these things, it definitely seems like if you know about them in advance and treat them in a timely manner they are totally manageable. I'm sure you'll be fine this time.

CSA - good luck! Will be thinking of you. We had a miscarriage at 10 weeks this year, having seen the heartbeat 3 weeks previously, but I understand the likelihood of that happening is about 1%. The 12 week scan is still the gold standard but a good 7 week scan is a very good start. Please try not to worry.

Lolly do what you gotta do to get through the sickness. I was incredibly lucky and didn't feel sick at all with DD but I know people who really suffered. Try to just nibble all day and keep your fluids up, it will pass.

PMA has dipped a bit today, I think I just really need to manage my expectations. I can't afford to waste time being distraught if this doesn't work as I'll have appointments and arrangements to make for the next steps, and also Christmas to organise!

xx

Bear2014 · 01/12/2016 09:39

Lolly what are you doing for your birthday? Sounds tricky with the whole not drinking thing! Might have to create a bit of a smokescreen if you go down the pub ;o)

Lolly2803 · 01/12/2016 10:02

Keep the PMA going Bear! I think it's good to have realistic expectations and prepare for the worst but there's an excellent chance it will work so def don't you start giving up hope yet!! Sending lots of positive vibes!! When are you putting your tree up?

I've got Birthday dinners and brunches this weekend. Will be hard not drinking but hoping DH can help disguise it! Will be having "Gin & Tonics" but really just sparkling water! Sneaky!! Feeling a bit queasy this morning and a little crampy actually but do get the odd weird twinge! To be honest though I'm really trying to just enjoy my birthday weekend and focus on Christmas. We are putting the tree up this weekend too and I LOVE Christmas so it's a nice distraction. I've got lots in the diary as well to help pass the time so here's hoping. If it all goes wrong I'll deal with it as and when. I can't worry myself into hysterics anymore, I don't have the energy!

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Bear2014 · 01/12/2016 10:17

I LOVE Christmas too and DD is going to be properly aware of it for the first time so I'm determined to enjoy every second. If I'm not pregnant I'll just get on the champagne from breakfast onwards, ha ha

Sounds like a plan. I'm sure you'll have a lovely time. Placebo G&T (just tonic with a slice) is my favourite soft drink. It tastes really grown up and even if someone has a sip of it, I actually think it's quite hard to tell that there is no gin in there. Enjoy! xx

Blueroses99 · 01/12/2016 10:24

Lolly have an amazing weekend, you deserve it! I got quite into my N&Ts (nothing and tonic) with 2 wedges of lime 😋

Bear whether you have PMA or not won't actually affect the outcome so do whatever feels right.

CSA yes I've heard the same thing about heartbeats at 7wk scans. Good luck!

I'm been to the GP and been referred for pregnancy booking in, Early Pregnancy Unit for dating scan and Pre-term Clinic. Doctor was quite laid back saying I was so early that I might not hear from them for a few weeks, until I pointed out that the consultant wanted to see me at 7wks which is the week before Christmas and if I waited til January I would be 10wks (slight exaggeration/mathematical error) so I needed the referrals asap.