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The mind numbing boredom of infertility III

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icy121 · 20/05/2016 10:47

Are you Barren & Bored? You've come to the right place!

We do: swearing, empathy, bitterness, tears, sardonic laughter, glittery shit and mocking idiots who know nothing jon snow.

We don't do: baby dust, relentless positivity, "u ok hun", "I had a friend who..", pithy advice or sentimentality generally.

Previous threads 1 and 2.

Now that you've got all that down, welcome to the barren ghetto.

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PotatoesPastaAndBread · 08/09/2016 07:50

Yay icy thanks for delurking, good to hear your update. It's good to have the bitterness back! It's not fair, were not happy about it, and YES Bridget Jones sucks. Best of luck for fet. Are you having one or two? I'm so glad I escaped bum bullets, I was able to have the pessaries vaginally. As if the whole thing isn't bad enough! Love the past fertility goal is to commit to smoking. I think I'll just go on permanent holidays. Screw saving money, spend it all now and live in a bungalow later.

icy121 · 08/09/2016 08:43

Potatoes one back, unless they're really shit - am 29 so clinic nt keen at all doing more than 1. Smoking ON holiday - now you're talking!

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Sara237 · 08/09/2016 09:29

Thanks ladies it means a lot to be able to 'talk' to you all. No-one else really gets it. Called clinic as bleeding full on and nurse said I could stop crinone now as clearly hasn't worked. Going to have a duvet day today.
Glitter shit to all x

beanhunter · 08/09/2016 10:11

So sorry to hear that Sara.

I'm day 7 of an epic 26 days of down reg...... Bored.

icy121 · 08/09/2016 11:05

bean ah man it's crap isn't it. I'm doing a long protocol FET and they made me downreg before building up lining. Due to various delays/holiday etc ended up stabbing for 39 days! Last one yesterday, going to be odd not Doug a daily injection (for a while at least because as if FET is actually going to work first time etc)

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icy121 · 08/09/2016 11:07

Pressed post early. Sara a duvet day sounds sensible. I'm so sorry it's not worked. Try to be kind to yourself, although it's hard. Hope you and your other half can take some time.

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beanhunter · 08/09/2016 13:11

Yep assuming this goes on plan I'll be stabbing in total for 38 days. Ugh.

tigerdog · 08/09/2016 14:06

So sorry to hear that sara. It's just fucking shit and beyond unfair. Definitely hide under that duvet for a bit.

Downregging for a FET here too. 2 days of burserelin down so far, but hopefully period will arrive in around a week or so, as I stop the northisterone on Sunday. Am chancing it as we are away Weds-Fri and I'm really hoping I don't have to have a scan then. I almost certainly will though....I have such crap luck with shit like this!

PeaOp · 08/09/2016 15:27

So sorry sara. Duvet day sounds the best plan.

LHReturns · 08/09/2016 20:23

How are you today Sara? Are you looking after yourself?

I got 6 eggs today which I am very happy about. Now the wait...

PeaOp · 08/09/2016 21:29

Well done LH

bananafish81 · 08/09/2016 21:35

So sorry sara - lashings of glitter shit and duvet day sounds exactly the right tactic. Thinking of you. This whole process is such utter bollocks

Nice work on the eggs Lh

icy and potatoes smoking holiday you say? Barrens on tour holidays Ltd. I think I might add crack addiction to the list. It's a cheaper and presumably more enjoyable alternative to fertility treatment. And those arseholes on Jeremy Kyle seem to breed like rabbits

Sorry for lack of personals, on phone

Had my FET today THANK FUCK WE DIDN'T CANCEL YET ANOTHER CYCLE

Frosticle thawed beautifully and one euploid blast safely on board

Managed not to pee on the consultant while he squirted a potential future child into my uterus - win

Now just the next 7-9 days to shit myself. Thank god for the Paralympics!

Sara237 · 08/09/2016 21:36

Lh that's great result. Fingers crossed for each of the next stages. To be honest I am finding my AF awful so painful and crampy. Then there's the constant weeping all in all feeling done in. Wondered if other people found this first period after failed cycle horrendous?

Zenzie · 09/09/2016 01:00

Delurking very briefly to say how sorry I am, Sara. Totally fucked up unfair situation. Please look after yourself.

Fingers crossed for you, banana! I was thisclose to pissing all over the doctor during my ET. Apparently when I'm told 'have a full bladder' I really do! I was utterly bursting. Immediately after I went to the loo for a gloriously long wee but could not help thinking I had just pissed out the embryo!

Such a glamorous life.

Piles of glittery shit to all of you. Bon courage.

beanhunter · 09/09/2016 09:10

Sara yes mine was. Both physically and emotionally. Be kind to yourself

tigerdog · 09/09/2016 09:29

Yep, same here sara. In fact the cycle when I started bleeding early at 8/9dpt was awful, worse in terms of pain than the early miscarriage of my first cycle. Get some wine down you this weekend and make are DH looks after you. It's just beyond shit, I'm so sorry.

I am feeling so ragey today. Grrrrr. Had the scratch yesterday and Jesus H Christ it hurt - my previous one wasn't anywhere near as bad.

Still, the weekend is nearly here. The highlight of which will be the delivery of a sideboard. I am actually quite excited about it.

beanhunter · 09/09/2016 11:10

Fiends is it normal to feel like shit on buserelin today. I've woken up today feeling like I've got the flu. Headache, achy and blocked sinuses. Am I ill or is it the drugs?

Sara237 · 09/09/2016 12:25

Banana- great news on your frosticle and well done on the urinary control front!
Zenzie- a close rival in the bladder olympics- again, job well done☺
Tigerdog- it adds insult to fucking injury shower like a scene from a horror film. Sorry to hear about the scratch; sounds like a medieval punishment for brazen women. Only women could endure this shit.
Bean- could be both but aches and pains and headache are common symptoms. Hope you can get some rest.
So I was thinking we could have our own ivf Olympian games: the scratch, the rapid follicle race, the racing embys, the swimming in blood. Endless possibilities. Sorry ladies I know it's in bad taste but am in a very bitter mood today x

TammySwanson · 09/09/2016 18:23

Sarah, so sorry to hear it definitely hasn't worked this time, so unfair.

bean> I had aches and extreme tiredness all this week, not exactly flu but similar in some ways.

Started stims last night - my clinic has this complicated system of mixing it before injecting and I completely fucked it up and went into meltdown. Trust me to fuck up the most expensive meds (so far). So we have had to buy some more (plus some spare in case I fuck it up again) to avoid another 60 mile round trip to the clinic. Dreading doing it again last night. I'm fine with the injecting but I'm not a fricking chemist - just give me it ready to inject! FFS.

PotatoesPastaAndBread · 09/09/2016 18:33

Whoah it's all going on!

Yes to the fertility Olympics! Boo to self mixing ivf drugs. Yay to frosties and embies board. Boo to full bladders and painful periods.

I have no friends plans this weekend and feel a bit embarrassed really excited about spending the weekend in my own resting and eating chocolate. And checking Mumsnet more often to keep up!

RobberBride · 09/09/2016 19:39

Sara I haven't done IVF but my first period after ovulation induction (I don't usually ovulate) was spectacularly awful. Obviously there was the emotional side, but god the physical side was awful, far worse than periods I remember from when I did ovulate. I was weak and shaky, horrible stomach cramps, felt both sick and starving hungry. I did feel much better after the first 24 hours though.

Sara237 · 09/09/2016 20:24

Tammy - that sounds unnecessarily complex not to mention expensive. Can't they offer pre filled pen? It's stressful enough. Fuckers.
Potatoes- your weekend plan sounds ace - I have my elderly mother to see who doesn't really get the ivf but is concerned that I had a cold last week!
Robber - it is horrendous but hopefully (surely) can't be this heavy for much longer. See consultant on Monday wonder when I can start again. Be good to yourselves x WineCakeChocolate

closephine85 · 10/09/2016 13:42

Someone has posted a thread asking for interpretation of their partner's semen analysis. The results are pretty awesome, I appear to have semen envy. Who knew that was possible? Worked out my DH would have to ejaculate at least 180 times to achieve the same results as that one count (and that's not taking into account morphology so wouldn't actually be the same). Bloody hell.

I like the fertility Olympics idea - I think I'd get an award for most false starts. Number of times I have decided 'this is it, IVF happens now' yet STILL haven't got off the starting blocks!

PotatoesPastaAndBread · 10/09/2016 19:52

I love the false start idea!!!

Sara237 · 10/09/2016 21:25

Spontaneous weeping award for me!