Annie
I don't think each side is as bad as each other. I happen to quite detest Netanyahu but you can't compare him to Khaled Meshal or Mahmoud Abbas (although I have some sympathy for Mahmoud Abbas).
And it's important to remember that it was Arafat who derailed the whole peace process and started the second intifada. Barak was willing to give him everything! Everything!! Even a symbolic right of return. In 1999, Barak - with a platform for peace, beat Bibi hands down. Everything was going in the right direction. I lived in Israel then, it was fab! I remember the optimism, driving to Bethlehem, Ramallah, East Jerusaelm. Businesses were thriving, Palestinians were allowed in to Israel to work, there was no wall then. Who fucked it all up? Arafat did. Bill Clinton made it very clear that the 2000 Camp David Summit failed because of Arafat.
And even afterwards, Ehud Olmert (god knows how) offered nearly as much at Annapolis in 2007 but Abbas didn't have the wherewithal to push it through.
So, no, I don't think they're both as bad as each other. I don't think that gives Israel carte blanche to ignore human rights and I certainly don't think the Israeli civilian settlements help anyone but where do you go from here? Many Israeli friends look at the evacuation of settlements from Gaza (which was painful for Israel, whatever the world may think of the legality of the situation) and say 'What did that do for us?'. It was a chance for the Palestinians to show what they'd do if they had a state, to behave like a responsible state. How can Israel now be expected to hand over the West Bank when the situation in Gaza has shown it what is likely to happen? Ugh, the situation is just dire.