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Disappointed he didn't get a first.

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UserM6 · 23/06/2025 19:30

I know a 2:1 is fine but I'm sad he didn't come out with more from his time.
He didn't join any societies. Doesn't drink so never really went to the SU and largely stayed in in studying
He says he made friends on his course but no one he's talked about/been to visit/ go on holiday with etc.
Stayed in crap accommodation in his first year 2 and 3rd year lived with the one mate from bloody school. Had a girlfriend throughout (his first ) who he spent his weekends with. She's graduating in 2 years and going abroad next year

He doesn't even want a job in his degree but doesn't know what else to do.

I've stayed positive for him but it seems like a largely wasted time. I feel bad for thinking like this but he's my one and only 🙁.

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Banannanana · 28/06/2025 20:22

Hey, he’s done better than me!

I came out with a 2:2, no desire to work in my field, PTSD, and people I had to take a restraining order out against.

Oh, and I graduated into a global pandemic so didn’t even get a proper end to uni/graduation to boot.

Did meet my husband though, so there’s that I guess.

5 years down the line I’m looking to buy a house with my lovely partner, have great friends and am now starting out in a field and career I’m happy with.

Uni isn’t the be all and end all, OP. Sometimes it doesn’t work out or go to plan but that’s okay. It’s 3 years of what is a long life filled with opportunities. Things can always turn around and get better. Time to look to the future now.

All the best to him.

TizerorFizz · 28/06/2025 20:55

@TrixieFatell Ignore me!! Oh dear. Wrong thread!!

TrixieFatell · 28/06/2025 21:17

TizerorFizz · 28/06/2025 20:55

@TrixieFatell Ignore me!! Oh dear. Wrong thread!!

I did think I'd put that reply on the other thread by mistake 😆

TizerorFizz · 28/06/2025 21:19

Well I’m obviously misreading everything!

bottleofbeer · 03/07/2025 17:36

If you get a first, I promise you that someone will say that they're handed out like sweets these days. Or, the uni you got it from is shit. Or, it's a subject not worth having a degree in, never mind the classification.

I genuinely don't know my son's classification, I just know he's a qualified nurse and an amazing one.

Deadringer · 03/07/2025 17:43

I know you can't help your feelings, but I would give anything for my ds to have achieved what yours has.

DogsAngels · 04/07/2025 13:12

Wow, my son struggled with his MH, and finished with a 2:2. I'm extremely proud of him, and it is all he needs for what he wants to do. I'm just glad to have him and to know he's well

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