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Do you ever feel like ending it all?

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ohdear · 05/09/2004 00:39

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ohdear · 05/09/2004 00:53

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MummyToSteven · 05/09/2004 00:54

Oh dear, no you are not alone. Many people (me included) have been through "bad patches" for want of a better phrase. I am not trying to guess you, I promise! I felt very depressed during my pg (no particular reason, just think that the combination of hormones and having been stressed out at work for a few years was bad for my peace of mind), so I can identify with feelings of hopelessness. An unhappy childhood doesn't help matters at all - if you lack the basic reassurance that you are loved and lovable that makes dealing with the stresses of day to day life that much harder. It sounds like you are suffering from a degree of depression or anxiety at the moment. Would you consider going to a doctor and trying anti-depressants or counselling or some form of cognitive therapy. Cognitive therapy is good because it teaches you to think more positively, and have a more realistical view of yourself, without wallowing in your past iyswim. If you don't want to go down any form of medical/treatment route there are little things you can do to make yourself feel better; exercise/yoga-meditation/eating properly/sleeping properly/getting a break from your responsibilities. Another thought - it may be sensible to go to your GP anyway to exclude a physical cause to your symptoms - hormonal contraception, thyroid problems or iron deficiency can cause symptoms of depression.

I am off to bed now, but will be around tomorrow evening. If you ever feel absolutely desperate please phone a friend/family/the Samaritans if necessary.

take care

MummyToSteven · 05/09/2004 00:57

You can get help for your feelings of lowness/depression. Remember feelings of hopelessness/emptiness are a symptom of the depression, rather than being the truth. If you have a good reaction to anti-depressant medication you can feel significantly better in a matter of weeks.

ohdear · 05/09/2004 01:12

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emsiewill · 05/09/2004 01:24

Are you still there ohdear?

ohdear · 05/09/2004 01:25

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emsiewill · 05/09/2004 01:27

I don't really know what to say to you, but don't want you to think that no-one is interested.

Can you tell me a bit more about what's gone wrong?

ohdear · 05/09/2004 01:28

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KateandtheGirls · 05/09/2004 01:33

I feel bad for you ohdear, but is there any way you can elaborate so we have some idea of the problem?

emsiewill · 05/09/2004 01:34

It sounds like it's all become too overwhelming for you - when I get like that, I feel so much better when I write it all down item by item so at least I can see what I'm up against - if it's all in my head it drives me mad.

Sorry if this sounds a bit fatuous, just want to help.

ohdear · 05/09/2004 01:34

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emsiewill · 05/09/2004 01:35

What is the one thing that bothers you the most? Maybe you could start with trying to deal with that.

ohdear · 05/09/2004 01:36

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KateandtheGirls · 05/09/2004 01:36

How old are your kids?

emsiewill · 05/09/2004 01:37

Do you ever get any time to yourself? I don't mean in tesco, or while cleaning, I mean real "me" time to do something you enjoy?

ohdear · 05/09/2004 01:39

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ohdear · 05/09/2004 01:41

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emsiewill · 05/09/2004 01:42

Would it be possible to arrange some time for you? Take a sicky from work?

If you think of one thing to tackle, and take one (however tiny) step towards that, would you feel any better?

And by the way, I'm sure you're not a bad mum. You wouldn't have found mn if you were.

I agree with MTS that you should get some professional help.

Sorry, rambling.

emsiewill · 05/09/2004 01:43

Have you spoken to anyone about the debt? CAB are supposed to be very helpful, and there's websites (National Debt Counselling something, I think). That could be your first little step.

ohdear · 05/09/2004 01:47

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emsiewill · 05/09/2004 01:48

And you never know, there may be light round the next corner.

Sorry, sounding like a crap greetings card now.

KateandtheGirls · 05/09/2004 01:49

Emsiewill is exactly right that you're not a bad mum. Your kids need you and I'm sure you know that. My kids lost their father - trust me, kids need both their parents.

Definitely, small steps.

If you are on medication I think you need to see your doctor and tell him/her that you're feeling this way. Maybe you can try a different medication or a stronger dose. And some counselling sounds like it would definitely be in order.

KateandtheGirls · 05/09/2004 01:50

Professional help wouldn't be another thing to deal with. It would help you deal with all the other things. PLEASE look into it.

ohdear · 05/09/2004 01:50

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emsiewill · 05/09/2004 01:50

I know what you mean about one more thing to deal with, but professional help might be the thing that sets you on the right path again.

God, I'm no good at this, I really want to help, but just not eloquent / experienced / wise enough. And to think I applied to join the Samaritans.

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