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Do you ever feel like ending it all?

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ohdear · 05/09/2004 00:39

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newgirl · 06/09/2004 20:15

have been following your thread with much sympathy. my doctor asked me direct if i was having suicidal thoughts and he did not bat an eyelid when I said yes - if that is how you feel, please tell your doctor. they can offer you couselling as well as the medication and it can be very practical as well as supportive. good good luck tomorrow. the old cliche is true that a good mum asks for help and that is what you are doing on here and what you are doing on wednesday. take care

tigermoth · 07/09/2004 07:00

ohdear, please see someone today. I see you've taken small steps already by getting a gp and solicitor appointment. Really pleased you have and pleased find the strengh to keep going. Do tell the people you see about the practical side of your situation - please, please let them help you as much as they can. Anyone knowing what you've had to go through will admire the way you have coped. You are not weak or wrong for feeling this way now. Custardo's post was spot on. You can see people here really care about you.

Thinking of you

Tigermoth

I've sent you an email, hope I got the address right.

fairyfly · 07/09/2004 08:03

You said the Bailiffs were coming today, have you done anything to prevent that or do you need some help. Are they still coming?

aloha · 07/09/2004 09:34

How are you? What is happening today?

lemonice · 07/09/2004 10:44

I'm thinking of you.

xxx

KateandtheGirls · 07/09/2004 13:45

How are you ohdear?

MummyToSteven · 07/09/2004 18:55

bump. let us know how you are doing

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ohdear · 07/09/2004 19:21

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MummyToSteven · 07/09/2004 19:27

hang on in there. things will improve. hard to believe i know. you just need to get through each day as painlessly as possible - to tread water until you start to feel better. make sure you see the doctor tomorrow and explain how dreadful you feel. don't be tempted to put any sort of brave face on. let the doctor see the real you - that is what they are there for - not for you to try to please/make them like you - it's their job after all.

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ohdear · 07/09/2004 19:33

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sandcarstle · 07/09/2004 19:35

you need to tell your doctor everything. they wont be able to help you if you arent honest. hiding stuff just hurts you.

MummyToSteven · 07/09/2004 19:36

i have "stared into the abyss" less than a year ago, feeling hopeless and knowing that as self-harm was out of the question, I just had to ride it out till it got better. I feel so much better now - combination of ADs and CBT.

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ohdear · 07/09/2004 20:12

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MummyToSteven · 07/09/2004 20:15

would it help if a friend/MNetter came with you to the doctors, or could you not cope with that at all? if you print off your posts? somewhere along the line i think, like me, you have got the message in life (from school? parents?) that what you are isn't good enough, and that you can't show the real you - but for your own health you need to put aside the mask at the GPs, and let them know just how desperate you are feeling.

take care x

MummyToSteven · 07/09/2004 20:16

the stare into space thing etc sounds like a mixture of tiredness/depression - that you can't concentrate, etc. try and mention that to the doctor as well

Galaxy · 07/09/2004 20:39

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ohdear · 07/09/2004 20:52

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Lisa78 · 07/09/2004 20:53

YES, it gets better
Take one thing at a time and hang on in there

MummyToSteven · 07/09/2004 20:54

there may or may not be worse stuff. noone can make any promises. but if your depression is under control it won't feel as intolerable, and you won't feel so desperate. part of the depression is a feeling of utter hopelessness - that doesn't mean the reality is utter hopelessness

sandcarstle · 07/09/2004 20:55

im sure you know what the point is. or points i guess. how many children do you have? they are the point

Galaxy · 07/09/2004 20:59

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SoupDragon · 07/09/2004 21:00

I've only skimmed the thread but haven't got anything to add to everyone elses's advice. It will get better and it is worth it though.

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ohdear · 07/09/2004 21:00

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Galaxy · 07/09/2004 21:03

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spook · 07/09/2004 21:14

ohdear.Where are you.Stay on please.Everyone is worried for you.

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