desperate fag quitter! Anyone similar, fancy mutual support group?!

[fionagib]

To my shame it's about my 167th attempt to quit fags... anyone out there trying the same who would like to start a support thingie here where we can rant and vent our frustrations and praise each other? I'm starting tomorrow...

Not trying to quit but I did give up cold turkey and have never looked back
It is worth it... please keep at it.....
big hugs of support
xxx from the dd of a smoker and an ex smoker herself

I will join you. I will confess already to having a fag tommorow at about 7.30am but ill stick a patch on after that, I read a thread with you on it from months ago and wondered how youdd got on...I must be on my 168th attempt. I accidently killed my dds gerbil the other week which I used as an excuse to go and have a fag....waking up smoking a fag and making myself ill is really pissing me off, which is why im going to have one first thing, to put me in the right frame of mind "*k this" sort of thinking...excuse my language...pleased to meet you and glad to join you.
Whats your smoking/non smoking history?

Charliecat so glad to hear from you. Going to bed in a min but have smoked since age 20 (am 39...) have tried every method - patches, gum, hypnosis, allen carr session... the bloody lot. Gave up for 6 months earlier this year and felt so much better. Could actually breathe. White (ish) teeth - what a joy! Started running to stave off anxiety and ran 2 10 km races. Just caved in when we went to france (dh smokes) for hol and we had loads of wine. I just cracked up and thought - sod it! as I always do when I crack.

Had lovely time but feel awful again - smoking loads - as I am an all or nothing fagger. 20 a day at least. Now after hols am revved up to improve myself and knock this vile thing on the head. How about you...? Come on, it's horrible, and makes us skint... as allan carr says you're not giving up anything... (so why is it so nice then?) But I truly hate it, don't you???Let's kick it together. Maybe we could help each other. F xx

I think you are me by your post. I could have married allen carr the first time i read the book, i now have at least 4 copies as they are all written slightly different but once ive had one fag iignore all the a.c type messages floating in my brain, until I start feeling ill again and breathless bla bla bla...well we will do it together then yeah? Im 24, smoked since I was about 13 wish id never started....

Ill post in the morning...good luck[hug emotion] !

Hi fionagib & charliecat - can I join you both as well?! I gave up thanks to allen just before conceiving DS1 (21mths) and having him made it easier to stick to. DS2 is now 4mths and I started again about 2 mths ago. I'm only a five-ish a day smoker but still hard all the same as each one is even more enjoyable

This time the kicking is really hard so need the morale boost! Hope to hear from you guys tomorrow !

p.s. was a smoker for roughly 10yrs before DS1

i was terrified of qutting but when i did it was an anticlimax cause it was actually easier than i thought it would be -
YOU CAN DO IT
its totally possible and you know it feels great
its much more pleasurable than having a drag -youll be so proud of yourselves-
if i can do it im sure you can
good luck xxxx

Hello Minkmama feel free to join us! I have not long got up, Ive had 2 fags and have now put my patch on.
I feel sort of elated at the freedom aspect this morning. Im a bit worried about the heat making my patch fall off though, I think I will carry a spare just in case.
My downfall in the past is getting so far and then having a split second of "I want a fag" and the Allen Carr bit of my brain says Dont do it and the Evil Monster says "Go on, you know you want to" and before I know it im sitting with a fag in my hand choking to death feeling utterly gutted that ive been so stupid.
Not sure how to get over that one as it happens in about 3 seconds flat.
Doesnt help that my mum and my dp smoke so there is always a fag nearby, not that it matters 99% of the time, Its just if they are nearby when I have my moment of madness. Oh and its never just one with me either......
www.whyquit.com/joel/Joel_01_01_junkie.html will be reading a lot of this site I think and taking my A.C book with me to read at the train station.
Good Luck Folks, feeling less choked already!

Er im not 24 by the way, im 25...lol...a years gone by in a revolting puff of smoke!

Good luck, you lot.
xxxxxx

so good to hear from you - just a quickie as am in a rush, but good luck charlie c and minkmama! No fags yet - but I have only been up half an hour!! Also nice to hear it's an inticlimax - that makes me feel a bit better...

my trickiest time is late at night when dh lights up and kids are in bed...

Charliecat what you say about the three sec thing is so familiar... I get that too & think we may need an emergency tactic for such occasions. I've bought some black pepper aromatherapy oil that you're meant to sniff or put in massage oil and rub on... blimmin' dear - about 8 quid.

Hope your day's gone well!

Emergency Tactic- Carry a large hammer and whack oneself hard on the head in the few seconds it takes for the Just One Monster to take hold. should delay the thought for long enough to get over it without giving in!
Been to town and to Doctors and am chewing madly on a piece of tasteless gum, feel ok, glad to have this thread up and running.
Go girls!

hi guys, am finally here. had the last morning fag this morning and since then had 2 lozenges. foul things. you used to be able to get these really small tablets that you stuck under your tongue and disolved quicker. unfortunately they also used to make you foam at the mouth. do you remember them?

am now dying for an afternoon fag with my tea, but luckily have run out. not shaking yet...

how are you two doing?

Still going...going to make a coffee to relieve the shakes...mad addicted

Am snorting black pepper oil like a loon. My son saw me and said, what are you doing? and I said, just testing my new perfume...

The hammer idea made me larf and larf! Think am gonna have to go for a run tonight to relieve tension but actually day one has been not too bad... spent the day at a very earthy, wholesome, organic-type friend's, which helped! Have not even shouted at kids. Can feel fag desire revving up now though, but am NOT gonna cave in.

Congrats Mink and Charlie-C - you can do it!! Aren't we great?!

MM and FG had to run down here after eating my dinner as usully i slope out the back door for a fag
mm, think my mum had those once! How is it going now?
I get a sort of shortened breath and mad sort of gggggggrrrrrrr sensation all over me when having a craving..how does it effect you?
I havent shouted at the kids either and an feeling quite angelic.
Its nice to feel alive and not guilty that im killing myself every half hour.

Ha Ha, I just finished my din dins and like you, I ran up here for moral support - well done ladies!! I think we deserve a fag (only joking !) I actually considered driving out on the pretence that I had to get some food supplies for tomorrow. NOOOOOO!

Those little tablets worked a treat last time (but bearing in mind that i was also trying to conceive so that was an incentive) but to be honest, i think i was just rejecting these lozenges on the basis that i still wanted to smoke.

No shouting at DH or DS1 & 2 but that kind of thing normally hits me a couple of days later. Fingers crossed...

Have a good evening you two - I'll check for updates through the night. WELL DONE

Hi guys, can I join in too? (We've been in touch before minkmama).

I'm 38, smoked fairly lightly from 17-20, stopped for 3 years, then from 23-30 smoked around 15 a day. Then stopped for a year. From 30-37 (when pregnant) smoked up to 30 a day (agh!!). Gave up when pregnant and started again, very gradually (3 a day for 1st year of dd's life) but now am on between 5-10 a day.

I hate it. I wake up every morning feeling guilty and scared about what I'm doing to myself. But I don't seem able to stop.

Stranger than fiction please join us...youll find me here after each meal!!!!!!!!! I had a couple this morning so if you plan on stopping tommorow it will really be my First day too. Well donr Minkmama and Fiona has any one got any good quotes or ideas for the moment of madness when your reaching for a fag? Something that will stop us in our tracks? Im dying my hair tonight to give myself something to do.

And if any of you guys have msn id love to swop addresses so if we are online and desperate theres someone there feeling the same?

CC i'm not on msn but always checking mnet throughtout the day. i'll e-mail you anyway and if you need to chat away from mnet, just mail me

as for quotes...well i'm not great at that, but how about 'what doesn't kill us makes us stronger' (am i quoting right or have i made that up?!) right, i'm off to watch 'starsky & hutch' for some light relief, will check in after that ladies.

am sucking my lozenge rather hard right now if that'll raise a smile...

During World War II, in concentration camps in Germany, prisoners were not given enough food to fulfill minimum caloric nutritional requirements. They were literally starving to death. A common practice among smoking prisoners was to trade away their scarce supplies of life sustaining food for cigarettes. Even today, in underdeveloped countries, such as Bangladesh, parents with starving children barter away essential food for cigarettes. This is not normal behavior.

This was quite thought provoking. MM, have you c.a.ted me? If not i will you in the morning, busy browsing anti smoking sites!

aren't we doing well mm and cc! Nice to have stranger t f with us too...

sorry don't have msn whatever it is... What to do when mad craving hits? I went out for just a small run tonite, 20 mins, felt TONS better when I came back... Other stuff I do (not that I know anything, having failed 8 billions times - tho not THIS time...):
deep, deep breaths
clean teeth
get dh to massage shoulders
snort black pepper oil
drink loadsa tea and water so you're constantly on the bog (no time to smoke!)
revel in not having to slink off, sticking kids in front of vid, and waste my life chuffing away by the stinky wheelie bin out the back...
also libido tends to rise when I quit so a bit of a romp can help I find... (unless simmering bad mood results in us getting divorced...)
making smoothies & feeling so damn skickeningly virtuous...
and talking to you folks of course, couldn't bear the shame of having to admit I'd cracked!

Also I love that earlier v good point about giving up being not so terrible after all - in fact an anti climax...

hope you're all feeling fine & not too demented xx

Hope hair turned out nice Charlie C - what shade?

I sorted the washing mountain tonight to give myself something to do.