desperate fag quitter! Anyone similar, fancy mutual support group?!

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To my shame it's about my 167th attempt to quit fags... anyone out there trying the same who would like to start a support thingie here where we can rant and vent our frustrations and praise each other? I'm starting tomorrow...

hi guys, how funny fg, the image you portrayed of us smoking mothers next to the bin! Actually brought a smile to my face and am thankful that i won't have to plonk DS1 on a stool in the kitchen watching me sit outside puffing away. it's so desperate isn't it?

imagine in months' time when we're still contacting each other and will be able to say that we all met in such a positive way. sorry, is this sounding corny?!

what usually makes you light up? for me it's a combo of boredom and a need for some time-out away from the kids for 10mins. makes me feel guilty for putting it before them...

oh and as if giving up isn't good enough, you're running as well fg?

I think I might go to bed now, call it a 99% successful day...speak to you all tomorrow!

Yeah mink-m it's def tied in with time out from the kids, a breather literally... started running when I gave up fagging in Jan as a way of combating stress and god what a difference it made. Was inspired by my (runner) friend in Devon who we've just spent a week with (we live in scotland where EVERYONE fags it).

But am no athlete - jiggle along panting and wheezing. I do like it tho - cos (like smoking fags) I get some pleasurable after effect and also it gets me away from the kids, and is nicer than loitering by the pongy bin!

Have a ton of work to do hence working late on pc. concentration usually goes belly up when quittign fags but am okay tonight... thanks to all this support and managing to have a laugh at it too... night night!

Mink-m I think you sum it up when you say 'It's so desperate isn't it?' I am so sick of feeling crap about myself by doing that sort of thing, and knowing that I stink when I kiss my kids.

Really night night now...

It is desperate very desperatre, I found myself thinking about having a fag before I even open my eyes gonna go have a coffee, and read mr carr!

Big deep breaths Charlie c - you can do this - the craving will go in a bit or at least lessen...
Have you tried slathering yourself with lovely smelly oils or body lotions and stuff - I do feel that being all pampery does help - although am too thinking of fags quite a bit this a.m - have tingly gums, keep needing to clean teeth. Will send you my email so you can gimme a yell anytime...

how you doing minkmama?

Tingly gums and tingly hands I get....survived this morning, had a bath and read half a book (not allen carr!) thought id put a nice smelly on my wrist to sniff at to distract my brain, I think the smelly moisturiser i used is off, its meant to be heavently gingerlily and its rotten! Like damp flannels I smell like now!
My chain smoking friend is coming down later, I will have 3 coffees to her 1 fag.
Grump Grump...oh its not that bad really is it?
LOL im having a self imposed tantrum here, oh its not fair, but the truth is I dont really want to have a fag....I really want to stop and never have one again.
I guess im just sick thinking about it. Off I go to wallow in selfpity....lol.
MM how are you this morning? Sucking hard I hope!
Fiona, can you actually run for 20 mins? My lungs would fall out if I even attempted that!
And where are you in Scotland, I used to live in Falkirk, now in Kent.

Hi fg and cc, it usually takes me a while to get on mnet in the morning - DS1 is 21mths and DS2 is 4mths so have just managed to get both to sleep for some me-time! Woke up feeling great that I had near enough managed 24 hrs without the dreaded drug but then made coffee and reminisced about that first waking up drag. Thankfully don't ahve any in the house.

I find the hardest ones to give up are morning coffees and dinner. I guess one to start the day and one to end it. Oh dear, this is becoming nostalgic, what I mean to say is isn't it nice not to run outside in your pyjamas? (or is that just slothy me ) Also, it's raining at the mo, so good incentive not to sneak out!

CC, I live in Surrey!

STF where are you and how are you doing? If you haven't quite given up yet, don't worry, just keep chatting to us, it'll help!!

FG, I used to run a bit years ago pre-babies and I definitely remember the high you get after the pain. I loved it. I just don't have the time now as during the day I'm home alone w/ DS1 & 2 and DH doesn't get home till 7.30. by the time we've finished doing everything it's 9.30

Hi, I'm reading this thread with lots of interest but am nowhere near as successful as you guys so far. I'm still in the process of persuading myself I can even say I'll start tomorrow! I don't quite believe in myself just yet.

What makes me smoke is definitely stress / boredom / tiredness / need for a little break from being a mum. All very contradictory things I know.

I really do want to stop. But I think I'll be a bit behind you guys. Hopefully you'll fill me with confidence!!

poor charliecat with her smelly hands! Not as bad as fag pong tho... I live in south lanarkshire, where there are lots of SHOPS selling FAGS and... have developed a very weird greasy face today. Am desp to get out for a run (am working today but work from home so allow myself a short break when I get goggly eyed on the pc) but the rain is atrocious. Blimmin scotland!

Don't worry stranger - as someone said to me on a previous thread, you'll get to the point where you'll actually not want to smoke, rather than really really want a fag all the time...

Maybe you could escape for a run at weekends mink or is it just unfeasible at the mo? I wouldn't have managed when my kids were younger (I did used to wonder about running round and round in a big circle with their buggy parked in the middle!) but things are easing up - twin sons are 7, dd 4.

Am actually not feeling too hellish tho back teeth are permanently jammed together. Stop, rain, STOP!

Hope you're okay everyone... this is going to be worth it, as we're all gonna be clean and fragrant and gorgeous and rich!

STF, tbh I wasn't sure if i wanted to give up this time because I was enjoying it still. You'll be ready when you're ready. Don't worry about being behind though, it's just 1 day (or 1hour ) at a time!

Keep going fg, I'm going out shopping now - big test- hope i don't spend loads of money as compensation!!!

am in a foul temper and sweaty and horrible. God, I could murder a fag. Not gonna crack tho. Just need to get kids into bed and relaaaax. Hope you had good shop mink! dh calling me from her baff...

keep at it folks... like mink says one day at a time...

Seems its the same here for everyone with the teeth jammed together etc got your c.a.ts will email when dps not downloading things, each page takes 5 mins to open and it makes me very ratty waiting, so ill email when hes in bed tonight or in the morning. Ill stick my address here for now its pennyandpaddy at yahoo dot co dot uk.............deep breath and off to put the kids in bed.
Thought of the day...FRESH AIR. (losing the plot can u tell?)

poor charliecat, am feeling roughly the same. I posted something to this which didn't work, so am now incapable of working a computer. Anyway an hour ago was virtually in tears, had dd in tears also... was so ratty just cos she kept climbling out of bed. Really felt I was gonna crack, but feeling better again - it really does subside, doesn't it? If you can get through the worst, most intense bit of the craving and remind yourself that IT WILL GO AWAY. Eventually...

Think I might start smokign crack (joke).

hi, just finished dinner, needless to say ran straight up. oh poor you fg, like you say you have got through the worst. well done.

cc - i know EXACTLY what you mean about waiting around for the computer. DH is always saying wait a minute and i hate standing around. luckily I'M actually the internet meister in this house so it's usually me hogging the machine. DH knows to stay well clear at the mo now that i'm doing this

managed to spend too much money this afternoon. this is proving to be a different kind of unhealthy altogether do you know, i forked out £40 on 139 photos from the digital camera?!!!!

also got a new lip gloss so will have nice juicy plum lips instead of horrid ciggie ones...

STF are you okay?

time to go and suck something

Nearly on day 3 folks...hold it together...feels like a week though huh? But we will get out lungs back and we will feel ggoooooooooodddddd.
MM im sure ive saw somwewhere advertising 50 digital photos for 10 quid. I will keep my eyes open for you. Is it not cheaper to put them on the pc and print off the good ones and put the others to disk?
Glad you got through a bad one Fiona...well done!
Go kick something Shell from BB style, make sure youve got a decent pair of boots on first though.
STF are you still reading...bet we are putting you off???!!!
Oh yes, tip of the day, sing whilst hoovering..noone can hear you and its theraputic, try it and see....or am i really going completely bonkers lol!

buying lipgloss sounds like a good plan! I got some swanky body oil a few days ago in prep for this...

Am feeling better, isn't it incredible how nicotine withdrawal can make you actually cry? Charliecat it made me smile when you said nearly day three - hadn't actually thought of it like that - was just edging forward from tortuous hour to tortuous hour... but day three sounds pretty good! Have the 3 kids all day tomorrow plus a kids' party so not much chance to dream of ciggies.

It makes me laugh that minkmama runs off to suck something, and I have to snort something (black pepper oil) - what do you do when you're desp charlie c?

The only reason I didn;t crack this eve is cos I would have been so embarrassed and ashamed to amit it to you folks. So thanks!

Sounds like 'Day 3 in the Big Brother house...'. Hope I won't become a Nadia, although the prize fund would be much appreciated given Boots' extortionate rates. I hope you can find that cheaper deal CC, I'm still clicking away at my 2 bubbas because they're still on taht steep learning curve that warrants hundreds of pics.

Yes CC, I'm also interested in what you do when you're desperate - please don't say it's anything ruder than sucking 'something'

Aah ladies, what a successful day for us, we've done well! Have a good sleep, I'll check-in asap tomorrow a.m.

Pretty good start to today... I find that things get more and more desperate as the day goes on but am a lot more positive...

(thanks for your email charlie cat, bit hurried today with kiddies etc but brilliant to hear that you're feeling so positive!) xxx

Positive??? Jaw clenching rattling mania going on now..from one extreme to the other!

Believe it or not, this is the first chance I have had today to get on the machine. I guess that's not such a bad sign as I've managed to get through the morning on 1/2 suck and am now on my 2nd.

Talking to you guys is making this whole experience A LOT easier. Got your mail CC, will mail you back this evening when I've got more time to devote to you; I've got to take DS2 to GP for his last booster soon. I also think you're being incredibly positive, as for the jaw-clenching, at least you can't squeeze a fag through it

Hope you are having a good day fg and that the party wasn't too stressful!!