Trice big hug from me too. Can't add to wise advice on treatment but if it helps I have lost two friends who had young children. In one case it was a brutal few weeks between my friend's diagnosis and death, very traumatic for her young children without a doubt , but we got advice on how to handle it, really to let them do what they wanted and not fit into adult ideas of how you should react. Keep things normal Lots of opportunities to play . Let them experience their upset and grief when and how they want. Five years later another friend died of a heart attack and my friend his widow, was thrown within a few hours into the most spectacular mania which lasted two years followed by cycling between terrible depression and more mania, during which her children had the most awful experiences, can't go into details as would out us, but we had to give them a home for protracted periods . In both cases those children are now fantastic confidant funny young people, they have all achieved at university and are the stronger for the horrible things that happened to them. Friend's ds who understandably had some times of hating his Mum and what she had done took her away on holiday at the weekend.My other friends DS and dd have both said that they are grateful for how we handled it and however painful it was they treasure those last days they had with their Mum.
Amber sort this shower out! I know you are more than capable 
Malt I was just turned 44 too when I was diagnosed with twinnie tumour like smees 
( we should christen them, continuing musical diva theme the Andrews sisters) that was 2001 and I am still here and back to my boring life, only occasionally looking at DDs and appreciating how glad I am to be around them in spite of lying awake til 5am wondering where they are and current exam hell. I was a complete basket case when diagnosed, didn't dare let myself think I would be there for them starting secondary school,let alone 18ths university etc. I didn't go out for days or see anyone outside of immediate family because I was scared I would crumble into tears, first time I did go out I saw good friend and couldn't speak. There is no normal for how you cope but you seem to be coping better than I did.
I am sodding Cancarian, one of us had to be. What idiot named a star sign after the bugger, I blame whoever it was for everything!
kk I ravished Lee Mack for you last night He is actually by far the funniest man I have ever encountered, he just never stops but most of it has to be edited because it is too rude, as Jimmy Carr rushed off last night he turned to the audience and said " that coke won't get snorted off that rent boys back if he doesn't get a move on" cameras had stopped rolling so he didn't have to keep making us laugh 
but they are all brilliant Three hours last night, none of it is scripted they really play the game with no breaks, and they really don't know what is going to be on the cards but between them Lee Mack Rob Brydon and David Mitchell, and last night Jimmy Carr too are just so clever and quick witted that a minute doesn't pass without them making you laugh. My sides were aching by the end.
Laughter definitely best medicine slept like a log last night!
Waves to everyone glad mini gigs had a night off partying