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**TAMOXIFEN 35**the all dancing,fat boy snacking and drugs thread

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MaryAnnSingleton · 26/04/2013 16:15

yoo hoo - over here- bring the trolley...

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Copthallresident · 09/05/2013 10:39

malt I'm afraid those stories keep coming because they don't want the I got the treatment out of the way and went back to having a boring life stories. Think of them as knocking off the bad statistics so there is no room for you. Since your odd are almost certainly 90% + then you don' need many anyway. I had Caron Keating and Ruth Picardie to cope with

by way of compensation some people who get Ill and then better do write rather well about it. www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/apr/18/10-things-not-say-when-ill

topsy but did you wear your pjs? I am not in pjs but worse am in dressing gown or as my mother calls me when she is in caustic mood Woman in a dressing gown... Is gardening in dressing gown worse than gardening naked ?

malteserzz · 09/05/2013 10:40

Kit Kat chunky sounds good fingers crossed for a clear scan
Been to have my coil removed and got some more sleeping tablets, got told not to use them every night as I will get dependent on them but feel that's the least of my worries !
Bloody cold here thought it was going to be nice I've changed skirt for jeans

smee · 09/05/2013 10:46

Yay for scan done, Topsy. Kitkat chunkies leap?! Better eat it fast before it jumps out again. Smile

Ash, what's happening? Are you still in hospital??

I know this is going to sound harsh, but BN was diagnosed about same time as me and I was constantly hit at checkouts with pics of BN on front covers with her poor daughter saying 'I won't die for my daughter'. I know each to their own, but just wrong I thought. Her poor DD. Sad

Malt, have you seen the list of famous people who've all come through BC. So many.. Who has that? My fave is Edie Falco.

Gig, go power nap. Do it soon, then you'll sleep tonight.

Will be thinking of Ned at 4pm. Hope she has treats set up for after. Smile

Better get on. Brew anyone? Smile

malteserzz · 09/05/2013 10:49

Copt I loved that article thank you. Best one I had was a message from an old school friend saying that her mum had BC but had died, I'm sure she meant well but probably could have left out that information!!
I've had a lot of 'oh you're so positive you will fight this'crap too, I just smile and nodGrin
Waiting for lovely friend to come for coffee

malteserzz · 09/05/2013 10:51

Smee not ignoring you posted at the same time :)

AshokanFarewell · 09/05/2013 10:53

In for 24 hours monitoring :( if all well after that I can go home so everything crossed! In the light of day it's not actually a cupboard just a weirdly shaped room in the depths of A&E. I was wary of saying anything as I hate NHS bashing when most are doing very best they can with very limited resources. Met Dr W's polar opposite, shall call her Dr Happy. She helped me with infusion decision and also was just super lovely. My dad is coming in to visit soon Grin

cop China stuff sounds interesting, might look into one of those books some time. We had Sky in my shared uni house last year and I watched so many episodes of 19 kids and counting on Home and health channel that I knew all of the children's names Blush

topsy glad scan is done, did you wear pjs in the end?!

malt I hope the coil removal went well

ned still sending lots of positive thoughts

Waves at everyone and thank you all for being so lovely :)

AshokanFarewell · 09/05/2013 10:56

Hi smee cross posted too. I haven't seen the Bernie Nolan stuff as I try to avoid celeb stuff as much as possible but that sounds a bit horrible. As if anyone would deliberately die of cancer Hmm

smee · 09/05/2013 11:08

Ash, are they going to move you up to a ward?? Seems wrong that you're in the bowels of A&E. Shock

AshokanFarewell · 09/05/2013 11:29

Yes they'll have a bed later on the onc ward :) I've never been there but apparently it's nice. The talking lady has gone now so at least things are a bit more peaceful!

malteserzz · 09/05/2013 12:06

Ash glad to hear that youre not in a cupboard ! Hope the ward is nice, it all goes well and you can be home soon x

topsyturner · 09/05/2013 12:34

Going to have a power nap , as all shenanigans (kitkat eating) have worn me out !

Ash hope you get up to the ward soon . And that its a nice ward too !

Ned crossing everything for you today (that's gonna make the school run interesting Grin )

You'll all be relieved to know , I got dressed before going for scan ...

MaryAnnSingleton · 09/05/2013 12:43

trying to catch up - have been to get bloods done and then have coffee with 2 friends- ash you poor love - hope you are safely tucked in bed on the ward and have nice snacks to keep you occupied.
Glad your scan is all done tipsy - have a nice rest.
Lots of love to ned for this afternoon.
A bit of lunch,then some cleaning and finally some work. And I may need to try again with the blessed dropbox thing...no success yesterday.

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sparklesunshine · 09/05/2013 13:38

Morning / afternoon all...

Hope you got a half decent sleep Ash and sorry you had to stay overnight. How're you doing today? I'm impressed by the dramatic A&E stays topsy and copth!

I slept better last night, although little (4yo) woke up upset at 2am. She settled after a while and big (6yo) slept through. First totally full night for her since the move! Yay!

notJenkins · 09/05/2013 14:46

Hello from me. Glad the scan is done and dusted topsy and hope ned appointment goes well.

Sorry you are in hospital ash and glad you have found a Dr happy to sort you out.

I am a bit fed up with work already. I am finding it odd that I am having to talk about having cancer. My colleagues are all lovely and well meaning but I guess I have been all hermit like since dx and now am having to talk about it. I don't mean I am being forced to talk but they are asking how I am and being all nice and genuine ( no head tiltery yet ) so I am telling them some details as I don't feel it neds to be a secret. Cancer is my new normal but it is not normal for most people and their reactions are quite wearing.
I feel like saying wildly inappropriate things but am managing to rein myself in so far. I guess the interest will die down when I have been back for longer. I suppose I can't really moan as they have all been really nice.

malteserzz · 09/05/2013 15:20

It's hard isn't it, you just want people to be normal with you. I guess if they feel comfortable to talk to you about it it's better than being awkward and if being the elephant in the room. You don't always want to talk about it though. I also hate the thought that everyone's talking about me after they've seen me

Sometimesiwonder · 09/05/2013 15:21

It is wearing, notJenkins, I agree Sad. Even now, four years on, there are people who head tilt and say 'But really, how are YOU' if I ask them how they're doing. It does get you down.

Hi all - massive sympathies to Ash, and also to MAS (from a fellow Dropbox ignoramus). x

KurriKurri · 09/05/2013 15:34

Hi all, I went to yoga this morning then to a pet shop where I bought old lady dog lots of treats 'I like those cheesy nibble things Mummy' she said Grin

Ash - bugger to having to stay in hospital, but hopefully you'll be out tomorrow and feeling more comfortable. Glad Dr Happy has helped with decisions (although why Dr W couldn't offer any assistance beggar's belief)
Can your parents bring you in some ear plugs so you can avoid another noisy night?

Copt - love that article - so true the 'yours fears are unfounded' rudeness really hit a mark with me, as that is exactly what DH does all the time.

malt - your DD's friends mum sound like a great source of support. I think it can really help to talk things over with someone who's at the same kind of treatment stage as you.

topsy - glad the scan is done, and good vibes to ned for her appointment later.

Gigs - my message thingy works. Hope you manage to get some sleep tonight - how are things with big Gig and school - any progress?

MAS coffee sound nice (bloods not so nice Grin) - does your next cycle start tomorrow?

NJ - it is hard - you almost feel as if you have to 'comfort' people as they deal with the news and details of your illness (that's how I felt anyway) and it's strain.

Waving to Smee and Sparkle xx

I try to avoid all those cancer memoir books, - I think they are probably constantly around, but you only notice them when you are DX and they seem to be constantly shoved in your face. A friend of mine's brother sent her a copy of Lance Armstrong's book when she was DX, - she sent it back Grin

DD has a concert tonight (she's accompanying her opera singer chap in a music festival) she's v.nervous as he changed his programme at the last minute (Tuesday) and she's had to learn a really complicated 15 page Mozart thing in two days. She's having to ice her hand because it is so achy. And he was terribly vague about what to wear so she's worrying about how formal or otherwise she needs to be (i.e long or short dress).
All v. anxiety making.

Love to all xx

KurriKurri · 09/05/2013 15:41

Ooh meant to say - very jealous of Would I Lie to You recording Copt, - can you give Lee Mack a grope from me if you get the opportunity? Grin

MaryAnnSingleton · 09/05/2013 16:21

next cycle starts on Saturday kk - kind mummy for treating Old Lady dog,though am sure she deserves it. Celeste plants herself by the kitchen worktop and looks meaningfully at the Dreamies packet...
I tend to say I'm fine when asked as am sure everyone's bored silly - I'm bored silly anyway !
Oh that Dropbox has vexed me- I managed to send my first load of stuff to website man but couldn't remember how I'd done it when I tried to send some more just now. I think I may need to brave the wind outside and get some coffee at W. then return to drawing polar bears.
Thinking of dear ned right now.

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MaryAnnSingleton · 09/05/2013 16:21

oh and loads of good luck to clever dd for tonight kk

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Gigondas · 09/05/2013 16:36

Thinking of ned.

You know celeste is big gigs idol mas? We have to look and look again at her photos.

Kurri- big gig doing better but it's a slow road as there is a gap between her understanding and what she can be arsed to write/do in class (lazy and stubborn). But we have a plan to encourage her - also teacher is fond of her which helps.

Hope dd concert goes well.

That article is brill - the last point in particular really rang true ESP with work colleagues. Copt - will do book list but anything by Mary beard is always insightful and thought provoking.

Genetics thing very interesting as had my family history info cos of cousin. They are doing 3 tests (including braca ) which given my family history etc may show genetic issue. Point being if there is one (will know in about 10 weeks) they can test the mini gigs and screen them. Plus as dr says by time they are if ate things will have moved on. So actually I feel quite good as knowledge is power.

MaryAnnSingleton · 09/05/2013 16:48

oh my, Celeste will be flattered..Grin
i think the gene testing is good idea - my SIL was tested as there is history on her side of family and she was worried about DN - & thnkfully no genetic link.

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NedSchneebly · 09/05/2013 16:49

I'm back! Miracle in on time and out in 5 minutes!

Got the all clear Smile Signed off until mammo in November and oncy clinic in December. Said all felt fine, quite a lot of internal scarring but they knew that from the mammo. Oncy said no to having my ovaries out - apparently I am about 10 years too young, and the possible benefits are outweighed by the risk factors. Said Tamoxifen was my best defence but I could think about it in the future. Didn't put me on anything else, and didn't seem too worried about periods restarting Confused

Feels all a bit surreal, but good too Smile

Will have a proper read back later once I've picked up and fed DS.

Lots of love to you all - I really felt your strength getting me through the day x x x x x

notJenkins · 09/05/2013 16:56

copt that article is really good.

gigsglad the appointment was helpful.

notJenkins · 09/05/2013 16:56

Woohoo good news ned