btw - i missed my DDs illness when she was rushed in. I didnt think it was serious but my DP was adamant she was really ill and i thought she was playing me up (making a "daft" or so i thought, grunting noise).
I told my DP "well you ring the bloody doctor then if you think she is so ill". He did and emergency doc said "by the sounds of her breathing you need to call an ambulance NOW".
Yes, im stupid but I just didnt believe my child can get that ill without it being v obvious IYSWIM.