Class of '18 results day

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[[https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/further_education/3313710-Class-of-18-nervously-waiting old thread]]

You know the drill though, that one needs to be used up first lowers glasses to give (behave Chocolate!)

Some of us already have btech results, some have unconditionals, but it's a nervous time for most. Lots of

Joining!

It's ok everyone, we've got this.

[peppermint tea] sod it. [peppermint schnapps]

DD has her BTEC certs so pretty sure she has got her place, but last year friends ds at same college had panics on the day as , somewhere along the wsy his results hadnt been uploaded to UCAS, and it was a very stressfull day.

Hello all, I peeked in a few threads back and thought I’d join you for the final stretch. DD is awaiting A level results and DS gets his GCSE results next week, so I’m feeling pretty stressed! The DCs are not stressed at all, which I’m glad about. DD and I calmly went through some of the courses in clearing and she chose one that she will call if she doesn’t get the grades for her first choice. I must say that going through the clearing lists has given me much hope for DS when he goes to university in 2 years. I’ve seen many courses in clearing at universities that he would like to go to. They were originally asking for AAB and are now in clearing for ABC or BBB!

On this thread people are saying that students can phone their firm choice before results day to find out whether or not their place is confirmed. Is this true?

I've made a sort of flowchart for myself, even though DS1 won't be doing Clearing.

BBB or above -> DS1 goes to 1st choice university, feels happy with his results.

BBC or BCC -> DS1 goes to back-up university, feels satisfied with his results.

CCC to EEE: DS1 goes to back-up university, feels disappointed about his results but is hopefully able to do well in his degree with support in place.

I love the idea of a flowchart!

Thanks for the new thread, and the tag. I've only just joined the last one, and it's not this year that DD is off to University, but

a) Thursday is the AS results day (Wales) and the day that will tell her if she's probably on course for grades that make her able to apply for Cambridge and

b) It's fascinating and will help me know what the hell to do next year when it's her turn.

So thanks all. :)

Hello!
*flatmouse, as my ds also failed this week I know how you feel. It's stressful enough this week without that early disappointment. Think his was down to another driver speeding up to a roundabout.

If any of you are on FB there a page called WIWIKAU ( what I wish I'd known about University), if you need / want any further support / advice
Just a group of parents( and some students) helping each other out, navigate their way round uni life ...lots of very useful advice...we'd be happy to see you there

Found you!

My usual Tuesday night chauffeuring has been cancelled as DS's dance partner csnt make practice so I'm about to have a soak in the bath and a G&T in the hope of a better night's sleep tonight.

I can't believe in 36 hours we'll know!!

Third I'm sure from what I've read that's not the case now.
Can you imagine the chaos?

DrPeppersPhD yes it does make sense. It sounds like you have come a long way in understanding the various voices.

Some of those voices are helpful, the ones which stop you for settling for second best (your own second best) when you know you are capable of better and better is what is wanted. However, dont forget that sometimes 'good enough' really is good enough.

Some of the voices are unhelpful, the ones which deny the evidence. The ones which say you arent good enough when you clearly are.

The trick is to know the difference!

DrPepper
You've reminded me of something called Transactional Analysis that I learned about in years of therapy. Basically, the theory is that we all have a child self, a parent self and an adult self. These could be the internal voices you are hearing. The parent-self is maybe telling you off and saying that you should have worked even harder, the child-self is maybe telling you that it's scared. What you need to try and do, is figure out what the adult-self is saying and listen to that voice - that is the voice that can sooth the child and choose what to listen to from the parent. Maybe child and parent both need to be told by the adult that worrying isn't going to change anything now, and that whatever happens, you'll be ok.

Just wondering whether any of you have been on mumsnet since these teenagers were born? (My ds2 is one year older, but I joined mumsnet when he was about 1yo, I think, which was very early days for mumsnet.)

Here.

I've brought you all some and

Just what I need Starfleet just been down to raid the cupboards for something sweet and the DDs have eaten everything! Had to make do with a two pack of crushed Oreos!

Roisin - I've been on since about 2001

Used to be able to go out to lunch and get back and read all threads with new posts while you were away!

roisin I only joined in 2012 (I think), but wished I'd discovered Mumsnet a bit earlier.

I've been here since about 2001 too.

Someone mentioned an expensive time - it certainly is. DD1 is deep in her driving lessons, has passed her theory yesterday so I've forked out for her practical. However, she'll have to wait til Oct half term to take it due to the availability of slots at our local test centre. So that's some more lessons to fork out for.

Hope your DC (and you lot) aren't too anxious for results day!

I joined MN about 2005 after DS2 was born. Wish I'd found it earlier as it would have been really useful in those PFB early days of new motherhood, it's definitely changed over the last 13 or so years!

Sending sleep well wishes to everyone but I may be back on in the early hours if last night is anything to go by. Just think though, this time tomorrow we'll be nearly there.....

Not sure how I will be feeling this time tomorrow 2gorgeousboys!

My DD who would not let me even mention the word clearing as it was too negative has sent me a message today asking me to look into it all for her and has a list of possible alternatives now! Suddenly she is adamant that she has not got what she needs. She is away at teh moment but travelling back tomorrow night.

Hi! Can I join you? I was on an early thread but have had my fingers in my ears going 'la la la' since Christmas.

DS is remarkably chilled. He got an Oxford offer but his insurance offer is for the same grades so it's Oxford or bust. With the flowchart above (thanks Third) A*AA - Oxford. AAA or below - a year in Spain with his grandparents which he likes the sound of! Apparently there are language schools nearby and he could work on a tan.

On the day everyone seems to be going in for 7.30am so I'll be dropping off then waiting anxiously in a local coffee shop with other mums. Is anyone else going in that early? It's going to be a long day!

Offtofeedthesheep for me it's the not knowing, whatever the results are we can deal with, whether that's resits, Clearing or a complete rethink but the not knowing and speculation is really hard. Especially knowing the universities have decided and schools will know tomorrow morning!

Thats it exactly! I am good with dealing with things and I have been saying all year nothing is the end of the world and we can help work through anything. It is the not knowing that has my nerves on edge. and the unfairness of it all - my DD has worked so hard, could not have done anything else and I want her to get what she deserves.