Class of '18 results day

[OhYouBadBadKitten]

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You know the drill though, that one needs to be used up first lowers glasses to give (behave Chocolate!)

Some of us already have btech results, some have unconditionals, but it's a nervous time for most. Lots of

It is annoying when family don't acknowledge your DC but actually my DDs grandparents have been too interested, so much so that DD felt a weight of expectation pressure and that she may disappoint them on results day - that is also not good.

That's hard Lonicera :(

I think I have Issues.

My parents are good at congratulations. They knew dd's results before me because they phoned while she was in school and I was waiting outside for her. They're here today for a celebration dinner (takeaway) and want to buy supplies for taking to uni (my mum wants a list of things to look out for in her charity shop). Dd's father has never met her so obviously those "grandparents" don't get involved at all. Mil (dd's stepnan) hasn't even asked about results because she doesn't understand the English system. We told her months ago where DD is going so she doesn't really understand that the results have only just come out as she did the exams ages ago.

for you kitten that the grandparents aren't very celebratory. It's hard when people don't react the way they are supposed to.

It's awful Kitten. The disease has made her aggressive and belligerent and sadly, very unlikeable.

My parents are dead Ursula

It's such a cruel theft of a person's mind Lonicera.

Thank you MrsAd, it does make me sad. but you know what for me personally I do have you guys who were absolutely lovely on results day (and all the other times) and I was so touched by everyone's cheering on. It meant a massive amount.

As for dd, I guess she's known no different in life. I darent ask her how she feels about it, in case it hasn't occurred for her to feel sad.

Lobster congratulations on the internship, she must have made a really good impression.

I haven't spoken to one of the grannies, when DS rang her with his GCSE results she immediately started listing how much better his cousins had done in the previous years. DS is old enough to do his own calling now and he chose to not bother. I can't think why that might be. It was a bit of a non event in that he's known where he's been going since November so there's no news as such, nothing has changed. The other grannie took him out for a meal and I believe money has changed hands but I'm not supposed to know. I don't know why I'm not supposed to know but there you are.

Lobster I was so busy wallowing I missed your dd being invited for an internship. That's really impressive!

I think grandparents reap what they sow in terms of lack of contact with grandkids. If they don't make an effort when the kids are little then the kids aren't going to make an effort when they are older.

Both sets of gp have shown an interest, and sent cards.

Lobster - well,done on little Lobster on her internship.

Marmite - how are you?

Oh pants!! The forecast didn't show rain at Leeds. When I spoke to DS this morning he said it was windy and cold but he had his blanket around his knees....he lives a proper rock'n'roll lifestyle.

Grandparents...he has one set who absolutely dote on him (he was their only grandchild for 12 years) and then a grandmother - she is a bit bonkers and was complicit in a plan to abduct DS when he was a baby so we don't see her. Helps that she lives on another continent

lobster well done to your dd an internship is impressive.

DD only has grandmothers now. One sent a card and money, the other is not well enough to do it herself but her uncle organised a card on his mother's behalf.

Petal I'm fine. Had reconstruction appointment today but not going for all that jazz. Simple mastectomy for me then I can get on with the treatment. Can't be doing with hours of surgery that might cause complications and months for recovery/not driving. Got 19th September as operation date. Day after DD1 turns 19. Gives me a few weeks to get all of the uni stuff together and for DD2 to settle back into school and last year if GCSEs.

Will be thinking of you. Imhad a lumpectomy six years ago, and now have a slightly sunken. nipple as a result.

Will you need chemo,or radiotherapy. I didn’t need chemo, but had radiotherapy which was fine although tiring,

How are your dcs? The best policy is to be honest. As you said upthread, once you have a treatment plan, it’s alot easier. A word of warning, sometimes you don’t really appreciate what’s going On until after the treatment is all,finished, and then it hits you.

I won't know til they biopsy tissue and lymph node what treatment I will need. I agree that I will probably find that the most difficult bit. DDs are great. Have been very honest about the process and will continue to do so.
Anyway I don't want to turn the Thread into a woe is me thread! When I am feeling brave I will go and join a cancer thread.

ok marmite, know that we are thinking of you and are here to listen any time you need it. But if you want a thread where you aren't reminded all the time then we understand.

It is very wet :(

Ds's grandparents interested in his progress, but in a rather stately non chatty way. And they have multiple grandsons. Occasionally make pronouncements on what they think is "best" for him and my Dad can make irritating comments about Virgil, Homer and famous poets, which ds is baffled by, but my mum had a difficult time with her teenage sons so she is quite humble about being too know it all. She certainly wouldn't expect ds to be tidy, polite or particularily academic blush] but she likes it when there is good news, certainly, she is touchingly chuffed. Very much along the lines of my grandson has an "ology". Odd, considering she herself was an Oxbridge graduate. As I say, experience has humbled her..

no-one has sent any money or cards although lots of my friends/wellwishers have sent third party texts. my mum is giving him several meals though this week, one way or another..He would probably love a few congratulation cards. I never thought of that. I feel the congratulations are yet to come when he actually starts studying again. Is that mean of me?

I tried to have a nap this afternoon but was woken by very loud "Matilda" soundtrack next door from ds2, who wasn't actually in the room it turned out then I retreated upstairs, only to woken by the noise of a almighty WET downpour on the loft roof. It feels a bit autumnal. glad not to be in a tent. dd is complaining that she wishes she was. [at Reading, which she is not, due to my extended meanness]

Just wondering if someone has tripped a switch somewhere and shunted us into autumn.

We were feeling very comfortable with DD2's preparations then the dozy clunk mixed up her bank appointment. New appointment made but a week and a half later. I am calm, I am calm, I am calm.

Only 3 weeks until we deliver DD2 to the next stage in her life.

I've had to put a jumper on.

DD has had congratulation cards and gifts from several family members.

Still not decided on bank account.

DD is still not 100% fit since Malia. I've suggested she takes it easy for the next few weeks to prepare for Freshers' Week.

OYBBK I hope I didn't sound ungrateful. I really appreciate all of the messages. I was just a bit embarrassed as obviously the thread is about our DC/education and I didn't want you guys to think I am just moaning on. Thank you to everyone for the positive messages and kind thoughts.

I am calm now, what made everything right for me was when DS made contact with his flatmates. There will be five of them but there are only four chatting at the moment, three girls and DS. Conversations are being had and plans made for sharing out essential kitchen equipment some of which I've managed without for thirty years whereas there is vital stuff that is not listed. They will have a surprise when they find that not all canned food is in ring pull tins. I am keeping my mouth shut, offering things I have two of and making a pile of freshly washed bedding in the garage.

I am very glad that I'm not in a tent tonight, we had a real downpour this afternoon. It is supposed to be fine tomorrow and there is a chance that the last bits of bedding will be delivered - I might finish the going away laundry.

We had hailstones today.

DD not been given her room number yet so not sure whether she will be in a 4 or a 6. Looking at the video I think they get two fridge freezers for 4 and 3 for a kitchen for 6. Apparently the bed lifts up and has storage beneath. I see that being filled with tissues and loo rolls for miss snotsville.

knitting that is lovely that they are all chatting.
I tried to open a corned beef tin the other night, it was dangerous I tell you! then I tried toa ttack it with a tin opener, impossible.

I can end the thread with my deep love for my terribly expensive tin opener. It turns over the edges so you don't slice your fingers.