Once you become aware of male entitlement…
Giraffesandbottoms · 16/02/2022 17:05
This afternoon I wanted to pick up my children from my mother’s. 2 minute job to get them from her front door into the car. Pull up outside, and a man from the house opposite comes out with two other men:
Man “we need to get this van out of the driveway” (note - not ASKING, TELLING me)
Me “ok, I’ll be gone in two minutes”.
Get back to car under a minute later with my mother and children and they haven’t waited and are have started a humiliating 100 point turn. It’s honestly so embarrassing for them. My mother asks if they can please wait so we can get into the car (note ASKS and PLEASE).
Man “we asked you to wait”
Me “you did nothing of the sort. You TOLD me. And now you’re doing a humiliating 100 point turn that will take another 5 minutes when by now I would be gone and so would you”.
Man also reeked of alcohol. Just so fucking needless - saw a pregnant woman and immediately thought what I needed to do and what I was saying was worthless/their needs trumped mine. Ended up making their lives harder. Also so telling how they saw it as them having asked me!
Somebodylikeyouu · 16/02/2022 19:33
I agree with your first post. I was going through roadworks, my right of way and a bloke in a car came barrelling down flashing his lights for me to reverse. The bloke at the roadworks actually came over to tell me he’d give me a hand to reverse. At which point I laughed (out of sheer incredulity tbh) and told them both that it was fine, I wasn’t moving back otherwise how else would the other driver learn? I had to actually switch my engine off to make it abundantly clear to the other driver who did eventually reverse.
Ionlydomassiveones · 16/02/2022 19:43
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Giraffesandbottoms · 16/02/2022 20:48
So you parked in such a way to block them from getting the van out of the driveway? I'm not sure they're the unreasonable ones here
No. I parked on the opposite side of the road, outside my mothers house. It was convenient for me and legal to do so/safest to get my children. They happened to want to back a large van out. I was entitled to park there and had they asked politely I would have moved and waited for 2 mins but the man made a demand of me when he should have been asking for a favour!
MrsTerryPratchett · 16/02/2022 20:58
Try it. It's very enlightening. Walking down the road only move halfway out of the way of any men. They should move the other half the way.
My experience is that if you look at them, they don't move because they think you will. Stare into the middle distance and they will move.
Almost always. Except Lovely Blue Shirt Man, who runs the opposite way around a lake from me on weekends. He always moves, always smiles and is my favourite male runner. I loves him. He has run alone, in pairs, with a group. All those bastards get in my way but he moves.
Oh and Three Old Men who walk at the same lake. They always move, and once when DogPratchett ran ahead and they saw him and not me, they were getting ready to call emergency services. Bless their hearts. I give credit where it's due.
Giraffesandbottoms · 16/02/2022 21:03
I had an incident a few months back where another dick expected me to pull in at a specific gap in parked cars, and when I didn’t pull in WHERE he expected, he yelled at me. There was no right of way - I didn’t need to pull in at all! Absolutely
Seems to be amplified by being in a car.
user1471453601 · 16/02/2022 21:05
@Ionlydomassiveones, not all of us make ourselves small, I don't and I don't give up an armrest without a struggle. And if I happen not to win that round, I win it back as soon as they relinquish it. It makes a four hour flight quite entertaining. But then, I'm petty, and past the age when I give a flying fuck what most people think of me.
Sexnotgender · 16/02/2022 21:10
Seems to be amplified by being in a car.
I was walking down a one way street about 10 years ago with my primary aged daughter. Bloke in a BMW came flying the wrong way up the road. Got out his car yelling at me, swearing etc. apparently I was in the wrong 🙄 I politely pointed out HE was driving the wrong way up a one way street.
Giraffesandbottoms · 16/02/2022 21:11
I do think it’s one of those things that once you see it, you cant unsee it. My old doctor was a very fancy, old white man. When DS1 was 2 weeks old I referred to him (my baby) by his nickname. He said to me “No, you must NEVER call him that. He must always be ”… I sheepishly mumbled somethjng agreeable.
Now I’m 30 and a pregnant mother of 2 and my eyes have been opened. I would love to go back in time and tell the patronising twat to fuck off. A female doctor (or anyone else) would never have said something like that to me.
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