I recently made a new friend. Today, over a playdate with our daughters, she told me twice and in very strong terms that she's not a feminist.
I don't understand what she means by this.
Some vague background...
She is in her 30s with two children, one of each sex. Her husband, from what she's told me and the little from when I met him, is one of the good guys. They both work, both full time I think and my assumption is their salaries are fairly equal (I know their job titles and they're approx equivalent levels of seniority).
We've talked around some men being useless and others being decent, both regarding housework, childcare, and general behaviour. We seemed well aligned on this.
I didn't feel quite brave enough to say 'what on earth do you mean you're not a feminist? What part of feminism puts you off?' but I might next time we're chatting.
I've shared a few things with her which implicitly give the impression I'm a feminist, or at least for a modern equality between the sexes compared with old fashioned views of eg husband being in charge in a marriage and she wholeheartedly agreed.
I don't think this is anything to do with gender vs sex etc, I'm pretty sure this one isn't hugely on her radar.
Her daughter has been subject to low level bullying which relates to her being a girl and she was a strong advocate for her at school, we both agreed the boy needed a message this isn't OK just as much as the girl needed support.
Does anyone have a friend who would claim not to be a feminist who can shed any light on this? This is not a family where the man supports them both and the woman stays at home, that isn't their values. I'm confused.
She's a really interesting, warm, funny person and I'd like to stay friends with her. It just threw me.
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Mum2021askingquestion · 23/10/2021 23:10
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