The Anxiety Club- part 3!

[blissa]

Couldn't think of a more imaginative title!

Hi girls

I posted a reply on the other thread and now it's too big to reply to, so here we are a nice sparkly new thread!

xx

Not having a good day at all. Feel I am going to burst out in tears. Basically I got my periods today after only having them 16 days ago. I am up the wall about this. I do suffer with health anxiety but I have been doing so good. I googled which was the wrong thing to do. Also have mild PCOS. My periods have been regular of late between 28 and 34 days. I don't know what to do. I know I am being a drama queen. I think I will go to GP tomorrow to check it out. Can someone come on and reassure me.

Hello Kildare.

OF the friends I've had with PCOS they have random amounts of time between their periods. So 16 days wouldn't be uncommon though could come after a gap of 6 months.

See the gp tomorrow and see if they can put your mind at rest. Step away from google as you will find everything is terrible -even having nothing wrong wiht you - somewhere on the internet.

See if you can spend 10 minutes thinking about your worries - set a timer. Then stop and go for a walk listening to music or do something relaxing.

When I can't stop thinking about something I find that trying to picture a 3d number - with colour, texture everything from all angles. Based in a pure white room. It takes all your brain power to view it completely as if it were in front of you.

Pelvic - hope you had a good nights sleep and feel rested today. It sounds like it was a good day all in all despite the stressful moments.

Hello ladies,
Have you been a bit stressed lately kildare that could be affecting hormones and periods? Also sounds like pcos is playing up at the minute. Is it a one-off occurrence or has it happened quite a lot lately. I have one eager ovary and one 'normal' one so one month I'm about 24/5 days and the other I'm 28/9. I think our bodies are so intriguing the different things they do - and being a control freak I hate not 'knowing' the reason for things. Hope you are feeling a bit better now.

Hi armadillo - how are you doing? Have you had a good weekend?

Pelvic - communion sounds as though it was lovely and you coped really well .

Yommy - am dying to hear how the hen night went - what's the goss!?

Hello blissa, lola and choclab.

I'm ok - had a wobbly day at work yesterday - was rather stressed to begin with as dp dropped me off and we were late (hate nagging telling him to hurry up etc and knew we would be in a rush - should have jsut driven myself but he was bored). Anyway I think the panic to get in on time set off some anxiety and had a couple of light-headed spells. Had a fine day today though. (though one girl got sent home early ill and am a bit funny about germs so spent first hour thinking I was going to catch stomach bug)
Anyway, that's about it from my end.xxxx

hello piggymad - sympathise with the running late. That would send me into full blown panic. I have to be early everywhere else

I have had a good weekend so far. Yesterdays family bbq was nice. And today we;ve been at home and got the cleaning done which always makes me feel better (I make it a family activity - I do know how bad that sounds but is the best way). Had to get up at 7am to view bank accounts as was panicking and worked out all benefits etc for after baby born which was encouraging. Re did my budget spreadsheet, twice. I do get panicky about money.

Didn't have to take my extra tablets this weekend which was nice. I think taking extra for 2 days calmed me down enough that I don't need them for now.

HAve finance type appt in morning, but I know where all my paperwork is and have done a tick list so can get it all out tonight. THen have to go to doctors to check appt confusion for later in the week (that will panic me) and have to phone dentist to rebook appt that will also panic me. Will be stressful day tomorrow but hopefully can rest in afternoon.

Paperwork/banking stuff/cleaning always helps me as makes me feel on top of things. I get a bit obsessional about it I think atm.

I'm rubbish at both paperwork and cleaning!!! Every so often I have a mad cull of everything and a mad clean and I do feel so much better in a clean, organised house, but I'm just generally lazy when it comes to things like that. Glad you've had a few calm days - I get anxious about doctor and dentist appts too - hate sitting in the waiting rooms waiting to be called in - always so scared I will pass out or not physically be able to stand up and get to the doctor's office iyswim.

I worry that I'll be late and/or miss them calling my name and that I'll go in and they'll tell me off for being bad and aaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggghhhhhhhh

Doctor is good though and has actually helped a lot of my panic just by being nice. GOing to new one (which is what I've got to sort out) who I have seen before and is also calm and nice.

If they carry on at this rate they will cure my fear of doctors in no time!

That's good that they're nice - I had an awful one when I was first diagnosed - basically I called a doctor out as couldn't et out of bed without being dizzy/breathless/panicky/palpitations and thought there was something seriously wrong with me. She told me off for calling out doctor and being hypochondriac!! I was petrified! Anyway, got a much nicer one after that and she was lovely. It's such a shame there's a mixed bag - it takes a certain type of doctor to deal with mental illnesses I think.

Yeah when they are bad they can do a lot of damage.

Had a bad one a couple of weeks ago that I was supposed to transfer to. Basically told me because I was paranoid he couldn't trust anything I said, all that I thought about my parents was probably me misinterpreting what they said and lots of stuff. He told me he didn't know why I was ill, why I was on these specific medications etc etc. I came out shaking and was terrible for a week after and then has still taken me longer to get over it.

Apparently he is good with most people but clearly has little idea of mental illness (he kept telling me he didn't know what to do) and little idea of childhood abuse.

Good doctors make the world of difference but unfortunately so do bad ones.

Hi all, just popping my head round the door... havent had a chance to have a proper read through so will do a proper check in the next couple of days.
Hope all are ok and you got some sunshine this wkend.

Lola

Thanks Armadillo and Piggy! I feel a lot better now. I am going to make an appointment with my GP this week, I have to renew/discuss my prescription for ADs so I will bring up the early period with her. Kill 2 birds with one stone in a way! I haven't been really stressed or anxious these last few weeks, actually I've been in good form. I have a feeling it is hormonial and as you say the PCOS could be playing up. I suppose I hate anything to do with Gyne issues, having PCOS, having the posterior op last year blah, blah. Also I was out last night and I alway feel a bit more anxious the next day.

Pelvic - Delighted that you had a great time at your DDs Communion. I think thats a lovely idea passing your dress onto your dd. It makes it more special, I think

Take care everyone. xxx

Morning Ladies,

Hope you are all well!

My hen night was AMAZING!! Practically panic free!! Had about 1 light headed moment and just had so much fun! Danced the night away, never got home til 4.30 Still recovering from the tiredness, lol! Never really drank much as wanted to stay in control, but to be honest I can have a good time without the drink anyway!

Will write more later, both my boys are up now x x x

Hi all,

kildare- I have pcos and have huge gaps between my periods too. I feel when I have one all the periods I've missed come at once in terms of hormones. You've recognised its likely to be your hormones not you, I hope that comforts you in some way. I hope the doc can help you.

Yommy- so glad you had a fantastic hen night! Dancing the night away sounds lovely

Pelvic- your daughter's communion sounds so lovely. Got a tad choked up reading how you passed your dress down- tad emotional at the moment

Armadillo- how are you fellow pg one? so sorry to read about that awful doctor. Totally agree with piggy When you find a good one it really makes you realise how awful some others are. Glad you had a good bbq. I also find banking/ app. making/ sorting incredibly stressful but oddly get a bit of a buzz when I've done it. Dont start me on my obsession with filing!

piggy how are you doing? being late is horrible, unfortunately my dp has a degree in it! he does try though bless. Hopefully you wont get that bug, could be an isolated incident- fingers crossed. I tend to have some enchinacea (sp) if I've been around ill people but my immune system isnt too fab. Hope everything else is ok.

All is ok my end, had friends over last week and about to meet another today. So am busy had couple of anxiety issues but thankfully they were brief. Tend to freak out if Im in town alone- I dont really know why. Found a couple of stretch marks this morning on top of old ones- joy! Itchy tummy too but think it could be the weather tbh its a tad muggy.

Hope blissa, choclab and anyone else I've missed- I get terribly paranoid about missing ppl off/ offending anyone.

Have a good monday

Lola

Hi ladies

So glad you had a great night Yommy- 4.30am , I think the last time I was out that late was my 18th!

I'm glad you are feeling calmer kildare. I hope the appointment with the gp goes well.

Well done for getting through friday afternoon. Sounds like you had a lovely bbq. Hope the appointment went ok this morning and that you are feeling ok.

Not heard of that book Piggy, sounds like one of those books you don't want to read (because of the subject matter) but have to. A bit like A Boy Called Dave etc. What did you buy with your £17?

Hope you have a nice afternoon with your friend lola. How long to you have to go now?

I'm glad you had a good day on saturday Pelvic. I am exactly the same- worrying about what might have happened after the event.

Had a lovely weekend here. Took the dcs to Legoland again saturday afternoon. It was so quiet (probably because of the footie) and we got to do lots more than the last time. Only downer was the last ride we went on, a water ride that they'd all been looking forward to, broke down just before the end and they had to get us all off. Typical!

I managed Tesco yesterday too without any wobbles, took dd2 with me. Maybe that's the key- take a small one with you, although it works out much more expensive!

No pre-school for ds today as it was the day for the parents to talk with the teachers about how they are doing. We have been into town to get some cards, we have lots of family birthdays coming up, and then popped into Iceland a bought a pizza for lunch- naughty!

Armadillo- Well done for getting through friday afternoon. Sounds like you had a lovely bbq. Hope the appointment went ok this morning and that you are feeling ok.

Hi all

Kildare-My periods went like that and were all over the place and getting heavier etc so reluctantly i had to go back onto the pill.
I think hormones really affect anxiety and seem to heighten it somehow.

yommymommy-So pleased that you enjoyed the hen night.And cant believe you stayed out til 4.30I would have been asleep i think lol.

Blissa-Pleased that you had an enjoyable weekend.

Armadillo- Sounds like the nice weekend calmed you down.
Paperwork tends to stress me out too.My kitchen worktop has a pile of school letters etc that never decreases.I could scream sometimes as i cant keep up with all the demands.

Piggymad-I know that feeling well when you are running late.I have been known to verge on hysteria.I think maybe its the not being in control of a situation thats so awful.

lola-Stretchmarks are a bitch

I got very upset today because a cat had another of our regular bird visitors.I am very sensitive when it comes to animals and i got up to find the garden covered in feathers againWorst thing was that when i got home at lunchtime i saw the wood pigeon crawling round the gardenIts back end was bald and it could barely hold its head up.I went out to get a bucket to catch it and it was terrified and fled up and managed to fly over the railway track.
I feel like i should have done more for it.If i had looked out and seen it this morning .......
I can't bare to think of it suffering.

Scared to feed the birds now.

hi all m can anyone calm me down ..im in a anx health worry again ...my bloating once more ....im still really worried could be OC ,,,

health anx taking over ...

went to docs again last week who , for my own reasurance , sending me for scan and having blood tests done tomorrow to check hormone and a CA125 test ..
he said he still thinks its my IBS , but as was in an anx state will refure me ,

im still worried he may think it is it ? getting myself in a state ...

i see some of you ladies have PSOS what r symptoms of that ...

thanks for listening

Hi Choclab

Sorry you are feeling so anxious
I know we always fear the worst when there is a health concern.Your GP would say if he thought it was anything else.Maybe once you have the scan etc you will feel calmer.
Could the GP give you anything to calm you?

hi pevic ,

he was really nice , spent time with me , explaining how he couldnt say 100% i hadnt got it , as this kind of thing shows no symptoms till very end and is only picked up by mistake or on other tests for something els .

so AS i was worried the only way he could reasure me is to do tests for me ...
but did say in 19 years hes only ever seen 2 cases , and as i have IBS he thinks this is why i have the bloating ..

in a way thats good but in another im worried ...

just got myself in a twiz really ...

i am on waiting list for CBT help so waiting to here ..

thanks for listening ..

how r u and everyone els doing ?

Your Gp sounds very supportive and understanding.Shame not all Gp's are like that.
It speaks for itself if he has only seen 2 cases in 19years.
Bloating is a symptom of IBS indeed and also Coeliac.

thanks pelvic ,

i had blood tests a while back for that to , came back negative , i dont know to much about that .

Hi ladies,
Pelvic I know exactly how you feel about animals - I get quite upset when I see squirrels/foxes/rabbits in the road. It's awful. I often get more upset about animal cruelty that human cruelty (don't know what that sas about me )

Choclab - I'm sure you will be fine but after the test you should have closure on the issue and accept the outcome

blissa - legoland sounds ace! Well done on tesco - you seem to ace it there now!

Yommy - so pleased the hen night went well - can we see pics !?

Hello to kildare, lola and armadillo.

I had bad day today - bro and his gf came before I went to work - they were due at 11am but were nearl an hour late and I had to leave to go to work at 1pm so was reall anxious about it - lightheaded, couldn't eat any lunch and just felt 'heavy'. Had a couple of lightheaded moments at work too and just wanted to go home
Feeling a lot better after a bath and rest and a good meal as well. Had a few edgy days recently - probs pmt as well so am riding it out with my evening primrose oil!! Still got the credit by the way - couldn't find anything else I fancied. Get another £100 added to that a week on Fri so can get a couple of day dresses I think.
xxxx

Aw piggy sorry you had a bad day
You are doing really well to cope with a new job and anxiety.

Now you need to focus on spending all that lovely credit

Thanks pelvic - I know it is an achievement to get through every day and it's a damn sight better than my last attempt at a pt job - did about a week and couldn't cope and just didn't turn up and sent them a letter saying I wouldn't be going back .

Hi everyone, could i join you on this thread? Ive name changed (was maybebaby23) it has really helped me to read the posts about others being light-headed!! I feel im finally getting there with my anxiety but the light headed feeling is keeping the panic going.

Typically DD2 is awake now so have to go but will catch up with this thread later!