You can do it!! (Jane Fonda style motivation thread!!)

[QueenFlounce]

Following on from the massive "Going to have a good week" thread...

Sax - Calling your boy a "Stupid child" is NOT an example of a complete failure as a parent! I'm sure many many Mums here will admit to doing that even without a hint of depression! THEY ARE STRESSFUL! Especially with everything else you have to put up with.

I can't comment on the drinking coz I know I drink FAR too much..... I hide behind the "But I'm Scottish!" excuse alllllll the time.

HOWEVER, what I will say is that if drinking makes you feel even more low then its something you need to reconsider as a way to unwind and de-stress..... coz it's not working if you just feel shittier.

Come on, its Friday night... we're all drinking... lets have a bit of escapism from reality for a while and step back.

This is bad moment..... it doesn't mean tomorrow will be awful... or that your children will never forgive you for saying that. It just means that by the end of today you felt really stressed.

As for the work thing. Bringing up 3 young children, one with a condition that makes him even more hard work is you contributing to your family! Debts can be paid off when you feel stronger..... as long as they are not spiralling out of control then a couple of months is not going to make that much difference, is it?

Remember.... UMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM I aaaaaaaamm caaaaaaaaaaaaaalm.

Found it!

Turn up for the books...Bestest buddy just called to see if i wanted to go shopping with her tomorrow and do a spot of lunch, so I said i'd check with DH, who was with her at the time, so she put him on and he said he'd be fine with them both and happy to do a solid feed as well....gosh, it must be the drink talking...horrah for beer may he drink more and promise me everything I ask for.....

I must away to bed...make the most of double bed to myself and the fact boys seem settled.

Gonna watch An Affair to Remember that DH bought me for valentines...tissues at the ready me thinks "why can't DH love me like that...boo hoo, sob, sob, sniffle sniffle."

Night all, Sax hang in there, QF stay the inspiration sax needs, babynovice keep smiling, and everyone else SLEEP WELL!

QF

do you have msn - urgent

sorry guys

Good you're here
How are you doing?

Sax? I'm worried about you girl...if you're still around let me know - you don't have to talk or anything if you don't want to. I'll be here for a wee while longer.

Just spoke to her on mn

not good

msn sorry

Oh no, I had a bad feeling. So long as she has you or someone else to confide in....I hope all is going to be OK?

do you have msn BN?

Sorry HH I must be a bit thick I'm not sure what you mean

thats a no then!!!

chat program, private

cant talk on here

Don't stress Huggy, I'm OK!

No problem I understand. If you're speaking to Sax let her know I'm thinking about her.

Sax, hope you are OK. Tonight has obviously been a nightmare for you I'm about to go to my bed but I'll catch up with you tomorrow....take it easy and take care.

I'm seriously fine, thanks for your concern, I hope you are OK - are you babynovice???

Wish I could sleep though without my mind racing and racing and racing along - it would be so much easier if I could just switch off the power momentarily, just for a while to recharge the batteries and then face it all in a different light. Silly moo, I think far too much, take life far too seriously and basically need to lighten up!!! Easy to write, easy to say, more difficult to actually do! Sorry I was in a stew and thank you Huggy for chatting to me.

I'm such a hypocrite, I don't practise anything I preach, I am a fraud really who talks shit, becasue if I did what i tell others to do, I wouldn't feel so damned alone and out of control.

OH dear, I think I made a complete horses arse out of myself last night, I really need to think before I post and I need to not be so needy and annoying. I am sorry to everyone and I will try not to be so depressing - I just feel worthless and not a nice person. Sorry!

God, I wish I could delete half of what I write.......

Dh has just come in from work and really enjoyed his shift so I don't feel quite so bad now.

Right, I shan't complain again today (she says hopefully) and I will try to be all Jane Fonda like and 'yes I can do this' sort of style.

Sorry you lot, you are patient with me....

Hello
Sax you and I are definitely out of the same mould, although I think you are having a far worse time of it than I am just now...I don't pretend to know how awful you are feeling at times that would be so pretentious, but I hope you realise I know where you're coming from in alot of your thought processes.
You are a deep thinker - this can be a blessing and a curse! I am always amazed at how my dp can fall asleep at will, he can switch off just like that...he says I think too much too. My mum said to me recently that I should stop thinking about things and just do them....good advice I know and you should always listen to your mum eh
Anyway, there is absolutely no need for you to apologise - no regrets, right! If MN is your outlet to get those thoughts out of your head then go for it....if people don't want to read it or respond then they won't - simple as that. I've been thinking (oh really!) about starting a journal, something I did when I was younger and I used to find it very therapeutic, maybe that would work for you too?
How are you this morning?
BTW it's always easier to advise other people on their problems because you can be objective.

Hello babynovice, thank you, your comment are extremely appreciated. I'm not so sure about the listening to your mum bit, we think very differently and as such she irritates the hell out of me, her lack of understanding of people and how insensitive she can be.
You do sound like we think alike and therefore hopefully we can help each other along the way.
I'm OK today, everything was hightened last night to such a degree I wound myself into a complete stew!
Thank you for coming back and telling me its OK, I was starting to wonder if i'd lost all my contacts from being a tit!
I will now try and do something productive with my day (like wash the car, hoover it and take the boys out) and stop the mind working overtime. No doubt I'll be back later - but hopefully remaining CCCCCCAAAAAAAAAALLLLLLLLMMMMM!

Hiya Im glad to hear things are OK this morning. I'm sure we will be able to help each other along, and I don't think you're going to lose your contacts...I can see even from being on MN for just a short space of time that there are MNers that really care about you and are always looking out for you. Hold that thought
"It's gonna be a bright, bright sunshiney day"
Talk to you later.

Without moaning, or trying not to - I just wish I didn't have such a low opinion of myself. When your opinion of yourself is in the gutter - its twice as difficult to keep the family going, everyone is just getting on each others nerves! Self motivation would at least mean the family would feel more motivated. God almighty, what the hell has happened to me - I don't know who I am anymore!

Babynovice - sorry if I missed this if you've already said but in my self absorbed state I was in last night I forgot to ask if you'd told dh about your appointment? What day is it on and how are feeling about it?