You can do it!! (Jane Fonda style motivation thread!!)

[QueenFlounce]

Following on from the massive "Going to have a good week" thread...

Sax - Calling your boy a "Stupid child" is NOT an example of a complete failure as a parent! I'm sure many many Mums here will admit to doing that even without a hint of depression! THEY ARE STRESSFUL! Especially with everything else you have to put up with.

I can't comment on the drinking coz I know I drink FAR too much..... I hide behind the "But I'm Scottish!" excuse alllllll the time.

HOWEVER, what I will say is that if drinking makes you feel even more low then its something you need to reconsider as a way to unwind and de-stress..... coz it's not working if you just feel shittier.

Come on, its Friday night... we're all drinking... lets have a bit of escapism from reality for a while and step back.

This is bad moment..... it doesn't mean tomorrow will be awful... or that your children will never forgive you for saying that. It just means that by the end of today you felt really stressed.

As for the work thing. Bringing up 3 young children, one with a condition that makes him even more hard work is you contributing to your family! Debts can be paid off when you feel stronger..... as long as they are not spiralling out of control then a couple of months is not going to make that much difference, is it?

Remember.... UMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM I aaaaaaaamm caaaaaaaaaaaaaalm.

The calendar ploy worked and I didn't have to bring the subject up because dp noticed before I had to mention it. The appt is on Wednesday, tbh things are going ok with me just now and have been the past couple of days so I'm not bothered about the appt - in fact I'm thinking I don't really need to go......but I will go even if it means I get reassurance that I'm just going through a bad spell and it's nothing to worry about.
How was your day? Hopefully a good one?
Here's a question - when was the last time you didn't have such a low opinion of yourself?
Meeely2 - hope you enjoyed some quality me-time today and baby is on the mend

Hi babynovice - you absolutely must keep that appointment - I do hope you wrote down how you were feeling last week, becasue thats the trouble we can kid ourselves we are OK when we are on the up, but when we plummet thats when it seems less sure. I'm glad you told dh about it - its not good to not have that support!
I need to think about your question - unsure of answer at the moment. Glad you popped in, good to hear from you, hope your day was Ok, you didn't say!

Hi Sax, I will keep the appt I promise. It's just strange when you have a few good days when everything is ok and you start wondering if you're just being melodramatic about the bad days. I'm hoping to have a good day when I do go for the appt so I can make the most of it, I haven't physically written anything down yet but I have been rehearsing what I'm going to say in my head, so I have given it quite a bit of thought.
I had a really good day, weekends usually are good because dp is with me and he helps with dd loads. We all went for a lovely long walk in the sunshine, dp and me chatting, dd good as gold, nice
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts on my question....I agree it's a tough one, but hey we all need to tax our brains from time to time.
Bye for now.

this is suppose to be the 'we can do it' thread so I can't snap on here, but thats what I feel like doing right now - do I bottle up, do I start another thread or what - I don't know what to do, my family feels at breaking point! I am so miserable. I don't know how we are going to get through all this - sorry, I said I wasn't going to moan, but it is how I feel and I don't know where to turn. [sorry]

BTW BN - in answer to your question - I have been thinking and in all honesty I don't remember, that makes me very sad but I haven't stopped to think about me in a long time . This is why its all crept up on me I think and now I can't handle it!

My yoyo (feelings analogy) has stopped at the bottom and won't bounce back up iykwim! I need to walk away from this now, I am far too anxious - will come back later.

Sorry Sax I feel responsible for making you think about stuff you would rather not . I hope your day improved...mine wasn't brilliant and I'm not really in the mood to elaborate...just popped in to see how you were doing. Maybe I'll catch you tomorrow.

Please don't appologise Babynovice, i'm really sorry your day wasn't very good. Are you sure you don't want to say any more?

Does it have anything to do with dreading your week ahead? I hope I'm not pressing you too much but I'm here if and when you want to chat!

I am so sorry folks. I'm at work now.... but my home PC died on Friday!!!!!!!!!

Sax are you OK?

Hello! Welcome back QueenFlounce, I thought maybe your Friday night session had turned into a weekender
Sax, sorry I missed you last night, didn't think there was anyone around so went to bed - lack of sleep always makes things seem ten times worse and I was just done in. You're right about dreading the week ahead though, I count the days until the weekend and as the week doesn't have have many defining features to feel good about, Mondays are quite often the worst....have already come close to losing it a wee bit this morning but managed to compose myself. Of course I do have the appt on Wednesday and at the moment I'm looking forward to it- sure it will be a different story on Wednesday morning though!
How are you doing today? BTW do you have to go back to your GP to assess how the ADs are going or do you see anyone else like HV, nurse or counsellor?

Babynovice - Do you know why Happyhuggy was looking for me urgently on Friday?? I'm worried.

I'm guessing that HH was trying to contact you because Sax was having a terrible night on Friday. I think I might have seen a bump for you by HH this morning too (?)

Oops sorry it was batters bumping for you and HH

Thanks BN. How are you?

I'm fine thanks, bit bobbly earlier but thankfully dd went down for a sleep in the nick of time! How are you? Good weekend? If you're thinking of getting a new PC, we got a good deal from Dell.

Oh my weekend was ok. Not fab... but ok.

I thought about Dell... how much was yours???

Have just dug out the Dell invoice - Dimension 3000 system (not an IT person so can't really comment on how good /bad/indifferent that is) if you want to look it up on their website - cost us 500 plus a few pennies but we had to get an extra couple of things added that we didn't have that you might already have e.g. speakers, modem.
I thought the weather had a lot to be responsible for yesterday, how muggy was it?! Horrible! And dd didn't like it one bit either.

morning chaps, Babynovice, I think you have a slightly different problem to me, you dread the weeks, I dread the days with dh being home! Anyway, sorry you've not off to a very good start, probably worrying about your week ahead as you say - have you looked into any mother and toddler groups in your area? Finding out about them doesn't commit you to going remember! I know you may not feel strong enough to actually take that step to going yet but it can't hurt to look into whats around??

Queenflounce, I'm glad you've come back to us. It wasn't a good weekend, sorry I'm not being very Jane Fonda like am I. I don't have to discuss things on here if you want it to continue in the positive vein, I'm just not quite up to doing that yet - kids are pushing us to our very limits.

Everyone always disappears when I come on - think I'm a bit much for all to handle.

Sax - I'm sorry, I am here.... just my Dad being a prat.
Your not too much too handle!!!!

And this thread is for whatever you want.... doesn't have to be just for the positive... I'm just happy when you are 'talking' and not letting it build up inside.

It is building again, I just don't know what to say anymore! Its all a mess - I have tried Huggy's answer of the Samaritans but that doesn't work cos I won't ring them and when you email they don't get back to you for ages so thats a no go - just not sure where to turn!

Sax, are you on ADs? I couldn't live (and I'm actually being quite literal here) without my Zoloft. Even with it, it took about a year for me to feel back to myself again. Depression is a horrible, horrible thing. But, you can climb out of the hole, it's just hard to imagine when you are in the midst of it.

I started them about 4 weeks ago (citalopram only 20mg) which have reduced the anxiety attacks and make me feel a little calmer most of the time - I still just can't sort my head out!

Sax - Stay here!