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going to have a 'good' week

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Sax · 06/06/2005 09:58

Hope to be around a bit this week but on the onwards and upwards line not the low and sad one. Decided to take a positive attitude starting now and hope not to disappoint myself. i should be here if anyone needs an ear! Have a good week everyone......

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Sax · 06/06/2005 22:15

Mmmmmm easier said than done isn't this 'positive thinking bit' - got wine now so trying to stay on the up................not easy though

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Sax · 06/06/2005 23:30

I think I'll answer myself and say, how about another drink Sax, oh yes please another would be nice, thank you!!!!!!! more wine, oh yes...................losing the plot perhaps????? You decide!!!!

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Sax · 06/06/2005 23:46
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Sax · 07/06/2005 00:23

New day tomorrow I guess..... lets try again eh! Amazing what a bit of sleep will do to shed new light on a situation.

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assumedname · 07/06/2005 00:33

Hello Sax, if you're still around.

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Sax · 07/06/2005 10:22

Thanks for replying assumedname, thought no one around so went to bed, cheers though!

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assumedname · 07/06/2005 11:04

How are you today? I've got off to a bad start - didn't wake up till 8.35 . Finally got to school at 10.15. Oops!

gossifer · 07/06/2005 11:37

hello there sax, sorry, bit of turmoil family wise last night mixed in with my banging head, not good! you'll be glad to know i still have the flu, yippee!
how are you doing? is it a gorgeous day there too?

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Sax · 07/06/2005 11:48

its not really working the positive thinking bit, even more difficult when had huge argument with dh this morning, bad start!!!!!

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Sax · 07/06/2005 11:51

Hey goss of course i'm not glad to hear you've still got flu, thats really horrid for you!
Whoops assumedname, bit late eh, we were late for nursery but I didn't give a shit today!

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gossifer · 07/06/2005 11:59

i'm sorry about your argument this morning, has it been resolved?
now, you are gonna have a good week, remember how you felt yesterday morning when you started this thread!!!!!!
i know i have no idea how hard things are for you but sometimes things are good and we have to focus on those times, big cuddles from me an ds
(being sarky about my flu, so p**d off its gone on so long)

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Sax · 07/06/2005 12:04

Sort of resolved for now but dh is so stressed as well, doesn't make for happy household - he's unaware I'm on the tabs so doesn't really know how i'm feeling!
I know what i said yesturday, but days are long and hard and finding the keeping on the up too difficult at times......I am trying so hard but its just not working...

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gossifer · 07/06/2005 12:10

oh sweetheart, i feel for you, is there anyone who can take your 2(i'm assuming ds1 is at nursery?) for even an hour so you can have a bit of time to yourself? go and have a walk in the park in the sunshine or a glass of wine or a bit of window shopping? do you have someone to talk to? (tell me if i'm prying)
i haven't actually read your other thread because i thought it would be better to be there for you on your happy thread rather than bring up other things, xxxx

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Sax · 07/06/2005 12:16

Dh has gone to pick up ds1 from nursery then we are going out to get out and try and enjoy a family day! - he just has no idea and its hard but I just cannot tell him cos I can't talk about my feelings - I do have an amazing friend i email like the whole time but I feel so crap to put on others, should be working this out on my own.

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assumedname · 07/06/2005 12:20

Life is hard when you've got little kids. Do something for yourself every day - no matter how small, it could help lift your spirits.

I'm thinking - cup of coffee and a chance to read a magazine in peace; bath; watch your favourite TV programme.

Rope in your mum/mil whoever to give you half an hour's break (or more!).

assumedname · 07/06/2005 12:21

Enjoy your family day. It's lovely and sunny here, hope it is for you too.

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Sax · 07/06/2005 12:23

Thats the problem actually, there isn't anyone to lean on to take the boys off my hands for a while, that probably would really help but struggling along on my own, except today as I said dh is home but not good if not getting on eh!

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gossifer · 07/06/2005 12:24

it's not crap to share your problems with others! that's what friends are for and its what makes the world go round! i'm sure your friend is more than happy to help you &t you'd be there for her?
there is no reason in the world why you should work this out on your own! have you thought about writing to your DH? sometimes when you write you get everything down that you want to say and how you want to say it, when your upset or emotional and you try to explain something to someone in a convo it comes out all wrong and you miss half of it out
xxxxxx

Lonelymum · 07/06/2005 12:24

Sax I don't know what your problems are either, but I do strongly believe that half the time we only suffer depression because we are unable to share our problems around with friends and family. I think society is not what it is and that is why people sit at home quietly suffering, not even telling their own partners how they feel (not a dig at you BTW). If you have a friend who you can lean on, or if you feel better off-loading on Mumsnet, then do it and don't feel guilty for doing so. On Mumsnet especially, I find, if people don't want to help you, they just won't reply, so any answers you get are from people who don't mind taking on your burden for a bit.

Hope your day out gives you a bit of a break. The weather is lovely and a change is good as a rest, as they say.

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Sax · 07/06/2005 12:28

Funny you should say write cos that is what I did for the dr. I just couldn't make the appoint and discuss in person so i wrote it down and she rang me and told me to go in! I would never have opened up to her and now have clammed up again cos don't seem to be able to express things out loud.
I don't want my dh to have me to worry about as well as what he has to deal with. Our situation isn't going to change right now so I just have to get on with things and try to deal with them as best I can........

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Lonelymum · 07/06/2005 12:30

I agree with all you say, but don't feel getting on with it as best you can is the same as getting on with it without support from friends. If they are there, use them, I say. You would do the same for them I presume.

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Sax · 07/06/2005 12:38

Half the time I DON'T know how I feel - I cannot always put it into words, I had no idea recently I was sinking so low, it took me quite by suprise so it was scary to suddenly be getting panic attacks and being so unsure about everything. I so want to be on top form again - need to pull myself up and stop feel so sorry for myself, its pretty pathetic I feel.

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gossifer · 07/06/2005 12:38

sax, i'm here if you ever want to talk, and i hope you have a lovely day out, will be thinking of you, xxxxxx

gossifer · 07/06/2005 12:40

you are not pathetic!!!!! and there is nothing wrong ith feeling sorry for oneself, please give yourself a break! going back to what assumedmum said, even half an hour a day to yourself xxxxx

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Sax · 07/06/2005 12:48

Thanks goss, I really shouldn't ruin this positive thinking thread - so going to try and have a good day with the boys and dh and will feel a little less later hopefully - as I said before onwards and upwards and pull yourself together Sax!!!!!!! Thank you so much for replies, ds3 now crying so must get on......

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