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I'm so so sorry

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essbee · 09/03/2005 02:09

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essbee · 11/03/2005 22:35

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unicorn · 11/03/2005 22:39

try and get some sleep too then!
glad you are with us (in all senses! virtual and Rl)

Got to watch end of Fame academy now..

mummytosteven · 11/03/2005 22:48

get a bath and bed. you need to hold you head up high and say I AM A FAB MUM WHO WANTS THE BEST FOR HER CHILDREN, AND HAVE THE PATIENCE OF A SAINT!

as honestly, that's what I think of you.

Whatever STDT thought was causing DS problems, if he was doing his job properly he should have been pulling his finger out to SOLVE them.

katierocket · 12/03/2005 06:50

morning essbee - did you have a good sleep?

tigermoth · 12/03/2005 07:41

What a patronising load of twaddle from the cahms 'expert'! I am so cross you are being fobbed off like this.

Hurrah for your ds's teacher and headteacher. They know your ds far better than this 'expert'. As they're experienced teachers, they must have had dealings with Cahms in the past, and know what sort of help they can give. So if they think this Cahms expert was in the wrong, believe them! Not only are the teachers on your side, they seem to be actively getting involved to help you. When the head has her phone appointment with Cahms on Monday, I hope she tells them words are not enough, you and your ds need proper support.

Glad to see your parents were helping with the bedtime routine etc. I hope their recent hands on experience with childcare has made them appreciate just what you've had to do.

iota · 12/03/2005 08:28

morning essbee
sorry to hear that the STDT wasn't helpful.
hope today is a better day for you

SoupDragon · 12/03/2005 08:32

don't sink, get angry.

Spacecadet · 12/03/2005 09:28

Essbee, read your other thread with sadness and concern but couldnt think of anything to write, firstly please dont apologise for what you did, you felt desperate and were not thinking rationally, depression is a very cruel illness as it affects an unseen part of our body and therefore it is easy to cover up or for others to ignore it. Our brains are very powerful and complex and cant work correcly if the sensitive balance of chemicals is"out". its not your fault you felt the way you did,I have been to that place and its hard to function when you feel that your mind is letting you down . I know the feeling of craving the calm, you did what you did because you couldnt bear to feel the way you did anymore. When I worked within the mental health services I worked with many people who had attempted suicide, and they always said the same thing, " I only did it because I couldnt bear to feel like this anymore" Its a bit like walking around with a broken arm that wont get better, the pain gets worse and worse.I do hope that maybe now you can start to move forward and that recovery is waiting for you, it wont be an overnight thing, but i beleive you will get there, if you ever feel that way again, which I hope you wont, please ring someone or even text them, you were fantastic when I was feeling that I couldnt go on and I wont forget it, the world is a nicer place with you in it.

Katemum · 12/03/2005 09:40

Essbee I hope you had a lovely nights sleep and STDT got his pencils stuck up his backside

Spacecadet · 12/03/2005 10:08

BTW I would have snatched stdt's pencil from him and pencilled a large T W A T and said, can you tell what it is yet? this is you!..touche!

essbee · 12/03/2005 10:36

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MunchedTooManyMarsLady · 12/03/2005 10:52

morning honey. Have a wonderful time at Anorak's tonight. Thinking of you today.

melsy · 12/03/2005 11:02

Morning essbee, just reading about stdt, what is it with some people in these positions , why do they get so matter of fact when they know how emotive all this is. Absolutely no sensitivity in some men. They forget they are talking to a human being. Is there someone higher or alongside himn you can talk too , I did this when my HV was driving me nuts and got her changed. Thanfully you have teacher rooting for you, she is your weapon !!

Spacecadet · 12/03/2005 21:16

Glad you have asmile on your face,it is a good idea to get out, hope you enjoy your evening.

SenoraPostrophe · 12/03/2005 21:24

Essbee - I missed this thread. Not got anything to add except to say that everyone else is right.

hoorah for lou & Soupy!

sansouci · 12/03/2005 22:03

So happy to see you posting, essbee! I've been thinking about you a lot & wondering if I could help you, even if it's just to make you LOL, the way you helped me! I've been through something like what you've just been through & it's hard to come back, IYSWIM. I'm here if you want to talk, privately if you prefer.

Hugs xxxxx

unicorn · 12/03/2005 22:32

Hope your weekend is going well essbee.

Do you do any exercise? (bizarre question!!)

Only today I did a 'power walk' it was such a lovely crisp, cold, clear morning, I really wished you could be there experiencing it.

I recommend finding some time to walk/swim/run/whatever, as in a small way it really can help.

Hoping things are improving for you - you are doing really well, remember that.
xxx
btw..
did you know that STDT (commercially known as 'tosser')
is now being manufactured as a best selling doll(with a real pencil in hand)and is available from all good Camhs!

mmmmchocolate · 12/03/2005 22:44

Hi essbee,

Not sure if i have spoken to you as i am fairly new to nm but know your name and have always found you helpful and friendly. Just rwally wanted to say that it is lovely to see you posting again and glad you are feeling better. And as they say 'the only way is up' now so chin up xxxx

anorak · 13/03/2005 13:00

Hello lovely mumsnetters. Essbee went off in the direction of home about an hour ago.

We had a good time, had a lovely big dinner last night then went down to the village social club with all the children. They had live music on. Then we came back and talked and I used my fabulous electric massage machine on essbee's back which made her go all floppy .

This morning we lolled about in nightshirts for a while and I took essbee's ds into my workshop for some cardmaking tips as we are encouraging him to have a go.

Essbee's ds was a little angel the whole weekend, bless him

By the way I agree with unicorn, it's a fact that exercise makes people feel happier.

Spacecadet · 13/03/2005 14:10

It is def true that exercise makes you feel better, some gps prescribe depressed patients gym courses before resorting to ads as exercise boosts the production of endorphins, the feel good hormones, which in turn boosts serotonin production.

iota · 13/03/2005 14:37

Thanks for the update Anorak. Glad you all had a good time.

winnie · 13/03/2005 16:24

Essbee, I missed this thread. Just wanted to say I am thinking of you. Winniex

katierocket · 13/03/2005 19:55

ooo Anorak that sounds like a lovely weekend, can I come and stay?
glad you had a good time essbee, will be thinking of you this week. What do you have planned?

lunavix · 13/03/2005 20:01

Anorak - can we all come and stay?

Sounds much more lovely than my weekend!

Dior · 13/03/2005 20:08

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