General support thread 3

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome x

Thats great to hear. I have had a stressful week and not quite felt myself for around a month and lost my temper a couple of times. But I am getting stuff done, and not feeling too bad overall. In considering going to the GP for my mental health allthough I can't quite put my finger on how I'm not quite feeling myself. Maybe I'm depressed... maybe not. I'd like to get some councilling as there's some issues I'd like to talk through around relationships and parenting etc. just got to decide if it's worth my time and effort.

Have you got a decent doctor who will listen and try to help @2in2022twoyearson

I haven't been to GP for a while. I get a different Dr each time I go. They seem ok, but I don't have a rapport with them. Had an annual health check with bloods etc recently and Dr asked how was my mental health. I said fine at the time.

I've never gott on with anti depressants
I can feel them zombie me after a couple of hours of taking them
I do have propropnal which I take as and when
It keeps the work from the door ,
Do you have a mental health worker attached to your surgery...we have one we can ask to have 30 mins with on a call
Would that help

Wolf not work

I work for the NHS and they have lots of wellbeing services I've had better experience with than my GP. But I think go should be first point of call....I drafted an email to the wellbeing team then read their blurb on the forms, resources available and other services available with a likely shorter waiting list and felt overwhelmed and chickened out got on with the many other demands on my time.

Do you know what has been great this past year or so... A guided 'focus journal' called '5 minutes in the morning' from tkmaxx. I've got to the point where I've defined my core values as inner peace, community, service, fun/adventure and wisdom.

That sounds interesting ..
I'm glad you found something that helps

Hi all, im sorry I've been absent. I got a new phone and lost all my passwords. Hope you don't mind me coming on for some support. Im really struggling with something again atm and could use some none judgemental advice x

Hope your ok
Happy to try to help ,if your able to talk about it

Hi all, im sorry I've been absent. I got a new phone and lost all my passwords. Hope you don't mind me coming on for some support. Im really struggling with something again atm and could use some none judgemental advice x

Sorry im not sure why it posted twice. We had our darling dog pts. It'll be 2 years in December. Im wracked with guilt blaming myself for accidentally (potentially) causing what happened. I can't shift it and I feel sick x

I'm sorry,that will of been very hard to cope with .
I'm sure your dog loved you ,and will not want you to be feeling like this

Thank you. We absolutely adored each other. He basically suffered with eye issues all his life (bad breeding, bull dog) had several operations, lost 1 eye and developed glaucoma again in his good eye. This needed to be removed. We decided an extra large dog with no eyes and an autistic 3 year old at the time was not going to work for anyone and would have been very unfair. I just can't shake the feeling that I may have caused it if I tugged his lead too hard or he needed treatment we didn't realise etc im tearing myself up

No you didn't cause it , of course you didn't
Every thing has to die of something,and that's just what he died of .
Can you try to think of all the happy times you had together and tell yourself what a wonderful owner you were keeping him happy and giving him a good quality of life

Thank you for this it means a lot! He had an amazing life but I did let things lapse. Having a non verbal autistic child and working took a lot out of me. His cysts weren't bathed like they should have been, he was overdue a bath and then I found something on Google today saying pulling a lead too tight can worsen glaucoma and I remember an occasion a couple of weeks before he passed where this happened so now my ocd is kicking back in and telling me it was all my fault. This happened after he passed and I've been ok for months but now I feel im back to square 1! If it was my fault it was of course accidental i loved that bloody dog! But I can't shift this feeling. Your message helped thank you

Your love for him ,is sending your thoughts in to overdrive
If you didn't love him so much ,this wouldn't be happening
But it's time to be kind to yourself,and acknowledge you did the best you could in the circumstances you found yourself in .
None of us can do more than that xx

No truer words written. I gave him my best at that time. My best now would be better. Guilt is a horrid feeling. Thank you for listening and responding to me x

Your welcome 🤗

Are you going to get another bulldog at some point ,or is it to difficult with an autistic 4 year old
They are a wonderful breed of dog .. probably my favourite,hence my user name

I noticed your username :) honestly I can't. It broke my so much to lose my boy and to still feel like this almost 2 years on I couldn't do it again. No other dog would be like him either he was one of a kind. Plus I couldn't do the puppy stage with my ds and couldn't rescue either because I have ds. They are such amazing dogs though. Do you have one now?

Hope it is OK to jump on this post ....

I am facing quite a transition ( both kids go to uni this month ) which I am dreading. I worry about them but do not want to pass this on to them and hide it well.

I am in 2 minds about re-locating too but so uncertain. This would take me further from where kids are . My work is hybrid but coudl be totally remote.
I like the sociability of the office but get distracted too!
I have only a few friends and the ex h where I currently live !

I feel drained at the moment too - went to donate blood yesterday and was rejected as anaemic and trying to get the docs to prescribe me some iron.
My sleep is poor at the moment - fall asleep but wake several times (no reason) magnesium does not really help.
I am forcing myself to exercise as this helps me . I take AD meds and these keep my emotions stable . I take HRT too - 44 and covering all bases.

SO many decisions which seem overwhelming . Just needed to offload really :(

Hi and welcome!

I hate others are suffering too but hopefully the loveliness of this thread helps. It certainly helped me yesterday.

Do you DC reside at uni? Sounds like you're concerned about the loneliness this brings. Would you still feel lonely if you relocated?

I live with DH and DS but still get lonely. Maybe going in the office more would help? That's my plan.

Hi welcome. I was discovered to be animic after diagnosed with depression when pregnant and it really makes everything feel worse when drained. Good luck sorting out your iron levels. I've felt animic since but blood tests have been normal. Also there is a level where your slightly animic and don't need treatment but aren't allowed to give blood. I did look up and menstrationg women recommended iron levels are very high and hard to reach if your not eating much meat. Maybe an over the counter iron supplement would help.

I find indecion difficult. Like you, we've considered/considering moving as a family, also whether to have a 3rd baby.

Thank you
Yes , I’m vegetarian so have been anaemia before . I bought some iron from the pharmacy so will hopefully work soon .
Yes , I’ve been rejected from donating before due to iron levels . Yeah they set them at a level so gou aren’t depleted after the donation .
i haven’t had a period in months as on mirena