General support thread - come on in

[Kielyflower]

I couldn’t see a recent one of these so thought I’d start one.

I just feel I need to do something positive so will hopefully share some more thoughts later that I hope will help - others as well as myself.

In the meantime, feel free to check in as, if nothing else, it helps to feel less alone.

Thank you Kielyflower.
Absolutely agree xx

How is everyone doing?

On one hand I feel a bit of relief that Christmas and New Year are done but am also feeling apprehensive about the future too.

I am trying to be grateful for the good things but sometimes I just want to curl up and disappear. The morning dread is especially horrible.

I think I will task myself with writing down some positive things - maybe some hopes and plans, maybe things to be grateful for and maybe just some ranting too.

Journalling is not something I naturally turn to or connect with but I think it might be worth a try. Does anyone else here do journaling or writing type therapy?

@Kielyflower journalling sounds good! I did used to use homemade ones with trackers for different things. I used to enjoy designing them and there are so many lovely patterns and inspiration pages online. I think I also bought some lovely stationary to go with and used those colourful patterned paper tape reels. Any good project needs new stationary I say!

sorry I’ve not posted in a couple of days. My mental health is slipping I think. Maybe the weather !

Hi, can I join? No diagnosis but really struggling with low mood and insomnia. I think perimenopause but can't take HRT for various reasons. Swing between considering GP appointment and just trying to get on with it. Christmas has been busy and sociable but I'm one of the ones mentioned further up thread desperately putting a brave face on (and regularly disappearing for a quick sob). I feel utterly flat and hopeless. Hoping back to work and school routine tomorrow will provide a distraction.

@Thewolvesarerunningagain thank you for the message. Please never apologise for not posting! We don’t need to feel any more guilt or obligation or whatever than we already do.

Sorry to hear that you think your mental health may be slipping, the weather has been awful and I’m convinced is a factor in my mental health. But also it’s just harder to get out for fresh air or exercise or even other things if it’s wet all the time. So go easy on yourself and I hope the forecast is better where you are for the coming days.

Is your mental health mainly low mood or anxiety or both or other things? Mine is all of it really with different things taking centre stage on different days, it’s so exhausting.

Hi and welcome @NoKnickerElastic sorry to hear things are a struggle, you’re very much not alone. Have you felt like this at other times in your life or is this a new ish thing for you?

I hope today goes well - let us know how you get on and do seek refuge here for support.

I’m grateful to have this thread as a bit of an outlet and a handhold.

Can I join too please? I’m finding it really hard to motivate myself / get back into a routine and feeling very tired and anxious at the moment. I’m on Sertraline but also waiting for an adhd assessment so a few things going on

@Jk24 that sounds really tough. So sorry to hear about your dog. You did the best you could for him by ensuring he didn’t continue to suffer

Sorry to hear you're having a rough time too. Is there anything imparticular you're struggling with?

@keilyflower Thank you. I have felt like this on and off some time. I can usually keep a lid on it with lots of time alone but at the moment just can't stop crying. Feels more than usual. I know my DH is worried and wants to help but I just keep tearfully saying I'm ok. I'm obviously not ok! Sorry to hear everyone else's struggles, I've not used a thread like this before and it's comforting to know it's here.

@TheBuggerlugs thank you so much! I'm really trying to focus on the positives but my ocd doesn't let me most the time! I'm just heartbroken and need to mend. How are you?

@NoKnickerElastic I'm sorry to hear you're struggling too. This thread is already helping me in just the last few hours. Anything you want to get off your chest?

@Jk24 there's probably a lot I could get off my chest but if I start offloading I might never stop!! I have loads of stuff on my mind that usually I find manageable (stressful period at work, DD17 going through a tough time just 2 examples) but I can't seem to cope with anything at the moment. I feel on the verge of tears all day every day and I do wonder how much is down to insomnia.

Hi and welcome @Jk24 I’m so sorry about your dog. I have lost pets before and it’s horrible. Wise words from others about being kind to yourself.

@NoKnickerElastic I might be off the market here but if time alone usually helps you can you take yourself off for a few hours or even a night at the weekend? Do something for you and that makes you feel good?

Whilst it would be great if no one needed this thread or indeed the entire board, I’m glad that those in need have found it and we can do what we can to support each other here.

Sending positive vibes all round x

Sorry for the confusion I've removed some of my posts as they were very outing. I'm struggled with the guilt and this is what I need to move on from!

Argh sleep deprivation... I'm not opposed to this myself having a 3 year old with asd that is literally up for hours a night.... its torture isn't it!

@Kielyflower thank you for this thread!

How is everyone doing? X

Hey jk, I was just thinking about this thread too, thanks for checking in.

I have actually had a reasonable couple of days. Admittedly have had wobbles during that time. Am still a way from where I’d like to get to but am glad to have had of a bit of relief.

How are you?

Hey @Kielyflower that's great to hear! Is there anything you've done differently?

I'm really not good this is literally the lowest point of my life.

Oh I’m so sorry @Jk24 . It’s so hideous when things get really bad. Are you on an medication?

I don’t think it’s always the answer (I wish I didn’t take it) but I think part of my vague improvement is probably medication finally working a bit.

Also, I have been reading some more from various self books I have.

And today it has helped to be outdoors when the sun was out.

Lastly, I made a decision about something that has been niggling me for months.

I don’t think I’m out of the woods but I feel more hopeful about the future and a bit more motivated.

One of the things I have learnt is to try to do things even if I don’t feel like it.

Is it thoughts about your dog etc that is playing on your mind or a mixture of things?