Recovering from breakdown

[EmmaEmerald]

Does anyone have any experience of this?
I thought I'd had a nervous breakdown in my 20s but carried on working. This time I'm knocked out. I got up at 8 and need a nap already!

Welcome @MontezumasPuma and@Notsleepingbutscrolling
I hope you are both getting support.
I really recognise trying to change things to try and stop it happening again.

@TheBuggerlugs from my previous experience of recoveries - it's never been a straight line with recovery.
So two weeks feeling things are improving but then a week or two where you feel back to the beginning.
Eventually it all just evens out. I know how hard it is though waiting for that uk happen.

I'm sorry you have had a hard day @TheBuggerlugs. Hopefully you'll get some sleep tonight. I'm still only managing 3- 4 hours a night which I know isn't helping.

Does anyone have good tips on how to fill the days if you're not working? I'm used to being out of the house for 13 hours a day and whilst I'm off, the days feel endless. I can't find the motivation to do anything and I can't concentrate when reading.

@TheBuggerlugs try and get some rest today if you can.
Could you give it 48 hours to see how things are. You've done so amazingly to get to this point and I'm so sorry that you are having this blip. It's absolutely Sod's law that the blood come at the most inconvenient time.

@TheBuggerlugs so sorry your feeling so bad. You have so much on your plate even without the pressure of a wedding. Hang in there. Sending love. Xx

@TheBuggerlugs Sending love and strength. You will get through this, you have so many good times ahead xxx

Oh Lugs. I’m so sorry. Sending you hugs. Wish I could help you. X

How are you feeling now @TheBuggerlugs ?
I hope the crisis team were helpful for you.

Hi BuggerLugs

sorry this is happening to you. I thought about getting myself admitted somewhere at the start but don't know how it works or what to expect. I hope it goes well for you.

lots of hugs xx

@TheBuggerlugs so sorry to hear this. Are you in a crisis house or hospital? Hope you feel a bit better soon. X

BuggerLugs so is it somewhere you can have complete peace?

@TheBuggerlugs that sounds like a really good place for you just to take a step back and just breathe. Look after yourself.

TheBuggerLugs that's good.

I have gone back into a low. And then....copied and pasted from elderly parents...this happened.

News from here

Haven't seen mum in a while. She said she wanted to see me and my sister together but said it was nothing to worry about.

We arrived to find her in a terrible state due to stress. Two legal/financial problems have arrived, one of which was the cause of my recent anger as I predicted it years ago, and it's now very much looming over me.

The other is completely out of the blue and involves a foreign relative.

She feels the stress of it might kill her. It's awkward because although I am prepared to forgive, I'm not in a great state to be dealing with this stuff and my sister is notoriously crap at it, though some of that stems from not wanting to do it.

If my sister doesn't take on one of these, it will be an enormous problem for me to do it. I should have been much more aggressive with mum about the predictable one. Unfortunately mum and sis have a tendency to think these things will sort themselves out.

Whenever I told them the avalanche was coming, and I specifically said it'll probably happen when I'm ill - having had a couple of serious injuries and illness - they told me not to be silly.

The avalanche is here. I now have to save myself don't I?

Sorry BuggerLugs my head is everywhere and I wasn't clear

it's my sister. We both have Power of Attorney for mum. There's a huge problematic matter that I wanted them to deal with for years. They didn't agree it was problematic.

i think, as a person with depression and anxiety, they don't take me seriously a lot of the time. So "I should look after myself because if they didn't take me seriously, on their heads be it".

I don't do or say anything silly in normal life, no more than human being. I hold down a job and run my own life, but they seem to have me down as a drama queen. You'd think they'd have learned something after I told them lockdown would be more like two years when they believed in three weeks!

of the two issues that have arisen, I think I'm prepared to tackle the one that's come as a shock to us all. But the one I've been telling them to sort out for years till it becomes a bigger mess? Maybe they should just take the consequences of their own attitude.

BuggerLugs we have help but there isn't anything that can actually take the whole burden of an elderly parent. You can see many people in the same boat on the board here but don't look at it, it's too depressing.

it was caring for mum that caused my breakdown.

I hope you are having a calm day today. It's very sunny but breezy where I am so I'm going to have a walk. Bit groggy after 5mg diazepam but the legal matter that's come up was a shock and I need to tackle it asap. So being slightly sedated is a good idea!