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Partners OCD

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ThankYouMama · 30/04/2023 20:53

I was just wondering is anyone here in a long term relationship with someone who suffers with OCD?

If so, I just want to know how you cope.

My partner was apparently diagnosed with OCD when he was 8/9 years old he is soon to be 25. He has recently completed 10 sessions paid of therapy, he was given some coping mechanisms and they were working, but now he is back to square one.

I am finding him extremely difficult to live with, I love him dearly and I don’t want to end things with him.

I am going to list a few of his habits below

•	Constantly cleaning/looking for something to clean
•	Obsessive showering.

He will shower first thing in the morning.
If leaves the house, he’ll come back and have another shower (basically, if he goes out three times during the day, that’s three showers)
Another shower just before he gets into bed, if he wakes up in the middle of the night he will shower again, then he’ll shower again the in morning.
Every time he uses the toilet (even for number ones) he cleans the toilet and pours bleach down it.
Bedsheets have to be changed every single day.
Me and our two children can’t eat or drink anything, anywhere within the house except for the kitchen and it must be at the table.

Above is just a few things, I could literally go on all night. I have spoke to a few close friends about this; but none of them understand, I’m always met with “you’re lucky to have a man without any dirty habits”

His obsessive behaviour is really bringing me down, I don’t think he is ever going to understand that his behaviour is NOT normal.

Just to avoid conflict with him, I leave the house at 8am each morning to take my eldest son to school, and I don’t return until I’ve collected him in the evening. I don’t want to live like this anymore, and at times he can be very disrespectful towards me, and put me down.

I’m not expecting a lot of replies, but I feel a tad bit better speaking out about it.

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JessieLongleg · 03/05/2023 20:46

@ThankYouMama good luck with it.

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ThankYouMama · 03/05/2023 21:12

JessieLongleg · 03/05/2023 20:46

@ThankYouMama good luck with it.

Thanks 🤗 🍷

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ThankYouMama · 05/05/2023 17:14

Just an update

My partner has been accepted for treatment as an inpatient at the priory, hopefully it works. I am so relieved, his mother is going to look after the baby whilst he is there.

Fingers crossed it works!

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footpedal · 05/05/2023 17:57

ThankYouMama · 05/05/2023 17:14

Just an update

My partner has been accepted for treatment as an inpatient at the priory, hopefully it works. I am so relieved, his mother is going to look after the baby whilst he is there.

Fingers crossed it works!

That's good.
How do you feel about your baby going away for an indefinite period ? That's going to be tough for them I'd imagine.

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ThankYouMama · 05/05/2023 18:30

@footpedal

I'm okay with it because I wouldn't be able to manage both boys, I'll will make sure to visit him every single day. My partners parents are good with our boys, so I'm not worried about our son missing me or missing home.

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YourExcellency · 06/05/2023 22:47

So just to summarise, your partner takes three showers a day and cleans the toiler obsessively, which makes you feel in living hell and believe that this is no way to live. This is called a lack of tolerance for others. Honestly I am not sure the problem is with your DP first and foremost!

Thehouseofmarvels · 07/05/2023 19:59

@ThankYouMama Good luck and well done for seeking out help ! Do you think you'll also take the advice to start doing some volunteering when things are a bit better?

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ThankYouMama · 07/05/2023 22:04

YourExcellency · 06/05/2023 22:47

So just to summarise, your partner takes three showers a day and cleans the toiler obsessively, which makes you feel in living hell and believe that this is no way to live. This is called a lack of tolerance for others. Honestly I am not sure the problem is with your DP first and foremost!

That's only 20% of his behaviour!

You obviously haven't lived with someone with severe OCD before, so in future please don't comment.

You make yourself sound so silly.

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ThankYouMama · 07/05/2023 22:06

Thehouseofmarvels · 07/05/2023 19:59

@ThankYouMama Good luck and well done for seeking out help ! Do you think you'll also take the advice to start doing some volunteering when things are a bit better?

Hi

No, I don't think I'm going to be ready for voluntary work anytime soon.

My partner got admitted this morning, the baby is staying with his parents, my 6 year old is very upset (keeps crying, is refusing to eat, will not go to bed etc) he says it's not fair and that he wants to be with his brother and nan & granddad.

This is so stressful for me.

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pecanpie101 · 13/05/2023 21:46

Hope your week has been ok OP and your son has settled down a little.

Thehouseofmarvels · 14/05/2023 11:46

I hope so too! Are things any better?

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ThankYouMama · 15/05/2023 21:13

Hello

I just thought I'd update you all 🙂

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ThankYouMama · 15/05/2023 21:16

My partner is still at the priory, I went to visit him today and spent a few hours with him, his insight in changing, he seems a lot of happier and stable. He is a big fan of Lego so I bought a few sets of Lego to pass the time, he was very grateful.

He is under-going therapy and is taking part in groups, I am so proud of him 🙂

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ThankYouMama · 15/05/2023 21:21

pecanpie101 · 13/05/2023 21:46

Hope your week has been ok OP and your son has settled down a little.

Yes, our 6 year old son has settled down, he face times my partner/his dad everyday after school.

My partner told me to book a weekend away to DisneyLand Paris courtesy of him, so the boys, i and my partners mum will be travelling on Friday afternoon and returning back on Sunday, our 6 year old is really looking forward to it and I'm also looking forward to it also, it will be nice to have the baby with me.

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Atishoos · 17/05/2023 12:24

I watched your thread (s) earlier in the month. I'm glad to see things are progressing well. Has he agreed to take medication if necessary?

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ThankYouMama · 17/05/2023 18:21

Atishoos · 17/05/2023 12:24

I watched your thread (s) earlier in the month. I'm glad to see things are progressing well. Has he agreed to take medication if necessary?

No, he hasn't.

He is very adamant not to take medication.

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